My parents don't want me to marry my boyfriend, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and we want to get married, but my family was already very against it because my boyfriend is Greek, and anyway, his family doesn't want me because I'm Turkish, what should we do?

Note:Sorry my English is so bad

[OtterMan68]

If that's the only problem your parents have: his being Greek, and you Turkish, then marry him. If you are compatible: same spiritual beliefs, likes and dislikes, plans for kids, then his ethnicity should not be a problem.

[strateguy632]

the problem is paying for a wedding. parents will not pay.

if you can offer, you pay for wedding.

if not money, then do civil marriage and live separate from family.

[rosie95]

Are you willing to sacrifice your parents and raise children without grandparents on either side? If yes, then go ahead and marry him.

[Asker]

i don't want to leave my family, but I don't want to leave my boyfriend either

[rosie95]

Find someone else. It is hard to live without parents. You will forget about him after a while.

[Asker]

I can't just give up on him, we Turks get attached to someone very quickly, and then we can't leave those people, so I can't let him go, even if I do, I'll have to get through a period of depression

[Nikki1989]

You are old enough to make your own decisions.

[Asker]

Yes, but my parents don't want us to get married because the Turks and Greeks are "enemies"

[Avicenna]

That's a real dilemma. Can you move overseas?

[Asker]

Yes ı can

[Avicenna]

Well, that might be your eventual solution

[Unit1]

And what authority do your parents have over you?

[Asker]

they usually manage me

[Unit1]

So you are not independent from them?
Get that in order first and foremost. This is paramount.

[Jmmmfi4]

YOUR English IS GOOD

[Asker]

Thanks