If you reject a friend, do you try to hangout with them?

[Anonymous]

[jennifer_bloom]

I have three types of friends

friends I initiate contact with, such as mentors or managers,

friends that I mutually interact with,

and friends who initiate contact with me

I usually give people a chance if they try hard enough to talk to me, but if it’s mutual friend who angers me, they might become a standby contact where I ghost them for a few months or years, but not forever

[Asker]

interesting. I have to initiate contact with all of my friends or nobody will speak to me.

[Anonymous]

I may try and keep my distance a bit, now that I know they’ve grown feelings for me, I wouldn’t want my behavior or actions to be misinterpreted.

[Asker]

What if you haven't hung out in months? Would you offer to hangout if they indirectly implied that they need to hangout with somebody?

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve been in that situation in the past and it’s tricky, because while yes I want to be supportive, at what cost? Feelings that took time to grow, take time to get over as well, and reconnecting could open that door right back up. In my case I ultimately had a guy cuss me out and I had to block him. Since I’d hung out with him (he said he really needed a friend), not only did he take it as I’d changed my mind, but felt I had mixed feelings at his expense. It’s hard to know what to expect from the person and if it’s worth me looking like I led someone on when that’s not the case at all.

[Asker]

I understand... Difficult situation.

[In_Trance]

why would you do this?

[Asker]

I wouldn't. I'm trying to put myself into somebody elses shoes

[In_Trance]

ok... why would someone else do this?

[Asker]

sympathy, supportive, or change of mind