Guys, is it worth investing into a girl who has many guys friends, parties a lot, dresses in revealing clothes?

[Anonymous]

I gave up everything to my ex. And just didn’t get the same respect back. She did what she wanted and only called me insecure and controlling. Now I am thinking that if a girl won’t change her behavior, then I will not treat her seriously. I made so many compromises that I felt like shit, i felt disrespected. Literally we wound hang out and all the time some random guys were snapping her every 5 minutes she told me they are just friends but if i would mention one girl she would have a meltdown and say how she would kick their ass. I feel like these type of girls just won’t get what guys want. I feel like a woman is supposed to make you feel safe and at peace. And not constantly worrying that she will do something crazy. I will have boundaries, either accept them or leave. I am not forcing you to stay. But I am unsure if i should make compromises or just look for a girl who actually wants the same.

[slatyb]

"I feel like a woman is supposed to..." No one is "supposed to" anything. They do or they don't. Don't date women who don't share your values.

"Just look for a girl who actually wants the same" That's exactly what you should do.

[Ariesman81]

It is not worth it.

[Asker]

I think, many guys allow too much bull shit to slide and girls say you are controlling and insecure. They are completely missing the point. We are not bad person. We want to treat you like a queen. But we want loyalty and exclusivity. And respect. It is shown through only having one man in your life and making him your priority. I don’t feel like i am being taken seriously if a girl has 10 guy friends texting her all the time. And I see the notifications going off every 5 minutes. I am showing my commitment by not talking with other girls. Its something that I will not go through again. I felt like a bitch not a man. But mistakes like time are lessons to be learned. These girls seem to be everywhere. I have missed many actual good girls. But I hope I will find one someday.

[Ariesman81]

You will. Just know even the good girls are capable of disrespect. Learn to prioritize yourself, like you're doing, and the one meant for you will dig her claws in so deep that you won't be able to shake her loose.

[Anonymous]

Nope.