How to get a man who doesn't realize the the may need me to commit to me?

[Anonymous]

Every man I've dated is single and older now:/ they broke up with me for, power or to feel better than me. I didn't argue and most of them came back after breaking up with me to get revenge on me or I saw them single and still looking. They don't know that they're bad but they still have money. I don't. I got fired by men who were hiding behind their careers but abusive who would pretend I did something wrong at my workplace and then go into their big jobs in finance and consulting. none of them bought me presents. Or took me on really nice dates.

I do not have the money or support of a husband.

I ran into someone that didn't help me. He is now gay and suicidal and resents me not dating him when he wouldn't even save me.

[OlderAndWiser]

It sounds lkike you have an elaborate system of rationalizations constructed in your head to blame everyone else for your failures in dating. As long as you don't take responsibility, you will continue making the same mistakes and getting the same results.

For good advice, check back with us after you decide that maybe you are at least partly at fault in having a failed dating life.

[Asker]

I didn't talk to the men I actually liked. Bad people made sure I didn't have self esteem to.. I was also recently orphaned and fatherless then. I did not believe in me and my dreams.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to date a gay man, for God's sake?

[Anonymous]

What?