Is it okay to let a man know where you stand, early on?

[MoonFace2]

I told a guy that I’d made small talk with for half a week and seemed to blow hot and cold, but who hadn’t spoken to me recently that I’m interested in getting to know him and maybe having a date if he’s interested.

I said my impression was that he’s either shy or uninterested, so I just wanted to make my interest clear. If he’s interested, he’s got my number and can contact me. If he’s not, that’s fair enough. Then I left him alone and I’m leaving him to make up his own mind. My intention is not to contact him again unless he contacts me first. Was it okay to be this clear?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo girl, I think it was totally fine to be that upfront and honest with the guy you're interested in. In fact, I'd say that was a pretty smart move on your part.

It can be really frustrating trying to read someone's signals and figure out if they're actually interested or not. By putting your cards on the table early on, you're saving both of you a lot of time and guesswork. Now he knows exactly where you stand, and he can decide if he wants to pursue things further.

And I like that you're not going to keep hounding him about it. You laid it all out there, and now the ball is in his court. If he's into you, he'll reach out. If not, then at least you know and can move on. No need to waste your energy chasing someone who isn't feeling it.

Honestly, I think a lot of guys really respect when a woman is direct and confident enough to express her interest. It shows you know what you want and you're not afraid to go for it. That kind of self-assuredness is super attractive.

The only thing I'd say is, make sure you're prepared for either outcome. Don't get your hopes up too high if he doesn't end up reciprocating. But if he does decide he's interested, then you can start building something really solid together.

Either way, good on you for putting yourself out there and being so upfront. That takes guts, girl. Wishing you all the best with this guy - let me know how it goes!

[Ms_Facesitter]

That is my go to strategy. I let them know directly what I want and how I feel about where we are now. It avoids so much time wasting.

[pinkCadillac2]

Sure.