How to let go properly when you still love them?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex were together 2 years. Earlier in the year he broke up with me and we got back together after a month and half. We broke up again not long after maybe 2 and half months after getting back together. We still kept in contact for almost a whole month.. and then finally it came to a stop, I told him I was letting go and I wished him the best. There’s more backstory but there was hurt and things that just kept breaking my heart further. Not even a week later.. a few days an ex I dated prior to him reached out saying he wanted to be friends. I was okay with that but he expressed further that he wanted to date. He said not right away.. I said we could be friends, and we talked and hung out. He became touchy and I didn’t feel comfortable with it. Not horrible but trying to hold my hand and such. I’m still heartbroken from my ex. I cried and I told the ex that came around that I couldn’t date and I wasn’t ready. I had to heal. He didn’t seem to take it well, told me he was crying and it hurt that he hoped he’d be enough. That he can’t name me want him and honestly it really just made me feel bad. Like he wanted me to feel guilty. I just can’t do it, I’m still hurting and it’s too fresh for me. I am heartbroken and still have love for the ex I spent 2 years with. I’m trying to let go and heal and work on myself and focus on my life. How do you do it? How do you let go of someone you love and someone who said they loved you too. It’s not easy for me to jump into a rebound relationship as I’ve done before. This one just hurt too much, I feel like I’m betraying him and it’s all too soon.

[ohsheeT]

You're betraying yourself what about the love that you have for yourself it has to be stronger than what you think you'd love with him

Love is not a game and love is not pain when things don't work out you both take your separate ways

And when somebody wants to get back together that's a big mistake first of all but they try to make it work it's not a game and I see your game being played and I was you. I would walk away you need to find the love within yourself towards you first before you can love anybody anyway here's one that is in charge you are the boss of you you only do it if things are right and things are not right and you should know that you do know that that's why you feel like you're betraying him because you have to man up and do the right thing and that's walk away take everything that you've learned from the positive and negative and take it into the next relationship if you wanted this one to work he would make it work he wouldn't just keep walking away it's just a big game with him

[teamvic]

Firstly fuck if you're betraying him or not

His ass probably ain't thinking about you anyway

Secondly that other ex that tried to be " friends" with you is definitely trying to guilt trip you into getting back with him. So fuck him too

Lastly I'd say the best way to get over someone is you need to do two things.

1.
You need to delete anything and everything about him. Pictures, contact information, social media, even things that remind you of him. Get rid of it. Unless it's essential, like a fridge. Im talking like things he's given you primarily

Reason is, is the more you think about him the longer it'll take for you to get over him, and I know I know already, you don't want to get rid of his stuff or delete the pictures or unfollow him because you still have feelings for him. But lemme tell you. It's the only effective way to do so. The less you see him, the less you'll think about him, and the less you do that, the quicker you'll get over him

2.
You just need time. If there was an overnight remedy to get over breakups they'd sell that shit at a high price. But there isn't

Anyway I've given you what you need to get over it. The question is are you WILLING to actually do it. Most people don't actually do it so I wouldn't be surprised. But you can't blame anyone else then if you don't do what I said you needed to do.