I can’t find anybody?

[Anonymous]

I met guy on dating app. He was broke and didn’t take me to any date. We met like 4 times and I thought he will never find anyone cause he wasn’t tall and had pimples. But he found another girl, she’s earn good money and much kinder than me and they had sex on second date. I try to talk with new other men but I feel like they only care about sex and escape uncomfortable questions and don’t want to offer anything. I mean if I tell my problems they don’t offer any help, and find talking exciting if it’s only about sexual themes. Previous guy was the same but he found replacement for me very quick. I mean even if i can’t say I have high expectations like I want few normal dates and consistent conversations and after that i will probably have sex with them, but there are always girls that have lower standards than me and men go for them. I don’t think I can find someone in real life, and online dating making seem like it is okay for men putting no afford. But some couples actually start dating after quick sex. So I don't know what should I do. Like having no standards is the only way to find someone?

[lightbulb27]

dating can be hard and frustrating when you see others find matches. When you have parameters, it's even harder. plan on saying no 100 times and getting 100 nos.. in hopes of the one or two that says yes. Sounds like you can work on yourself... if you are talking about your problems, that's not good usually... you gotta offer something more than problems.

think of it like a formula... you gotta have vingar and oil to make a good dressing. what are you adding.

I'd go looking in some different places while you are working on being your best.

[Asker]

Of course it’s much easier to be with women that independent and earns money and don’t ask any help, just glad having good time with men. But u don’t how that men will act when women get sick or will need some help if some accidents happen in future

[lightbulb27]

true. What you want is a mature guy whom has a heart and is well trained to care. I see those in church, I'm not saying everyone is... but some. So thats one place to look, but you must look at the individual.
on 2nd date my wife broke her foot... I wasn't perfect, but took care of her for several weeks after surgery. were married now.
some guys will and some are selfish. you will be way better off being choosy so you get the character and values you require.

[Avicenna]

Don’t you have friends who know guys you can meet?

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Focus on yourself first and you'll attract a quality partner. Socialize. Travel. You'll surely find someone great, out there.

[Anonymous]

Are any of the guys you've hooked up with black guys?

[Asker]

I am still virgin 🗿🗿 and I hate black and brown men

[LiamJHayden]

Break your patterns. Take a dance class. Volunteer. Go to an art gallery. By breaking your patterns you will likely meet people different from the "same old" that have you in a rut.