Guys, What are your opinions on girls who just meet to fuck you without dating?

[Anonymous]

I'm asking as a girl, who has been in a relationship for 7 years and have now gotten out of it, and he was my first everything. I was not fond of just fucking just anyone even though I could've and waited until it was serious. At my core, I am a hopeless romantic and a relationship type of girl. That is what I've longed for. However after my traumatizing and abusive experience, I have just come to the conclusion that I'm never gonna be loved or treated well, so I'm letting go and giving up on that dream :/

However, as I now have experience sex and such, I do crave it. I'm quite introverted and on the shy side and I do feel that puts me in a tough position because I don't think that is what a guy would want if you are just gonna have sex. I suppose they would want someone very sexually liberated and super confident. The thought of just meeting a guy to have sex scares me a little because I'm scared of being judged and studied/compared. I suppose it is because I myself have looked down on girls who have done that previously when I was younger.

So guys, how do you feel, say, if you were to chat on an app and she says that she just wants sex? And when you do met, do you looked down upon her? Do you judge her more?

[ohsheeT]

Well first of all it's a total turn on like that

But that doesn't mean that I would just jump into it I want to know more about you because for me the more I know then the more understanding I have and then when it comes to sex I would make it all about you anyway

And don't worry about people judging you I mean you are the only judge of yourself if somebody says words to you it does not even matter because they don't even know you

And as for giving up on being a hopeless romantic you know that's never going to work because you are who you are and all it's going to take is the right guy to do the right things with you in the right moments of time and make it all about you and you're going to become one with him for the evening and he just might make your head spin and get you so turned on because he knows how to read the look in your eyes the color of your cheeks the way you breathe the way you moan the way you move and he knows what he's doing so don't ever say never but yeah I would talk to her I would want to know more

[Lliam]

Not my thing. I don't judge them. I'm in favor of female sexuality. But I always preferred steady, monogamous, infatuated relationships over one night stands with no emotional connection. That's just me, though.

But I have to admit that, when the infatuation wore off, I moved on. I never kept a woman hanging just because I got easy sex. What a drag to waste 7 years of someone's life without a permanent commitment.

Most of my relationships were about a year. The longest was about 4.

When I did feel that I was finally ready to settle down, I dated my wife for a year before proposing. I knew she was the one. We got married a year after that.
We've been happily married now or 28 years.

[Finchie40]

Not at all , if we are both attracted to each other and we both have good chemistry and connection with each other , then there is no set time limit on sex , if you both want the same thing , I can’t speak for all guys’ but most guys’ would be all about it to be honest with you , so you should t have a problem finding a guy that is DTF

[AviatorTom]

After my divorce, I wasn't in the mood to date but I was looking for female companionship. I hooked up with a few women; we were both looking for nothing more than sex. After a while, though, I decided I wanted more, and started serious dating. Luckily, I met a great woman and we got married... 8 years and counting.

[RespectfulGuy]

My younger self would say no. (I married as a virgin to a virgin)

Now, if she approached me for casual sex, I would likely (and tactfully) say no, but would instead propose entering a relationship first.

I love sex, and definitely a HSD person.

However, my experience in the sex department molded me that sex is much better with a person we love.

Not to sound preachy, but I still think it's better to guard our sex drive and approach it with respect and dignity.

This way, sex is much more pleasurable.

[ClassicDropout]

I think it's fun as long as you're being safe and smart about it. I don't have any moral reservations about having casual sex as long as nobody's getting hurt or taken advantage of. I'm fully capable of having sex with someone and then having lunch the next day on some platonic shit.

[BCA6010]

Referring to the bottom paragraph, that's the end of our conversation. I do not, and never have done hookups, and as soon as such a woman makes it clear that's all she's looking for, then we are not looking for the same thing and it's wasting our time.

[DextroShade]

You just going to make your trauma worse by riding the cock carousel and will end up dying alone. Maybe you should just choose better men instead of resigning yourself to the streets. There is probably a guy in your friend-zone who would make a great boyfriend.

[StephanXx]

Oh man that's so painful just to read but I'm glad I'm the first one to answer. It's very simple, guys love sex, doesn't matter if she is shy or confident. Guys connect more trough the physical connection
Girls more to the psychologic/sentimental connection
I'm sorry for what happened!
Be patient!
Guys can't wait to meet a girl like you and just fuck you!

[Asker]

Thank you!

[boggboss]

Yes guys would look down on her and view her as just a object of sex if thats what she herself let's know thats all she wants why would u expect to be treated more

[Asker]

I'm not saying that they should treat her as more, as in, going out of their way or so, but do you still respect a girl like that?

[boggboss]

What do u mean by respect

[Bklynbadboy12]

Wow! You're story is really sad but I can understand where you coming from your just sick and tired of being sick and tired. But I don't think anything of girls that meet and fuck. They have wants and needs and they don't want a relationship just sex with no strings attached

[Bricealan]

Had sex several times in similar situations... after class in undergrad school, met a girl at a club and she later came to my place and wanted me to eat her pussy, which I did, had sex on many first dates... not always good but never NOT GOOD

[Anonymous]

Women who are eager to get into bed for sex on a casual basis, first-time meeting, can be great fun, but they are definitely not candidates for a serious relationship. Maybe you should just buy yourself a really good vibrator.

[Asker]

I'm not trying to be a candidate for a relationship, I've given up on that

[Opinion Owner]

Why give up? I got married on April 27 this year, at age 69. You are never too old to want love, need love, or to find love!

[Staximus]

Women who just give themselves away before figuring out of the guy is a piece of shit or not don't value themselves. You can be loved and treated well if you don't settle for a piece of shit guy and don't tolerate abuse.

[Ironic_Method]

I'm usually not into it myself, but as long as the intentions are clear from the start then do what you want. Some people want something long term, some want a one night stand, some will take anything.

[Ariesman81]

You say you just want sex... then I'm putting you in the hoe category... and will treat you like one. You say you want marriage... I'm still treating you like a hoe.

[RingOfFire]

I find it incredibly sad that you've given up on having a loving relationship and are settling for just sex even though that's not what you want.

It doesn't have to be that way.

[ProbablyClueless]

In principle, I think they're like any other woman. In practice, I have yet to meet one who wasn't an emotional trainwreck.

[Juxtapose]

HA! HAHAHA 🤣

[MasterKS]

your thoughts are outdated, i understand your insecurities but thinking this way not let you move forward, i met many girls who went with the situations like you and they handle it differently and now they are in better situations in life!

[Juxtapose]

So you have one bad relationship and then you give up on them entirely? Come on, you can do better than that.

[In_Trance]

They do that because they have nothing else to offer and then when they're alone they wonder why they're single

[Jamie05rhs]

Just buy a fucking vibrator. SMH.

Why is the solution always whoredom? 🤦‍♀️

[Tomisworthless]

No opinion i wish women would want to sleep with me but they dont dare risk pregnancy from a ugly MSN

[LiamJHayden]

Ages 14-20: loved it

Since age 21: no thanks

[Twalli]

Plenty of guys are good with no strings sex. It shouldn't be that hard to find.

[Darkest-Knight]

Without a doubt, I'd be down for that. as long as she was.

[Anonymous]

I think it's gross. It would be a turnoff to me.

[Cheerfull009]

Yes it I will accept her offer, and check if she is suitable partner , then continue for further

[Asker]

And would you still respect a girl like that?

[Cheerfull009]

One night stand cannot be respected as regular partner

[RavVid]

I'd say so. She doesn't put much value on herself.

[exitseven]

I never met one.

[jahaims]

Don't let one guy ruin who you are as a person.

[noohair]

This is 2024. I don't think like that.