My boyfriend’s friend raped me. Should I just breakup with my boyfriend to avoid this situation?

[Anonymous]

Went to a party with my friend in a yacht. Long story short, my friend ends up seeing a guy she likes and leaves me and she got wasted. I was left alone and at some point a guy drugged me. I recall some things but a lot of it i can’t remember. I know for a fact he raped me in a room in the yacht and i have some recollection of things that happened that night. Either way i feel a lot of shame and embarrassment from the whole situation I just decided to not tell anyone. I don’t want to deal with slut shaming and people on our campus are brutal. Almost a year later i got into a relationship with my current boyfriend and he doesn’t know a thing about the whole situation. I do not want to share any of that with him at all but he recently asked me to hang out and go on a double date with his friend that he also knows from uni. So i go to that dinner and it turns out it was the yacht guy with his girlfriend. I was so scared and i couldn’t even stay with them for long i had to make up some BS excuse to leave early. It would’ve been fine if things ended here but his friend is taunting me. I came back from work and his friend was in our house (with my boyfriend) and my boyfriend was like “oh yeah he came with me today cause we are watching a soccer match” and i was like “oh yeah sounds fun actually i forgot i was meeting my sister so i’ll leave”. He is basically terrorizing me in my own house I don’t want him anywhere near me or my boyfriend or our house or our lives but he is always around us and that scares me. I don’t think telling my boyfriend is a good idea because he is very jealous and he is an angry person especially when it comes to me. I wouldn’t want to trigger him and cause a problem but i want to end this for my own safety. I am thinking i am in a very odd situation and would maybe just breaking up be easier for everyone I wouldn’t have to tell him anything or risk my safety. This obviously hurts me but i’m very scared.

[Summeroflove]

YOU NEED TO FILE A POLICE REPORT IMMEDIATELY YOU REFUSING TO TELL ANYBODY IS GOING TO ALLOW HIM TO GET MORE VICTIMS…. ITS PROBABLY NOT EVEN HIS FIRST TIME AND THATS WHY HE DID IT! BECAUSE HE GOT AWAY WITH IT BEFORE

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

You need to leave, break it off with your boyfriend.

If you don't feel like you can discuss that with him, and your admiting he's "angry" etc. You allow the behaviour people exhibit towards you.

You have a a lot of work to do on yourself.

Not what you want to hear, but is what it is.

Not your fault, but shit happens.

I'm sorry to hear about what happend to you, weather you report it or not is your call, I get it either way.

[itsannalee]

Can you report him?
I know you just want yo immediately forget this, guy like him should be taught a lesson. Otherwise he won’t afraid yo do it again to you someday or someone else.

[Summeroflove]

EXACTLY

[Anonymous]

You need evidence. Get him to incriminate himself on private messenger, camera, recorded phonecalls, voice recordings. Keep a diary of harassment.

[Summeroflove]

Even if not for herself before it happens to someone else

[Opinion Owner]

@Summeroflove from experience he will do it again to her

[Zack-Bann]

If you don’t wanna give your boyfriend the benefit of the doubt that he’ll do the right thing and cut off that “friend” of his just on principle alone then don’t, it’s up to you.


But punishing your boyfriend and tanking your own relationship without any further explanation is letting that monster take yet another thing from you now


He deserves prison and you to be able to live happy and not haunted by his vile shadow

[Bricealan]

You need to immediately file a police report regarding the rape. Don't let that son of a bitch get away with that !!! Don't ever!!!

No matter when it happened, file a rape report ASAP and have him arrested and booked for rape. NEVER LET THAT KIND OF THING GO UNREPORTED >

[ChicoFromThe305]

Tell your boyfriend, as angry as he is I don't think there's a single guy in the world that wouldn't want to be aware of such situations, I know if you told the cops there wouldn't be any justice, if telling your boyfriend will keep you safe then that's the importance, if rapists face gets destroyed in as collateral damage, its not like he doesn't deserve it.

[exitseven]

Use a baseball bat on him when he is not expecting it. Once he is down make sure he says that way.

[LiamJHayden]

You can try reporting it. In some cases, even though there is no physical evidence, they will investigate and get you to call the person and confront him.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Wow! I'm so sorry you're going through this but you boyfriend has nothing to do with it. So why leave him? You need to go to the authorities and you need to tell your boyfriend what his friend did to you

[Anonymous]

This is why you report crime.

[Anonymous]

No, 9mm will solve it