How do I stop reading into things too much? Especially when it comes to men?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how. I’m always doing it. Maybe because of my past? Hurt? Trauma? I’m always looking for a little tiny red flags, but I don’t even know if they are sometimes. For example, a guy sent me a picture of himself. I asked if it was this morning, he said yeah, but it was actually three days before because I seen the date on the iPhone. little things like that. Makes me think everything is a little red flag. Then I start questioning things that Doesn’t seem like a big deal, but to me it is. Then I start thinking if I should just cut people out. Is it just me?

[Anonymous]

I tell you how I handle it. Nothing a woman does surprises me anymore. I expect her to pull janky 💩 so when it happens I'm never really surprised.

I don't think there's anything wrong with this per se. I think you need to embrace the fact that all the men you'll choose will have these red flags. Know that, accept that. Then the anxiety over it will dissipate. And then you can just deal with each situation when it happens. Hopefully if not free from emotion at least with reduced emotion.

[EmmaMary]

You need some form of psychiatric therapy or counselling.