Why do my parents keep rejecting every guy? Looks like they don’t want me to get married ever?

[Babygirl_S]

Can someone please help me? How to get out of this situation without running away from home because I don’t want to be raped or anything?

Updates

1 y

I can’t stay a virgin anymore! I’m done

[Tarifa]

I don't think we know enough about Indian culture and Indian marital law to give you an acceptable answer. If your parents insist on you marrying an Indian man, and their consent is absolutely needed, it seems like the decision is in their hands. And from there on, it can only go two ways: you date a man and hope he will meet their criteria, or they will impose their choice upon you. It's clear the second situation is not where you'd want to be.

If you met another man, even if he doesn't meet their criteria, and this man lives abroad in a country with different traditions, culture and laws, how do you think they would react?

[Babygirl_S]

I’m not in a position to be with a foreigner and they may not select me either

[Tarifa]

Thanks for the MHO

[Amur8711]

I volunteer to court you!

[Babygirl_S]

Sounds good but we can’t meet

[Amur8711]

Why not?

[Agape93]

You're a grown ass adult. You make your own choices.

Also, rape is a risk we take dealing with guys. Welcome to reality, it fucking sucks.

@Abbycado way too tired in life for this woe is me shit

[Babygirl_S]

Learn to be a little feminine and empathetic. I know it’s hard for someone like you but you can try

[Agape93]

Honey i literally barely feel empathy at all, that's called a mental health disorder. I also don't want to be feminine.

But my point still stands. Welcome to the real world. You'd get more compassion if you weren't a liar (yes I still remember that, and I'm still waiting on that apology you know you owe me)

[Babygirl_S]

You have a mental illness and I would refuse to treat you

[IslaTheWitch]

you are an adult... when you want to start to make your own decisions and face the consequences? then your problem will be solved...

[overlord337645]

a lot of cultures are very specific i will say that its one of two things the first is your parents are very cultural and specific and the second is your immature now I don't know what applies to you and im not gonna go makeing accusations but if your immature i can't help you other than grow up and if its cultural i think you need to tell your parents its not all about them its about you to and your willing to comprise with them in certain aspects as long as they are not as strict about the man you choose for instance he may not be indian or korean or whatever ethnicity you are but he practices and or is willing to learn your customs and put them first over his own

[NathanDavis]

have you talked and asked them about what would they want to see in a guy that would be marrying you?

[Billlewis]

They're probably insisting on the highest standards, because they know how much you deserve to be happy, satisfied and comfortable.

[ChicoFromThe305]

So if you parents don't approve it doesn't go? Or you just really care a lot about your parents approval?

[Babygirl_S]

I can’t get married without their approval. No Indian guy will marry me without parents’ approval

[ChicoFromThe305]

Oh that's... interesting, sounds important, I guess that's why I always picked up this hard to get vibe off you.

[Babygirl_S]

No! I’ve never given off any such vibes. I’m open to many masculine guys. They’re unwilling to marry me. Also a lot of these guys are after my academic qualifications and how much money I make

[ChicoFromThe305]

It was suppose to be a compliment but I guess you'd rather be easy, either ways, i dont understand why thats important if the man is going to provide, I talk to this Indian chick and it surely makes a lot of sense why she seems so obsessed over her exams, it's all making sense now.

[slatyb]

You are an adult. Why do you let them veto your choices?

[Babygirl_S]

Because that’s the only way an Indian guy will marry me. If I run away, I’ll mostly get raped. If I don’t get raped, I’ll be rejected for marriage as they’ll consider me a “bad girl” who ran away

[genericname85]

well maybe talk about why they are rejecting the guy maybe. but also: if you're 27, you should probably move the hell out and live your own life xD

[BoobMan]

So you keep bringing them guys and they keep saying no? What was wrong with the last guy you brought them?

[Babygirl_S]

They always find some flaw

[BoobMan]

Yeah? What was the problem with the last one?

[BoobMan]

Too horny to bear, huh Babygirl? Sounds like you really need to get it on!

[Babygirl_S]

They rejected him because of his job

[BoobMan]

What was it? What kind of job would be acceptable?

[Babygirl_S]

They want only one specific profession regardless of how much money he makes

[BoobMan]

And that one specific profession is? . . . .

[Babygirl_S]

Doctor

[BoobMan]

Gotcha. What does this dude do?

[Babygirl_S]

Engineer

[Desi_Butcher]

Raped? Are you okay?
How did that come into picture?

[Babygirl_S]

I don’t want to be raped

[Desi_Butcher]

Why are your parents not agreeing?

[Babygirl_S]

I don’t know

[Desi_Butcher]

Hope they understand how difficult it is getting for you with each passing day

[ehatsham_hussain]

Just talk them seriously...
Just choose right guy for yourself..
And tell them that you wanna marriage now

[ehatsham_hussain]

Your age is already need to be married now.. don't delay now

[Babygirl_S]

I know the problem. Tell me the solution

[ehatsham_hussain]

Solution is talk them seriously

[ehatsham_hussain]

I don't know the thinking of your perents.. it's just opposite,, here in our family perents makes pressure on girls to marry soon and the girls denies it..
I wonder about your perents though I don't know their plan for you..
But every perents want better for their daughter

[Bklynbadboy12]

Because they want the best for you. I know it's annoying but there doing it because they love you. I know if I had a daughter no man would be good enough for my baby girl!!! 😉😉😉😉

[Babygirl_S]

But perfect guys don’t exist! I have to accept flaws. They’re unwilling to accept anyone!

[Tarifa]

Every father (and mother) will eventually accept the partner our daughter chooses to be with. You can only guide them so far and show them the right way, or the way you think is good for them, but at some point you will have to let them go. That goes for everything in life, not just relationships and marriage.

[TallAnon]

Probably better to ask locals, because parents don't get to disagree here.

[Babygirl_S]

Great! I must be in hell then

[TallAnon]

Think they usually call it India

[TallAnon]

Losing your virginity isn't going to make you happy tbh, if I went back I'd do it with someone I care more about

[zagor]

A lot of parents think no one is good enough for their kid.

[Rockey_the_bicker]

Maybe , they are waiting for your American crush lol 😂

[Babygirl_S]

They hate every guy like crazy

[Jennz6]

Don’t run away

[renodnol32]

What reasoning do they give?

[Rohaan2020]

Ask them to chose for you

[woahhh152]

Raped?

[Babygirl_S]

I don’t want to run away because I don’t want to be raped

[woahhh152]

Ah ok

[woahhh152]

Seems like you are horny and can't control

[Babygirl_S]

Yes! I want a hot husband

[woahhh152]

I don't think this is the place for that