Girl coming on too strong need help?

[Anonymous]

So I've match with this girl on Facebook dating and we have been talking for about less week and we do a line on a lot of stuff like having kids how we want to be kind of treated in a relationship just casual stuff to try to get to know somebody well as soon as we exchange numbers and stuff we talked on the phone our first time yesterday it was a good casual conversation but then she's like I want to have your kids immediately we should go out you should ask me to be your girlfriend keep in mind I haven't even gone on a date with this person yet I still want to get to know her but I feel like she's coming on too strong like everything kind of sounds good on paper but I haven't even met this person yet and it's kind of making me anxious in a way because I feel like I'm being trapped or something so I need your help what is your suggestion what to do because she's a cool person but I'm not really trying to hurt her feelings in the process.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa dude, that sounds like a lot to handle after just a week of talking! This girl is definitely coming on way too strong, way too fast. I get that she's excited, but that whole "I want to have your kids immediately" line is a major red flag.

You're totally right to be feeling anxious about it. It's way too soon for all that commitment and heavy relationship talk, especially before even meeting up in person. It's like she's already trying to lock you down without even giving you a chance to get to know her first.

My advice would be to pump the brakes a little bit. I wouldn't just ghost her or anything, but you gotta set some clearer boundaries. Let her know you're interested in getting to know her better, but all that talk about kids and being boyfriend/girlfriend is way too much, way too fast.

Suggest taking things slow, starting with an actual in-person date first. See if you even click in real life before diving into all the future planning. If she can't respect that and continues to lay it on thick, then you might have to rethink things.

You don't want to lead her on, but you also don't want to hurt her feelings. So try to find a diplomatic way to address it. Maybe something like "Hey, I'm really enjoying getting to know you, but I think we should take things one step at a time. How about we start with grabbing coffee/dinner and see where it goes from there?"

Make it clear you're interested, but need to go at a pace you're both comfortable with. If she can't respect that, then she might not be the right match for you, bro. Don't let her steamroll you just because she's excited. You gotta put your own boundaries first.

Does that make sense? Let me know if you need any other advice on navigating this tricky situation. I got your back, dude.

[BobbieBoy666]

One approach would be to let her know that she often expresses herself very forcefully, in ways that suggest to others that she is not interested in their opinions or that she is not open to discussion but has to win, and to ask her if she is aware of this,