My boyfriend constantly wants to see what i look like without my glasses because i think he thinks i look ugly with them on. When we first went to meet up for the first time the first thing that was to come out his mouth was that i was overdressed.
Listen. I had a boyfriend I lived with that the minute I moved in didn't like me wearing skirts or my leopard print cow girl boots. But I was so young and naive about controlling men I went and bought close and shoes he approved of. He was also six years older than me. After I changed my look for him when we'd get in an argument he would pull a part out of my car so he could leave and I couldn't.
I finally came to my senses and decided to leave him. So I waited till he went to work to have my girlfriend come get me and my stuff. And as I was packing, he came home because his boss made him shave before he comes back to work. He was so angry. He started grabbing all the stuff I bought him which I wasn't going to take anyway. He got in my face saying awful things and disconnected the phone and threw it at me. He took the cord so I couldn't call anyone. This was a time we only had pagers and not cell phones.
Thankfully I went a neighbor after he left to use their phone to call my friend to get me. I'm so thankful I got out before it got any worse. After I left a friend that knew his ex wife, she said he held a gun to her head. And then his friends at work that he thought were his friends told me he had sex with 5 other women while he was with me. He hid a woman behind his work building when I showed up unexpectedly. I had no clue.
Anyway, just be careful and pay attention if a guy doesn't like something about your appearance. He met you that way. If he wanted something different he should have moved on.
What the hell? 🤣
First of all, does he have some kind of eyeglass fetish? He fantasizes about a sexy nerdy girlfriend.
Second of all, if he had told on the first date I was overdressed, there will not be a second date. Unless of course he told you we were eating at Burger King and you arrived in an evening gown…
Last but not the least, he seems obsessed of an idea of a girlfriend but it’s not you my love. I am sorry. He sounds like a jerk.
Not meny females know this. Guys attraction is 80% visual so how his girlfriend or wife looks is extremely important to the guy. Females do not understand this because your attraction is from 40% visual and 60% feeling from the relationship and personality of the guy.
First of all that's called control second of all he should like you for liking you for who you are not for who he can try to make you be if he's trying to make you be somebody he's trying to control you manipulate you
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How did you end up becoming his girlfriend after that first time date?
He's being honest, but harsh.
You? How did you respond to his harsh honesty?
If you're not comfortable, say it to his face. Admit that maybe you're not that pleasant to see wearing those glasses, but you need it.
Do equal honesty.
But if you're unwilling to do that, why complaint while still in that relationship? I wonder how come you still end up with him after that first date.
I’m assuming you’re young and probably really good looking. No one deserves to be criticized in such a way. I would most definitely find the nearest exit and do not reenter. His behavior will only get worse trust me.
Ocassional remark is okay. But if it happens a lot then that sounds like a massive red flag.
Me personally, if the woman I love has bed hair, hasn't showered yet, groggy eyes, messy clothing. I'd still think she's hot lol
Find a real man who supports you however you choose to dress.
Any real man worth his snuff can say, babe you look beautiful whatever you wear.
Attraction should not be conditional and you deserve more!
This is Red flag behaviour from him. Sounds like he's got controlling behaviour, and is concerned about his OWN image, and how you affect it. How long have you been together?
He doesn't love you, he loves whatever version he has of you in his kind not the one that exists in reality
What makes you say that he's being picky? It sounds like he's actually going in the other direction. He seems to think you look hot as hell and wishes that you weren't so hard on yourself.
That is controlling behavior. It will only get worse. Strongly suggest you leave him and suggest he get help.
That is good actually because it shows that he really likes your facial looks and doesn't want your glasses covering up your face.
Telling you how to dress is weird. But over spending on clothes is weird too. I kinda get him on the glasses part, yoga look. Completely different, it covers a lot if the features. Im Not really into glasses myself.
Glasses isn't even a fashion apparel, it's a tool you use to see correctly
"he thinks i look ugly with glasses on" yeah why are you still calling this dude your boyfriend? answer me that. please. i'd love to know.
Over dressed he doesn’t want you to be over dressed too much clothing on he wants you to be underdressed
I do not blame a man for wanting to see a woman with her glasses off.
He just can't expect you to keep them off all the time. Because you need to be able to see!
I think he means your trying too hard to look good when he still would be attracted to you if you dressed more casual. If you like what your wearing and you don't want to change tell him.
Because he lacks courtesy and you lack awareness to know.
That’s very annoying
Leave him don’t waste your time with this prick
If the first thing he said to you was that you were overdressed, you need to dump him.
Maybe he prefers you without glasses. Not rocket science is it
Get rid of the controlling boyfriend, it will only get worse
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