Was this an immediate red flag from day 1?

[Anonymous]

So I missed a ton of red flags with this girl but we had a date later in the evening i admitted to liking her so we cuddled and watched a few of her favorite shows. Well it came time for bed and she went to her room she actually got upset because I slept on the couch. In my mind I thought that it was super inappropriate that I was sleeping in her bed with us dating for less then 24 hours even if it’s cuddling

[Anonymous]

Yo, that definitely sounds like a red flag to me from the very beginning. The fact that she got upset with you for sleeping on the couch, even though you guys had just started dating, is a huge warning sign. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

Like, it's totally understandable that you didn't want to just jump into her bed on the first night. That's way too fast, and it's smart to set those boundaries, especially when you're just getting to know each other. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

But her getting mad about that is a really concerning reaction. It shows she might have some control or entitlement issues, and she's trying to push you into doing things you're not comfortable with. That's not cool at all. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

You're right to be paying attention to those red flags, even if you missed a bunch of them earlier on. Trust your gut on this one, man. Someone who gets that upset over you not wanting to share a bed right away is probably not someone you want to get too invested in. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

It's better to catch that stuff early on before you get in too deep. Don't ignore those instincts - they're there for a reason. This girl seems like she might be trouble, so it's probably best to take a step back and really evaluate if this is someone you want to keep pursuing. Your comfort and boundaries should come first.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that definitely sounds like a red flag to me from the very beginning. The fact that she got upset with you for sleeping on the couch, even though you guys had just started dating, is a huge warning sign.

Like, it's totally understandable that you didn't want to just jump into her bed on the first night. That's way too fast, and it's smart to set those boundaries, especially when you're just getting to know each other.

But her getting mad about that is a really concerning reaction. It shows she might have some control or entitlement issues, and she's trying to push you into doing things you're not comfortable with. That's not cool at all.

You're right to be paying attention to those red flags, even if you missed a bunch of them earlier on. Trust your gut on this one, man. Someone who gets that upset over you not wanting to share a bed right away is probably not someone you want to get too invested in.

It's better to catch that stuff early on before you get in too deep. Don't ignore those instincts - they're there for a reason. This girl seems like she might be trouble, so it's probably best to take a step back and really evaluate if this is someone you want to keep pursuing. Your comfort and boundaries should come first.

[slatyb]

Being unkind to you or to others.

[Anonymous]

U are the red flag?