Dating

Should I reach out to this old crush from college or would it be a bad idea?

11 years ago, I was a freshman in college. I had a crush on a girl named Nicole. One night while we were studying, she told me that I was “husband material”, not “boyfriend material” and proceeded to date someone else for the next 2 years. He was “boyfriend material” because he was the cool guy who smoked weed and skipped class.

After they broke up, which was our junior year, we started hanging out more. She’d invite me over to her apartment and tease me. I’d try to make a move and she’d stop me.

One night, she asked me to take her to Best Buy to help her pick out a laptop. I took her and we left without buying one. As we’re in the parking lot, she’s fussing at me by calling me “not a man” and aloof because she didn’t like the way one of the workers looked at her and I didn’t see it. This escalated into a bigger fight to where after I dropped her off, we kept sending nasty text messages back n forth to each other. I didn’t see her the rest of junior year.

Senior year rolls around and I cross paths with her twice. One time, I was at a bar near campus with a couple of friends and we walked out. As we made our way back, she is walking towards us with another friend who calls out, “See Nicole! I told you he was here.” She was excited to see the 2 friends I was with, but rolled her eyes at me and just said hey. Then another time, I was going into a building as she was coming out. I held the door for her and she didn’t even say thank you.

Beyond that, there’s been no contact between us. It’s been about 7 years since I’ve seen her. I truly regret how the Best Buy incident played out. She was a cool person outside of that. My dating life has sucked and as far as I know she’s still single. Since we’re both almost 30, maybe it’s time for me to be her husband. Should I give it a go?

TL;DR: In college, I had a crush on Nicole, but she dated someone else. After a falling out, we lost touch. Now, years later, I wonder if I should reconnect and pursue her.

Should I reach out to this old crush from college or would it be a bad idea?
Post Opinion