Ever since I became single, I think about men all the time and I verbalize it when I see someone attractive. Is this obsessive and unhealthy?

[Anonymous]

Personally I don't think it is, but what do you think? Do you do this with attractive people?

I just admire the good looks, charm, and masculinity. I am very genuine about it, and I think many people even like to talk about it, so people appreciate talking to me, but I do think some people like my sister find this obsessive and unhealthy. I don't know if it's because she is my sister.

Obsessive and unhealthy

It's bad but not that bad

Not bad or good but totally normal

This is actually good behavior

This is actually amazing behavior

[SueShe]

I am going to join your sister and agree with her that this behavior is obsessive and unhealthy.

With your ostentatious behavior and open verbalization, you join the league of men that think with their genitals. I may be blunt but you only see the very superficial and unimportant aspect of a person and that is the looks of them. You don't go deeper and discard the important ones - character, personality and intellect.

What will the looks be in 50 years from now? they will have faded away and they will be so anonymous, blend in the crowd and be forgotten. Personality and character will stay a lifelong but you will have dismissed them because your hormones are doing the talking right now.

[Shiprex]

Perhaps you're missing companionship of the male sort and are challenged in the emotional control of your personality. That isn't a threatening behaviour but may be a bit overwhelming. Maybe this behaviour has succeeded for you previously to get some action and that has stuck with you because with most guys a girl who openly makes it clear that she wants some action will more than likely take you up on that.

Women have a far higher chance of success if they put in the effort to get what they want. A relationship though may not be so easy as that kind of behaviour may stick with you and guys might not like that.

Tone it down and avoid overdoing it so you don't get a reputation as that can be unhealthy for you.

[ohsheeT]

There is nothing wrong with that at all.
All women do it all guys do it.

I actually think it's kind of hot myself

[abbyjgriffin98]

There's nothing wrong with finding someone attractive. But what is the reason? Are you just admiring their looks and nothing else? Or are you doing this because you miss your ex or miss being in a relationship? If you are doing this because you miss your ex, I think you should maybe take some time to get to know yourself again and be happy. Even if you did get into a relationship with one of these guys, you would not be in the right headspace to make the greatest decisions. It could lead to you being manipulated, used and dragged a long for ego fuel.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s normal. Don’t stress.

[Anonymous]

No way!