How would you react?

[Katie218]

Men 40+ ideally... I (29f) have been dating a new guy (41) for a couple of months. We've been out a lot and have been intimate. Something recently made me think and I remembered I had a coldsore about 11 years ago. I have never had one since, was in a relationship at the time and for 10 years after that so just never thought about it, it's not something that's ever crossed my mind. (It has come about because my ex is now basically blackmailing me over this - he obviously remembered and I didn't!)

I realise now that I probably need to mention this to the guy, but no idea how to address it or how it's likely to be received?

For some background, he has been with a lot of people and openly admits to sleeping with prostitutes in the past...

How would you react? What should I say?

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

The truth will set you free.

Say it how it is.

And stop talking to your ex.

You sound like drama, he will leave over that more than a dodgy cold saw 10 years ago.

[Katie218]

Lol, I wish I could, he's the father of my son! I'm definitely not drama, I'm worried this will look like that to him! I'm very chilled, just a crazy ex sadly.
What would be the best way to approach the conversation?

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

OK that's fair.

Although may mean you need to modify what you share with him and how you manage that.

I understand your struggles regarding kids and horrendous ex.

Just say that you have somthing that you feel you need to be open about and discus, it's bothering you so you would like to talk about it.

May be a good opportunity to both get yourselfs checked out, and draw a line under any doubts or suspicions of cheating / fowl play in the future.

Sounds like he's had a successful campaign in his younger years, be worth a check up.

If you Adress it in a drama free way, he will take it on the chin and could be opportunitie to move forward together.