If dating apps aren't dead why is it impossible to get any matches?

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Shamalien · Accepted Answer

It’s not impossible if you take good looking photos and pay for premium features, but it certainly doesn’t appear to be worth it for a lot of dudes…the way the algorithm works these days, aa soon as you create your account and start swiping, you need to immediately get into the top echelons of popularity to have a chance in hell of being shown to anyone.

It’s kind of a “winner take all” game in that sense. If you don’t get lucky in that initial period, you get buried, and you will have a very bad time.

And the amount of degenerate girls on there is just crazy. Can there be a dating app that only allows people looking for conventional relationships? My fuck. Some of them aren’t even girls, just mentally ill men!

And as bad as infinite options is for the male brain, first of all that’s not even an issue for most of us even on these apps, and secondly, woman are more sensitive to it’s ill effects. Men are already seen as more disposable, and dating apps further amplify this perception.

I deleted em. I may return some day, but sometimes I’ve just had enough of that nonsense.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

"Dating Apps" are just hook up apps, and they are only effective for men if you are in the top 5-10% of men. Pretty much all other men are invisible - and not just because of the women, but also because of the algorithm.

All the dating apps are owned by Match, Inc., and they are NOT designed to match anyone but the top people (because that makes it look aspirational) because they need to keep the majority of men desperate and PAYING for "better access" to the women. They just need enough matches to give false hope to the masses without actually matching them and losing that customer.

I try to explain to people that they are a scam, but most people are too lazy to do any real work to find someone when they can sit on their couch and swipe - despite months or years of no success. IT'S A SCAM!

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

You are either ugly/fat or look like a complete dork.. those are the only answers since you are basically just picking people based on their looks.
Me I had many matches but no guy on there was serious about dating only two of them. Dating apps are trash I suggest not using them..

I literally had a guy ask me on a date, I was like sure. We talked he seemed nice he asked if I wanted to go on a walking date in this hiking trail. I was like okay sounds alright and we can talk and get to know each other. The day of the date he tells me he is almost done work then asks me "are you gonna suck my dick on this walk in the woods?" I was like no I don't even know you yet, so he cancelled the date.. <-- that is dating apps in a nutshell.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Accepted Answer

That's not everyone's experience. My boyfriend found me on one just fine. If you aren't matching, then change up your profile including pictures and bio. Its like a resume for employers. You need to be the most appealing option out of hundreds of other candidates

Avicenna · Answer

Dating apps are generally just for hookups these days, even for people in their 50s.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Dating apps for your age range seem mostly physique based anyway , if you don't have the right pictures, apparently you're not matching anything. You can still try your luck with excellent conversational skills. If you have neither genetics nor conversational skills out of the ordinary, I wouldn't bother trying dating apps. This is what I observed from my friends in your age range, using such apps.

paledreams · Answer

I retired from them earlier this year at age 30, I recently looked at dating apps a few weeks ago, lol, the quality and fake accounts aka guys pretending to be dressed up women has only gotten worse.
So I'm glad I didn't fall for that 🫢🤣🫢🤣re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Anonymous · Answer

Because there are about 4 billion of each gender on the planet. It is said almost 50% of relationships start online on dating apps now. So that means people believe they have 2 billion people to pick from. The illusion of choice. So people treat others like they're disposable. Because in thier mind there's still 1,999,999,999 to pick from.

Welcome to the narcissistic 💩 show.

itsannalee · Answer

Maybe your profile isn’t interesting.
I met my boyfriend in the Tinder, he texted me before i even swapped right on him. And i was thinking at least he had effort to try to know me and i i swapped right. Now we are dating for over than 2 years.

Chthou95 · Answer

Because it's like Hometown buffet for women. Women have a lot f options and are looking for unicorns (Mr perfect) on dating apps. So you can imagine most men are going to be rejected. Men shouldn't be on those apps anyway. a lot of women also use dating apps just for attention and ego boost

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

Because silly women expect to marry someone who looks like Brad Pitt and makes as much money as Donald Trump, but they deny this. They also want open relationships and abortion, etc, which no sane man should tolerate.

NathanDavis · Answer

whatever might be happening for you or others... might not be happening to others, or yourself...

SolitarySolace · Answer

Women get matches all of the time on dating apps, making them think all high and mighty about themselves. Meanwhile men rarely get any matches on dating apps. And if he does she doesn’t even respond half of the time. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Anonymous · Answer

It’s not dead. I get matches, but they are easily ruined when the guy disregards what my profile says about “seeking something serious” and instead they ask if I want to hookup or meetup within less than a week of knowing them.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

you're probably just on the wrong ones or need to wait for the right person  don't lost hope and have more patience ok

NamerOfStars · Answer

Because all of the major ones are owned by a single company, which monetizes their failure to get you to spend more money on them.

DtMe89 · Answer

Dating apps are scams. It's believed that they don't actually give you matches, because, they know that you'll renew your subscription, every time, until you finally figure it out, that, they're scamming you

Passportbro5999 · Answer

You mean impossible for a MAN to get any matches. That’s normal for a man in America. My friend is in the Philippines and he’s getting a lot of matches lmao 🤣

Unit1 · Answer

There's no quality control in those dating apps. That's only one factor why they don't work. Tried their paid versions once. Bumble & Badoo. Same outcome. Won't do that again.

Flower7 · Answer

It seems like they're only good for hookups.

morganherrel · Answer

They're dead. The only way to fix them is for men to stop using them. It's an endless sea of fat/hideous women who can't wait to ghost you.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Depends on what dating sites you are talking about. Some, like eHarmony, are scams.

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

They're not interested in you. If you have no luck in the outside world what makes you think you'll have luck on an app?

genericname85 · Answer

dating apps aren't there to give you dates. they are there to take your money to sell you hopes of getting a date xD

Paul09 · Answer

Im guessing people live to window shop mainly. And dating apps work for women.

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

I never used dating app so idk

Agape93 · Answer

It's not, you're just not getting them

Anonymous · Answer

Women destroyed dating apps.

Jay-_- · Answer

All fake

Anonymous · Answer

Dating is dead, RIP

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