Rejectors: Why do you keep bothering and reaching out to the person you rejected? Why do you get mad when they don’t want to be friends?

[Anonymous]

If you told them that “you don’t want a relationship”, “you don’t see them in that way”, etc. but you keep finding excuses to talk to them or reach out to them. One can make the argument that they just really want to be friends and values the friendship, but who wants to be friends with someone that badly?
Then when they don’t want to be friends, suddenly they’re an asshole who can’t handle rejection (even if they aren’t being mean or rude to you).

[Anonymous]

Well I can’t speak for everyone, I mean judging by your conversation with the other commenter it sounds like the guy who rejected you is a jerk who has no social cues when it comes to talking about his love life with someone who he knows likes him. But from my experience it’s just a hard adjustment.


I wouldn’t say I bothered or hassled the guy I rejected, but instead try maintaining the communication we already had. He was one of my best friend of many years, so when he confessed, I knew it would eventually mean giving him space so he could get over his romantic feelings for me, but it was hard to accept. It’s just a hard loss.

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

They’re trying to rub salt in the wounds.

[Asker]

Clearly… the one time where I tried to be “friends” with the guy who rejected me, it’s like he doubled down on showing me photos of women who he was interested in and gushed about his dates.

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

Just block him.

[Asker]

Trust me, I did. Then all of a sudden our friends scolded me and kept trying to convince me to talk to him.

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

Sometimes you gotta tell your friends to shut up.