For those that have been on dating apps, what's the best one in your opinion?

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I'm a shy introvert that doesn't go out to bars or lounges that often to meet people plus I just don't have the time so I'm doing the thing I'm against and doing the dating app thing. Which one is the best one in your opinion out of these?

Curmudgeon · Accepted Answer

For a while, Bumble was the Sadie Hawkins of dating apps (and I betray my age with such a reference), but they appear to have changed that:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/nDqSAvl0yVc

As bad as dating apps have become, for the reasons others have outlined well, they still have three advantages:

1. No dangers of false accusations and recriminations that you might get from meeting people in real life, like work or school.

2. Still cheaper and more effective than lame bars or nightclubs, where it is often too noisy to actually hold a conversation with anyone.

3. They DO have volume, even if there is a quality for quantity trade off, because a sizeable fraction, perhaps most, of the ladies (and quite a few men for that matter) are just there for the validation, and not actually seeking anyone.

More specific dating sites, built around an interest (for example, say, fitnesssingles. com) will have fewer people on them.

So which apps or websites are better?

a. the ones built around a particular interest, even though there is clearly a quality for quantity trade off (see above)

b. The ones that give you more room to write about yourself in detail, the apps typically have severe text limits and they mandate that you be very terse and you are not able to go into detail.

msc545 · Accepted Answer

The best one is none of them

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I find none to be best. They lead to disappointment and let downs and head games, which isn’t something I’d ever sign up for anywhere. I assumed there’d be quality guys there with good intentions and level heads with careers and capacity to have a conversation and problem solve during mutual differences. But it’s just little boy men that treat those apps like a vending machine.
Do your self a solid and focus on you! Eat better, exercise, learn new self care habits and take up a hobby or take a course!

KittygosMeoWW · Accepted Answer

I’ve been on tinder, hinge, and bumble… they all sucked. I started taking some classes at my local college and there’s a lot of single people lol maybe that would be helpful.

ohsheeT · Answer

I wouldn't have a clue I have started probably five six seven different profile pages and I might get a quarter of the way through maybe halfway through but I click off of it and I never go back so I don't really know

Avicenna · Answer

I met by far the more interesting and compatible women on Bumble. Even there, results were mixed.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I tried OK Cupid  way  back in 2012. There were some weirdos there. The ones that weren't also weren't what I was looking for. The only other one I tried was one that was specifically for Catholics. That was... better, I guess. You were able to get more descriptive about what you want in a relationship and marriage, who you are, and to what degree you practiced and believed the Catholic Faith (how often you go to Mass, faithfulness to Church teachings, etc.). There were chatrooms, trivia games, and other interesting features. It ended up being a moot point for me, because I met my wife in person... and oddly enough, while I was on a "dating fast". Both of my sisters met their partners on that site though (one, her husband and the other, her soon-to-be husband).

HighValue · Answer

Try something more serious like eharmony. And actually put in effort in the conversations. Many women have almost no conversational skills on online dating sites. Realistically look at yourself, your qualities, appearance, age, etc. and realize that dating is a competition. Compare yourself to the other available women, then think, what kind of man are you looking for and what are his options? If you want someone that people with more appealing qualities also wants, you likely won't get him. Be realistic with who you go for.

Also, when it comes to dating/relationship advice, it is almost never helpful to listen to women's advice. It is often incorrect, and intentionally harmful.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for me I prefer offline dating & although I tried online dating I can honestly say that the online dating shit isn’t for me. With offline dating what you see is what you get & with online dating especially nowadays what you see turns out to be a freak show.

Levin · Answer

I'm not sure what the female experience is, well, I know it's the exact opposite of what it's like for a man (tumbleweeds).

Those apps haven't worked for a decade or so. They're just a cynical way to exploit money out of sad, desperate and lonely men.

SixFootSexy · Answer

I'd say, none of them. Like an addictive video game, they are designed to get and keep you in a dopamine trap. I'll let the video explain better:

itsannalee · Answer

I tried Tinder few years ago, and met a famous Basketball player here. And I didn’t know who is that guy, because I don’t watch basketball. When i uploaded videos in the IG story, some people asked me how do i know him.

Lynx122 · Answer

I've only tried tinder and I hated it so I haven't tried any more after that.

chrissykerdock · Answer

adult friend finder they actually match you with guys who want what you like

ICanSmellTheCosmos · Answer

Bumble was the worst injury on my self-confidence that I've ever suffered. Complete waste of time.

I did get plenty of likes on OkCupid when I would change my location to someplace abroad, but most of those were golddiggers and citizenship-chasers.

strateguy632 · Answer

I tried a bunch the apps are awful and disappointing. Try

Flower7 · Answer

Ok Cupid because it matches people based on their personalities. Each person who joins takes a personality test and based on that, they show people who you’d get along with well.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve heard Match is better for older people. Tinder is mostly just for hookups. I’m not sure about the other two.

Jakefromstatefarm6 · Answer

Depends on what your looking for and the dating app economy in your area. I live in a rural area and it seems most people are on just one dating app. And Tinder isn't for dating it's for hooking up.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

They’re all trash. I know it’s a struggle as a fellow introvert, but the old fashioned way is by far the best way to meet someone. ( assuming you actually want to date, not everyone does)

Anonymous · Answer

Well each is for a different age group and type of person, so you can't really compare them one to one. You might as well put Silver Singles and jdate on there if you're going to do that. And FarmersOnly. com

Yannae · Answer

I had the most success with okc, but a friend said it's like tinder now. So now it's probably just as bad.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Tinder because it's the most popular where I'm from. I also met 3 long term partners from there.

Lottydotty · Answer

Nothin. All infested with similar ploblematic people

paledreams · Answer

I have fond memories of Tinder - Bumble was alright yet I didn't catch any fish lol 😞😆

Slim57 · Answer

None. They are horrible and will make you hate the opposite gender

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Plenty of fish pr badoo

emeraldsaphire · Answer

the 20% other use Grindr XD

slatyb · Answer

My wife and I met on match some years ago.

DrPepper12 · Answer

It's mad old but IRL was my go to!

Vegasrunner · Answer

They are all pretty good.

smahala1991 · Answer

Bumble or ok cupid

dudeinohio · Answer

Facebook dating

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