Should I relax till she opens up?

[Anonymous]

Something came up at school and it's something that could be done individually but she called me to ask when I'm doing mine so she could join me. She was even begging for me to tell her if she should start hers or wait till the day I'm going to do mine. We've been close at least for a period of time.. but i was just waiting for the perfect time to ask her out after knowing her fully. Please brethren could this be a green light?

[Oliverlogan263]

It does seem like she's wanting to spend time with you and get closer by joining you for this school project. That could potentially be a good sign that she likes your company. However, I wouldn't want to assume too much just yet.

My advice would be to relax and take your time getting to know her better naturally, without pressuring for anything more right away. Agree to work on the project together so you have that opportunity. But in the meantime, just focus on having fun casual conversations and activities as friends.

Let things develop organically without overanalyzing every little signal. The more comfortable she feels around you, the more she may open up on her own about how she truly feels. Rushing things could unintentionally push her away.

So stay patient and keep showing her through your actions that you're a good guy. Let your likable personality shine through. In due time, if a romantic connection is meant to be, she may give you even clearer signs that she's ready for something more. But for now, enjoy each other's company as is. Does that make sense? Let me know if any other questions come up!

[Asker]

Last time this project happened she covered my expenses but I wasn't still convinced tho.

[DrPepper12]

The only way you're going to find out if it's a stop sign if by asking so just do it.

Some totally unsolicited advice I've learned in 5 plus decades on this spinning ball of dirt...

In order to have a relationship with ANY human being - employer, spouse, family, neighbors, ANYONE - you have to realize two things: One: You MUST make yourself vulnerable. Two: You WILL get hurt.

If you realize that, accept it, and internalize it as a natural law of the universe you can't go wrong.

[Screenwriter]

Unsure. Sounds like she simply wants to complete a project that she's desperate to complete because she's unsure about completing it well.

I wouldn't jump to date conclusions.

How about you work with her on the project, make small talk and find out who she is, who she's hanging out with, whether she has a boyfriend/girlfriend. THEN, you might be able to gauge whether it's appropriate for you to ask her out, period! Good luck.

[Asker]

What I'm imagining is the fact that she could do it alone but allowing herself to be under my own decisions on when I'm doing mine is what I don't understand. Another thing that comes through my mind is the fact that she's trying to open up little by little and at the same time guarding against rejection

Anyways I'll follow her closely till she opens up

[Screenwriter]

Remember she may or she may not. Some people are loath to do projects alone and are glad to hand over control to others. This may mean little. YOU need to be guarded too.

[Nikki1989]

She initiated contact so she must have an interest and a desire to spend time with you.

[Asker]

She has been doing other little clues like calling to inform me that she's going back home from school, most times we leave school together she pays for my transportation but it's not enough reason for me to come out with the question of asking her out though I left a clue sometime ago that I liked her. I don't want to rush anything to avoid the friend zone, I just need her to be the one chasing