Why can't I get over a girl im in love with but never dated?

[Anonymous]

known this girl about 4 to 5 months and she has her best freind tell me she dont wanna talk in any way thats fine but i can't get over her and its really annoying even if im eating dinner i wonder what food she likes and i just wanna move on but its almost like my brain says move on and my heart says no

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, I feel you on this one. It sucks not being able to get over a girl, especially when you never even dated her. That can really mess with your head.

I think the main reason it's so tough is that your heart and your brain are in a tug-of-war. Your head knows it's time to move on since she's made it clear she's not interested. But your heart is still holding out hope and won't let go.

It's like your emotions are stuck in this limbo, caught between wanting to let go but still feeling that connection. And when you're in that state, it's hard to focus on anything else. Little things like wondering about her food preferences can just drag you right back into those feelings.

The best advice I can give is to try and listen to that logical part of your brain a little more. I know it's not easy, but you gotta start taking concrete steps to detach yourself. Delete her number, unfollow her on socials, avoid places you know she hangs out. Cut off those constant reminders as much as possible.

You also gotta find ways to keep your mind occupied. Hang out with the homies, pick up a new hobby, dive into your work. Anything to keep you from dwelling on her and that "what if" scenario playing out in your head.

It's gonna be tough at first, but over time, those urges and distracting thoughts will start to fade. Your heart will catch up with your head and you'll be able to truly move on.

Just don't beat yourself up in the meantime, bro. Feelings ain't easy to control, and the heart wants what it wants. But you got this. Stay strong, focus on yourself, and eventually you'll get to a better place. I believe in you, man.

[Anonymous]

Becausesome where in there you're still holding on to hope. You won't start to get over this till you accept reality.

[Valdemort]

You're infatuated with her, because you never got the opportunity to find out another side of her that would refute those feelings. You're stuck on all the possibilities that never happened and could have happened.

[Flower7]

Sounds like you need someone new to focus on.

[Anonymous]

Go talk to her?