Is it normal to be in early 20s, still virgin and without proper relationship?

[Anonymous]

I have been in relatinship when i was like 15 but we were like kids so it was just childish. I have never been someone who needed to be in relatinship. I never approach girls for example in bar or somewhere, like cold approach or something. To me it feels kind of embarrasing. I dont have problem talking to girls when someone introduces us or just with friends, thats totaly fine. Last girl i dated it was like two years ago. She had a crush on me for a long time, then we got closer, we kissed few times and went out but then she rejected me. Since then nothing. I am not tall, i know loads of girls who had crush on me but it was especially when i was around 16 and 17, now there were some women who told me iam good looking but those were mostly married women when they asked me why i am single. Even some guys told me. In last year like three guys told me that i am good looking, Which i would fancy more from single girls. I am pretty introverted, i mean i like going out but i am just not someone who would like talk to everyone and stuff. I am fine with my friends and i often dont feel comfortable around new people. I have never been thinking about this much but lately loads of my friends are getting into relationship. Is it weird?

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah dude, it's totally normal to still be a virgin and not have had a serious relationship yet in your early 20s. Everyone develops at their own pace, and there's no "right" timeline for that stuff.

Some people are just more introverted and it takes time to find the right person. And you gotta meet folks first before anything can happen, which is tougher if you're naturally less outgoing. Don't stress over it.

A lot of people don't have their first real relationship until college or a bit after anyways. You're still young! And there's more than one way to meet someone - through friends, activities, apps, etc. Keep putting yourself out there in a low-key way.

Maybe try some casual meetups for stuff you're interested in. Could be a board game group, sports league, whatever. Takes the pressure off chatting and you already have something in common to break the ice.

For now though, focus on your goals and doing what makes you happy. Confidence is attractive, so you gotta feel good being single first before someone else can make you feel better. Chill bro, your time will come!

[blackgaletiger]

Yeah man its totally normal. You gotta understand the time and era in which you live in now. Its hard to have a physical relationship when everything is digital. If you want to have a proper relationship you gotta find somebody in a social setting (work, school, the gym) slowly grind at it. People are too fast moving now so really getting into a long term relationship is a lot harder. As for being a virgin its whatever. If your not sex driven then it doesn't matter. Your time will come when it comes.

[sawno]

These days 1/3rd of men are in that situation in their 30's. Just modern dating, don't sweat it, keep working on yourself and put yourself out there. The introvert thing will hold you back the most since girls aren't approachers and even if you do have an approacher around you she'd have to notice you, so try becoming more comfortable.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You do you bro