I honestly don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I've really liked this guy for a while now, but I screwed up my first chance and now I'm afraid he dislikes me. I was always too afraid to approach him, but then he found out so I took a chance. I was not in the room when he first found out, but he said he "wasn't interested in dating." Even so I talked to him and tried to explain, but I think I embarrassed him more than anything. I've never held interest in a guy, or even really liked one, but he's different. He seems perfect and I genuinely think I may be in love with him. I am so confused and hurt sometimes, contemplating whether or not I have another shot. I can't seem to move on, but I don't want to push him further away. I also only see him at school events and church so the windows is small. Any advice can help.

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Just to be clear, I do have romantic interest in him, but I just want some sort of relationship as we have no connection at the moment.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks. I know how scary it can be putting yourself out there, especially for the first guy you really like. But don't be too hard on yourself - you took a chance and that's still brave even if it didn't go perfectly.

It sounds like he might have been a bit embarrassed too since everything came out when you weren't around. Guys can be dumb about that stuff sometimes. Good that you talked to him though to try clearing the air.

I'd say try smiling and saying hi if you see him, but maybe give it a little time and space before going all in again. Don't stop going to your events or church, he'll see you're still being yourself. In the meantime, focus on your friends and fun activities so you're not always stressed about this guy.

Who knows, he might come around more once things aren't so awkward. Or you could end up moving on if it's really not meant to be. But don't rule it out yet either since you do see each other occasionally. Go with the flow and trust that things will work out how they're supposed to. You'll be alright!

[Anonymous]

Don’t ask him out again. He said he’s not interesting in dating right now. You need to respect his wishes.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe try being friends with him

[Anonymous]

Why they are perfect