How are mature adults attracted to each other?

[Anonymous]

Teens like myself think of themselves with permanent traits (e. g. I am unconfident or he is always more funny than me).

What’s the adult way of seeing a romantic partner? Do you label people less, and think everyone is capable of doing anything?

E. g., this guy’s hot but isn't confident, he’s still really attractive and his lack of confidence can be fixed.

Adults view others with permanent traits (e. g he will never be a confident person)

Adults see everyone as equally worthy

Both, depends on circumstance

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Some teens might think, just because I’m short, it makes me less worthy.

[natured]

You being a teen obviously allow the VISUALS to dominate, sooner or later you will understand that there are other things that will attract you more rather than just confidence and looks.
My man, which mind you, is a very handsome fella, got attracted to me because of the way I think, the way I act, and the way I take care of myself... the LOOKS add to it later on...
But you'll understand all of this later, my advice is : do not settle so young, keep exploring and enjoying life even til you're in your 30s
Or else you will regret it for life

[Asker]

Thanks, what do you mean by don’t settle so young?

[NamerOfStars]

I think the sign of maturity is describing people as DOING certain things, rather than BEING them.

[Asker]

Nice take, thanks!

[ForsakenQuill]

I suppose it still depends on the individual even if they're considered mature.