Is a guy really supposed to approach first and how are we supposed to know that it's safe to?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Yes, we guys are supposed to. Unless you're really good looking, you probably won't have women ask you out. It happens, but it's rare. You can wait... but you may be waiting your years away expecting it.

I don't know how we're supposed to know. The guys say that they've never had rude rejections... I've had almost entirely rude rejections.

For me, I ask if it seems like it'd be a bigger loss if I didn't. But she has to at least SEEM pretty open to the idea. I suppose if you're flirting, and they look at you and roll their eyes, or look at you with disgust and contempt... don't ask. But if you get a smile, or there's flirting back... then if you want to ask, ask (be respectful, don't beg, don't let her get to you if she DOES choose to be nasty).

Oh, her feet point at you, it's a go! Wait for her pupils to dilate, and you're good. (Jeez, what a load of crap. How the heck are we supposed to know whether her pupils dilate without staring... I know I have rarely ever noticed suddenly dilated pupils... even with girls I've dated). Oh it's a look or half a second glance, and you're supposed to know that.

If she grabs you by the collar and plants one on you... ok, she's interested. But otherwise, I don't know. I can tell you most of the girls I have asked out seemed interested in my mind, even if they apparently thought I was gross.

If you're convinced she's somehow giving clues that are obvious enough to you... then ask if you want. I guess it just comes down to that. Yes, be respectful. Yes, have a good plan, and MAYBE a backup. No, don't beg. You don't need to know why she said no. You don't want her living in that head space. Get in, get out (with as much dignity as you can). If necessary, stick up for yourself without getting angry or mouthing off (even if she does that). Best I can tell you.

Good luck.

[RebelinSteel]

Either can, and approaching is just down to being open, nice, respecting the other persons space, not talking to her tits. That’s why flirting is usually the best way. It’s just stuff you learn at school after crashing and burning a number of times

[Anonymous]

Either person can approach. Is it safe to approach? I mean you might get rejected but that's ok. It's just a no, all it is. You won't be physically assaulted for asking for a number.

[77five]

You think you're gonna get stabbed for approaching? You’ll just get rejected. Its safe.

[Avicenna]

LOL, yes you are supposed to approach first! I have never been rejected rudely. Just be polite, friendly, and funny.

[JacobJordan]

Hm historically guys approached but women made the first move. Women would do something "by accident" to allow a man she was interested in to step up and "save" her. Drop a handkerchief, trip, accidentally bump into him etc. Nowadays the women that don't have healthy relationships seem to think they are special and deserve one and deserve to be approached for existing.

[Dongie]

Ain't that the truth. A very pretty girl I asked out on just 2 different occasions. A month apart. I thought I detected a trace of fear or paranoia. Her coworkers said that she had been stalked heavily a few years earlier. She obtained a concealed permit after the guy was arrested. I never bothered again. But she was physically a perfect 10. Way out of my league but I couldn't help but trying. She always won the butt contest at the Rio Palm Isle. Pretty as a speckled puppy.

[Fireguy17]

One of the greatest mysteries in the world.
The rules are constantly changing, but we never get the updates.
You just expect to be rejected, but once in a while you do something right and it works.

[Chazmatazz269]

It still falls almost entirely on the man to initiate everything. You will never know if it’s “safe” until it’s over. You could end up with a date. You could wind up in jail.

[Yannae]

You're not supposed to. If she's into you, she might approach too. But if she doesn't know you, approaching her might be your best shot. She didn't even know I existed so I approached.

[Anonymous]

Well, like the 80's movies... just lean your arm up on the wall when you're close to her and say, "Hey babe, how's it hangin?😉" And if she doesn't reply with "Ugh, get lost jerk!😒"... then you're in there!😃

[handsomelad70]

A lad must be confident enough to approach a lass, but not arrogant or creepy enough to repulse her.

[RossyBoi]

Men should never approach women. Women should be able to go out without being sexually harassed by men.

[Sasquach]

You're probably the bigger threat since you got more test

[jahaims]

Safe? She isn't going to club you.

[MrDaveAPSI]

If she looks at you, and can't stop

[Anonymous]

Oh please this is nothing new