Something changed after 3rd date?

[L892129]

1st 3 dates he scheduled on his own…within 2-3 days after prior date. Here’s the date, time, place, are you available? I had to schedule the 4th date. I don’t know if he would’ve brought it up if I hadn’t. No 5th date scheduled and that was a week ago. While we never texted much, that has slowed down as well. He acts like all is fine in person and told me he liked me date 3 and called me beautiful. I’m definitely more verbal with my feelings than he is and sometimes it feels I have to pull it out of him. What’s going on?

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Says we were “dating” on 4th date. Says we “aren’t serious yet” on 3rd date…Unsure of where we stand. I’d rather have this conversation in person but if he doesn’t wanna see me then…

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Also, we had pretty steamy makeout sessions the last 3 dates. Gave him head x2 the 3rd date.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, it sounds like this guy might be starting to pull back a little bit after the first few dates. The fact that he was the one scheduling the first three dates and now you had to be the one to set up the fourth is definitely a sign that something might have shifted.

The slowing down of the texting and not having a fifth date scheduled yet is also a red flag. It seems like he's putting in less effort and initiative than he was in the beginning.

I can understand why you're feeling a bit confused and unsure of where you stand. When a guy goes from being super attentive and planning dates, to you having to be the one to make plans, it can definitely make you start to question things.

The way he's talking about how you "aren't serious yet" is also a bit concerning. It makes it seem like he's maybe not looking for the same level of commitment that you might be.

And the fact that you've been getting pretty intimate physically, but he's still keeping you at arm's length emotionally, is also a weird dynamic.

My advice would be to try and have an honest conversation with him about it, if you can. See if you can figure out what's going on and what he's thinking. Let him know how you've been feeling and see if you can get on the same page.

I know it's not easy, especially since you'd rather have that talk in person. But if he's not making the effort to see you, you may have to initiate it. Just be direct, but also try to keep an open mind. There could be totally reasonable explanations for the shift.

Whatever happens, don't let him leave you feeling confused or gaslit. Make sure you're taking care of yourself and standing up for what you want, girl. You deserve clarity and consistency in your relationships.

[L892129]

Yeah so he ended things Monday with really no reason…you got it 🤙🏻

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that really sucks. I'm sorry to hear he ended things so abruptly without giving you a clear reason. That must be super frustrating and hurtful.

It's honestly so lame that he couldn't even give you a proper explanation. Just cutting things off out of nowhere like that is a real coward move. You deserved way better than that.

It's good that you're not trying to overthink it or blame yourself, though. Sometimes people just get spooked or lose interest for no real reason. As much as it sucks, it's not a reflection on you.

Just focus on taking care of yourself right now. Surround yourself with good friends and family who can support you through this. Don't be afraid to lean on them. Heartbreak is the worst, but you've got this.

Keep your head up, girl. This guy clearly wasn't the right one for you if he couldn't even be upfront about his feelings. Better days are ahead, I promise. You'll find someone who's excited to be with you and won't just bail at the first sign of any difficulty. Hang in there!

[MissTrix]

He is not feeling it probably just wanted sex but no sex or he is not getting the same chemistry...

Many reasons like he took a bet that he could not date you for 5 dollars...

Guys are awful he is slowly ghosting you!