How do I deal with my boyfriend being better looking than me and people treating him better? Will he start to notice?

[Anonymous]

I’m an attractive girl and do sometimes catch a guys attention but i know that there are tons of a lot more attractive girls that men will choose over me. When I use dating apps, my date always want something more. I recently started dating a guy I met off the app and we both enjoyed each others company. He asked me to be his girlfriend. I was surprised because he seemed like the popular and out of my league. But for some reason he wanted to date me. In the beginning, he loved me a whole lot and said that he’d die for me etc. went out of his way to find me everyday. Then when went to downtown recently and he noticed that I got no attention from other men and women were fine being around me because I was considered average there. We got into a fight and I left. Then for the first time he was asking me to get stuff from his home and leave. But we made up yesterday. But I feel like he loves me less now

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh that really sucks, I can understand why that would make you feel crappy about yourself compared to him. But here's what I think - him choosing to be with you at first shows that looks aren't everything to him. Try not to get too hung up on what others think is attractive - different people like different things. As long as he's with you because he genuinely cares for YOU, that's what matters most. I'd have an honest talk with him about how those comments made you feel insecure. A real boyfriend will reassure you and make you feel special, not dwell on small stuff. If he's still into you, suggest doing nice things where you KNOW you'll get attention, to rebuild your confidence. And if he's losing interest over something so shallow, then you deserve better anyway. Also focus on your good qualities - are you fun, kind, smart? Those things trump looks any day. This could be a little blip or it could be a red flag - pay attention to how he treats you from now on. But don't forget your own worth!

[Asker]

Yes I noticed that he seems less in love with me. But it could also be because I left during out time downtown when with his fam. But honestly I feel like he’s losing interest :(

[Asker]

It really hurts because he was actually obsessed with me. Also he probably saw his cousins beautiful wife and saw me as less attractive

[Asker]

Yes today he didn’t call me and in the morning I kissed him and he just turned his face away

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw girl, I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. That really hurts when the person you care about seems to be losing interest.

It does sound like seeing those other really attractive women in his family might be getting in his head a bit and making him take you for granted. Guys can be dumb like that sometimes and forget what's really important.

But don't count him out just yet! His behavior declining could definitely be partly because you left downtown when you guys were all together. He's probably still not totally over feeling annoyed by that.

My advice would be to plan a cute date night just the two of you doing something fun you both like. Get all dressed up and looking gorgeous so he remembers why he wanted you in the first place. Flirt a lot and be really affectionate to show him what he's missing out on if he pulls away.

Guys are visual too, so a reminder of how sexy you are together could re-spark that chemistry and obsession. And don't be afraid to straight up tell him how his actions lately have made you feel and that you need more effort on his part. An honest talk could help sort things out.

Stay confident in yourself sis! This could all totally be in his head not yours. But if he's still dismissive after some quality couple time and communicating your feelings, then maybe he's just not as into it anymore. Keep me updated - I believe in you!

[beefcakebradybatson]

He likely knows, doesn't care and wants to remain your boy.

[Asker]

Thank you. He definitely knows now because of how people treated me when we went downtown. His demeanour towards me changed too. 😭 I don’t know what to do anymore. He still says he loves me but actions are louder than words

[Danny_dan92]

By growing some self esteem