I'm too self-conscious around men?

[Anonymous]

I can't help but think of the possibility that most men aren't attracted to me; especially the guys that are good looking.

How can I get over this? I like myself, but I'm not conventionally pretty.. and I don't know if the guy would be embarrassed if I'd show my interest/ flirt.

I've dated before, but nothing serious.. mostly ended because it wasn't what I wanted

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Forgot to mention that I'm pretty serious most of the time, I'm not boring but mostly just stressed out with school and stuff. It's hard to open up to people around you when you're busy like that.

Flirting seems to be something I haven't really mastered yet (I'm a bit shy) and well.. yea. That's it.

[Anonymous]

Well, in honesty, if you're average looking, it may well be true that most men don't or won't find you physically attractive. Do most women find the average guy physically attractive? Probably not. But that still leaves many men who do or would find you physically attractive.

The thing is, many 'pretty' or 'beautiful' girls don't actually look that great without make-up. So I wouldn't worry about it.

Just make the best of what you've got physically. Learn what kinds of make-up, hair-styles, clothing styles, etc suit you.

Also, bear in mind that, if you're looking for a serious relationship, personality and intleligence count for a lot. Even if a super-model type wanted to be with me, I wouldn't want a serious relationship with her unless she had a good personality and intelligence. In my experience, a girl with high intelligence and a personality that suits me is much rarer than a pretty or beautiful girl. Then again, maybe I'm just a difficult guy, LOL.

[Asker]

"-_- .. I'm not average or ugly, I don't wear a lot of make-up and I guess you can say I look pretty but at the same time I'm a bit thin and I look young. I make the best of what I have, people call me good looking and yet no-one approaches me. I'm smart and fun to be around, but I can be really serious too, especially about my own choices in life.

I guess guys just think I'm a snob or something.. because I'm too afraid to flirt. If I catch guys staring, my first reaction would be to look away.

[Michaelmwm19]

Yeah you come off as some one who doesn't care and intimidating.

[Anonymous]

Just focus on your positives. You would be surprised ,at what a haircut that fits, your facial shape can do, different makeup, and ,different colored clothes, to match your skin tone, tanning , and good hygiene, can do. Eating healthy gives your skin a nice glow, as does good sleep.

Men don't care if your conventionally pretty, what they care about is that they find you attractive, most don't care what anyone else thinks. I suggest flirting and getting that experience to break out of your shell.

[Opinion Owner]

Nobody really masters flirting. I'm shy to but you have to force yourself to do it. And be concious of your body language, I think the best way to attract a guy you think is attractive is eye contact IMO.