Girls: Is it more attractive for a guy to straight up tell you he's attracted to you, or to show it, but not say it?

[Anonymous]

Assuming the attraction is mutual of course.

[blueonblack22]

The magic question is if the attraction is mutual. Not risky is but again this knowing whether or not she finds you attractive is a huge question mark (that can change quickly)

Women rarely tell a guy they find attractive “you’re hot” out of nowhere. They usually make intentionally vague comments like “oh you’re so cute”.

[Anonymous]

Well I would prefer for him to not say something like “I find you so ugly” to my face. If he just told me something like “you don’t enter my area of interest” that’s fine.
If he also maybe just decided to stay away from me and not approach me in an attempt to chat I and many other women would more than likely understand he just isn’t interested.

[Opinion Owner]

Like if he just physically stayed away from me and didn’t attempt to approach me offline or online for communication I would get the picture he just isn’t interested.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh sorry I misread your question. At first I thought it said “he's unattracted to you”

Oh yeah I would prefer him to tell me he is attracted to me but probably not too straight away because they would probably make him seem a bit too desperate in my opinion.

[Nikki1989]

It's more attractive for a man to be direct and honest about his feelings. Nothing worse than silly guessing games.

[Asker]

Okay, but is it possible for a man be honest about his feelings through actions?

[paledreams]

They should be direct - why isn't this a perfected world sigh :( 😔😔😔

[Asker]

Do you think it is possible to be direct with actions?

[paledreams]

I just meant I wished we humans lived in a world where our behaviours weren't clouded in flirts, signals, etc, I'm a words man, as opposed to an actions man aka the amount of times of I see clickbait million views of body language expert or lip reader expert and I'm just like vomit 🤣🤢🤣 on their parade of qualifications

[paledreams]

You know. 😆

[paledreams]

Please do not think I'm a BS detector= I am not. Lol

[Asker]

Me neither, but I've heard women say that saying it out loud kills the attraction. I'm thinking it's really a combination of both. Words and actions.

[paledreams]

Saying it in the open ruins attraction lol - who do these women think they are, I mean the gender broadly - crikey. No wonder guys stay in their bedrooms gaming and working and gaming and working - forget the dates they all say ♀️ like Japan 🗾 many decades lol no wonder there's birth rate lol

[paledreams]

*no birth rate lol 😆

[paledreams]

Exaggerated yet you know, anime, they live so city like, I mean what man wouldn't rather stay at home or only stick to themselves their friends in public : "forget the banging or dating" says a man lol 😆

[Asker]

I think you're right; birth rates plummeting. Seems like women prioritize the experience over the outcome.

[paledreams]

Lol 😆🤣 it's so weird how Men have to do all the work like a peacock feathers 🦚 aka "the man has to show off to get a woman, pfft pa-lease rolls eyes" it's so pathetic humans sometimes lol and the animal kingdom - the female thinks she's all that 🤯

[paledreams]

Females you know, they're power trippers 😄🫣😄🫣

[Finchie40]

My experiences with girls’ most of them like being told straight out how you feel about them, , I prefer a girl to do the same to me as well , Playing games is stupid and a waste of time. I prefer honest girls’ over a girl that has a hard time being honest. Because We aren’t mind readers. If you like someone just be honest and straight forward about it , if you just want to have sex with someone , be honest and straightforward about it , playing games is childish behavior. It’s a sign of weakness that isn’t attractive to guys’ or girls’ it just makes the other person feel sorry for you that you don’t have confidence in yourself. If a girl still wants to be with you after she saw your weakness , she is just being with you because she feels sorry for you , in a matter of time she will get bored of your ass and either leave you or spread her legs to a masculine guy. Most females’ want to be dominated by a dominate guy , because she wants to be submissive , that’ what turns her the fuck on , All you guys’ that allow your women to walk over you are just setting yourselves up for disaster , you don’t have to be an asshole to her but you have to make it clear to her you are the lead of the relationship, not the controller of the relationship the leader of it , Girls’ do not want a controlling guy either , she will consider him an asshole. When you are honest and respectful and loving and caring and you take lead , she will have no problem getting on her knees for you

[Agape93]

Just tell me. Showing me means little to nothing. Stuff guys may do to show it, are things my friends do sometimes anyways. So just tell me.

[Truthatanycost]

There is rarely any point asking women these questions because most of them will tell you something entirely different to what it is in practice...

[AmeerX]

Takes time to admit it. Nothing wrong with it though

[Sadia26]

Well actions speaks louder than words that's what they all say.

[Smashingdoozy]

Say it. Im not the best at reading signals

[Asker]

How man men have you gone on to date (for a fair amount of time) that openly professed their undying love for you?

[Smashingdoozy]

None of them thank God. Nobody should do that at the dating stage 💀

[Asker]

But men's brains are wired a bit differently than yours. There is evidence to suggest that men are hardwired to fall in love faster than women (https://www. bustle. com/p/why-men-fall-in-love-faster-according-to-science-38675 ).

As a result, men often experience love at first sight. If they came right up to you and said "I love you," they wouldn't necessarily be lying. In fact, trying to "play it cool" would really be the dishonest move.

This is one of the reasons men feel like they cannot be open and honest with women; because their experience is misunderstood. Of men who you have dated in the past, how did they express their attraction for you?

[Smashingdoozy]

Flirting is the best way to express attraction. I've had a boyfriend who told me he loved me very quickly but in hindsight it felt disingenuous because he was hurting from a previous relationship. Not saying he didn't love me at all, I just don't think at that point he knew me well enough to love me.

[Asker]

This a great answer because it gets to the heart of my original question. "Flirting" is essentially expressing attraction through body language, without expressly saying "I like you," correct?

[Smashingdoozy]

Yes. There's a difference between "I like you" and "I love you"

I struggle to believe anyone could love someone at first sight. I feel like love is such a deep intimate thing that requires getting to know someone. You know finding out what things they love and things they absolutely hate. Watching them enjoy their hobbies and learning what makes them happy or angry

[mandyfire98]

Tell me straight up

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Straight out say it

[Asker]

How would you say it?

[paledreams]

About time a female says so ♀️ I often think the women of my era of the mid to late 1990s seem to have no appreciation for how "I" would want a woman to ah forget it hahahaha lol 😆😆😆😆

[AmeerX]

Surely you liked when I say I am interested in you:)

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@AmeerX Flattering, indeed.