How less do you have to think of someone to do this?

[Anonymous]

Ok so in total transparency I had low self esteem even before this relationship but during this relationship I started noticing signs here and there that my then girlfriend thought she was better and I was somehow inferior the interesting part she was wasn’t a super attractive girl she was mainly average and she didn’t take care of her appearance she was overweight and didn’t care about it she lived like a slob she would eat half containers of ice cream and chip bags and would leave the trash mixed in with piles of clothes on the ground. She would pick her nose, she would fart while she was eating or someone else was eating. Like this was a complete mindfuck because someone who exhibited all this still found themselves better then me and it made me question what actual girl I can get if it’s that bad

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I was so confused after this

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I feel at some point as a bare minimum you are above her because of these choices and behaviors

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that sounds rough. No one wants to feel like their girl thinks she's better than them, that'll mess with your head for sure.

Honestly it kinda sounds like she had her own issues going on if she was acting like that. Like maybe low self-esteem of her own so she had to put you down to feel better or something. Cuz from the way you describe it, she didn't seem to have it all together herself ya know?

I wouldn't let it make you question your own worth, dude. One girl being a slob and a rude girlfriend doesn't determine your value. We've all dated people that in hindsight we're like "what was I thinking?"

Try to learn from it - like what red flags to look out for early on so you don't end up with another girl who treats you bad long term. But also don't be too hard on yourself either, we all make mistakes.

Now you know better what you do and don't want. So focus on feeling confident with yourself first before jumping into something new. And the right girl will see how awesome you are without making you feel lesser like that last one did, man. You'll bounce back, just give it time!

[Asker]

Yeah I have been rejected before but this stuck with me because of how she was she did all she did and somehow I was less then that like even with all the deficiencies I pointed out she still considered herself above me. It made me think damn I must be really low on the totum pole

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I feel you. That shit stings like nothing else when someone acts like they're better than you, even when you know they got way more flaws and issues. Puts you in your head like crazy.

Lemme tell you something though bro - that girl's opinion of you says WAY more about her than it does about you. You getting rejected by someone like THAT? Nah man, that just means she ain't right in the head. The trash took itself out, believe that.

Don't forget, we all got our insecurities. Sometimes people knock others down just to lift themselves up a little, even if they know deep down they're way less than they act. Got nothin to do with your actual worth.

Sounds like you dodged a bullet my guy! She woulda just dragged you down over time with that attitude. You're probably way better than her in all the ways that really matter anyway - how you treat people, your ambitions, your heart.

Chin up homie. A real one will see your value eventually. Till then, keep doing your thing and stay confident in who you are despite anyone tryna mess with your head. You're a catch - her bullshit opinion don't change that at all!

[CuriousHubby]

O women who feel like garbage and act like it are totally crazy! They will manipulate you and mess you up!

That is before they become crazy bosses! Imagine working for her! Yeah my boss is that crazy girl! Just a huge mess and constantly degrading all of us.

[Asker]

So if I wasn’t good enough for a girl like this what is the standard

[CuriousHubby]

There is none is the good news if she likes you well you can be her boyfriend! Just look at the pretty celebritys who date guys who are way below them!

[Asker]

But how can a guy be below that like how, how can someone be and do what she did and your still below that.