My boyfriend says he doesn't care if I look good or not?

[cuteangelprincess]

My boyfriend doesn't notice small details or changes in me. He tells me he would much rather have me take no care of myself (think not dressed nicely, hair not done etc etc) than be overdressed. I always hear women say men want them to look good and they enjoy having their woman look good for them. Yet I dont get which one is right, enjoying it when your girlfriend looks good or when you dont care that much abouot her looks and what that means.(My boyfriend always tells me I look cute no matter I look nice or haven't gotten ready yet)

[Oliverlogan263]

It sounds like your boyfriend and your boyfriend have different views on this issue. Neither perspective is "right" or "wrong" - it just comes down to individual preferences. Some possibilities:

1. Your boyfriend genuinely doesn't care much about your appearance. For him, what's more important is who you are as a person, not how you look. This can be a good thing in that it shows he values you for deeper reasons.

2. He may worry that if he compliments your appearance too much, it could feed into unrealistic beauty standards or make you self-conscious. So he tries to avoid comments on your looks.

3. Some men are just not that attuned to fashion, style and beauty trends. They don't notice the "small details or changes" in appearance the way some women do.

4. Your boyfriend enjoys you for your natural, "lower maintenance" self and doesn't want you to go to extra effort just to look good for him. He values you as you are.

5. On the flip side, many women do enjoy getting compliments when they put effort into their appearance, and many men do appreciate when their partner looks good. So your desire for feedback is normal and valid.

The key is to communicate openly with your boyfriend. Explain that while you understand his perspective, getting occasional compliments when you put in effort would make you feel appreciated. See if you can find a compromise that works for both of you. Ultimately, his actions and care for you speak louder than his words on your appearance.

I hope this perspective provides some possible explanations and strategies to discuss with your boyfriend! Let me know if you have any other questions.

[cuteangelprincess]

Thank you for taking time to write such a detailed answer and for your opinion!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re very welcome

[caring__1]

He probably is more interested in the connection he feels with you than seeing you showing off for others. If he feels you're dressing to be noticed, then he'll feel you're still looking for something better. That doesn't mean he doesn't appreciate a legitimate effort on your part to take care of yourself. It means he's not comfortable with you going overboard, which he'll interpret as you saying he's not good enough. He likes how you look already and doesn't feel that fancy hair, nails, makeup or clothing can ever enhance the beauty he already sees in you. Let him enjoy what he finds enjoyable, without feeling a need to cover it up.

[sheikalana]

Your boyfriend says that probably because you still look great even when you don't dress up. I bet he would change his mind if you just let your self go and started gaining a bunch of weight, stopped caring for your hair and skin and look miserable. Never stop carrying for yourself no matter what.

[jahaims]

99% percent of what females do is for other females. Most guys don't care about your nails being done or if you are carrying a name brand bag. In fact most guys prefer for you to not have fake nails and wouldn't know a designer bag even if it were in front of us.

[Anonymous]

Id take that as a good sign.

[Anonymous]

He love u for ur slef
He dont care how u look