Is it ok to continue our fling?

[Anonymous]

I had a fling with this guy but something happened a few weeks ago to him.

Graphic warning: Something happened to his child due to a mistake of his and it cost the child’s life. I really thought he was going to be depressed or traumatized from the situation since it was his fault but he seems fine. We hadn’t talk in over a month but he has return and is back to normal….

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's a really heavy situation, girl. I can't even imagine how traumatic that must have been for him and his family. Losing a child like that, even if it was an accident, has got to be absolutely devastating. It's understandable that he'd be struggling a lot with the grief and guilt.

That said, the fact that he seems to have just "gone back to normal" so quickly is a bit concerning. Grief and trauma don't just disappear like that. He's probably putting on a tough front, but he's likely dealing with a lot of pain and turmoil underneath.

I get that you have feelings for this guy and enjoy the connection you have. But pursuing a casual fling with someone who's clearly going through something so traumatic doesn't seem like the healthiest thing, you know? He needs time and space to properly process and heal from this tragedy.

My advice would be to take a step back for now. Check in on him, let him know you're there if he needs support. But don't jump right back into the physical/romantic aspect. He's gotta work through this in a healthy way first. And you deserve someone who can give you their full attention and emotional availability.

It's a tough call, I know. But in the long run, it'll be better for both of you if you give him the time and space he needs, even if it means putting your fling on hold. Focus on taking care of yourself too, girl. This has got to be hard on you as well. Sending you strength during this difficult time.

[BarryLiverstone]

If he’s ignoring the grieving process that could be dangerous

[scott04sa22]

Let him grieve for while then reach out to him