Why do women enjoy hurting men who aren't popular at dating?

[Anonymous]

Many guys on here struggle with women and it seems like women on here enjoy kicking these guys and making them feel even worse.

[Effably]

You become desensitized with exposure.

I am sure most women here initially really tried to encourage some guy. Being understanding and so on. But then... It is not like it is easy to help someone. While the situation sucks and there is a societal issue in dating right now, for men and women, the individual solution is still to get people skills and push forward.

Most of the time people are not receptive to that. It isn't what anyone in a worsened situation wants to hear. But you only have so much support to give and once people have sucked that support up like a dried sponge, and that is not an insult being a guy can be hard, without tangible improvement or even a thank you? Eventually you have to stop caring.

Same reason you ignore most beggars you see even though as a child you likely felt a great deal of compassion. Now as an adult, even though it is unfair, you're more upset they're sitting in front of the store asking for money instead of fixing their problems. Most people know that is not always a reasonable ask. That it is hard to get past deeply rooted problems. It is just hard to care about every stranger when the situation doesn't change.

[DishLady]

"ENJOY" is a strong word. I only know 2 (out of hundreds) of women in my social circles who specifically plan to poach a sugar daddy and drain his resources... and of course I'll typically warn the guy... who doesn't listen because the girls' tatas are big ad fluffy... and then about a year later they're at my door with a sixpack crying over being used by the girl...

Guys need to LOOK at a woman BEFORE he fucks her... or even dates her...
1. IS SHE CRAZY? If so... DON'T GO OUT WITH HER.
2. IS SHE GREEDY? If so... DON'T GO OUT WITH HER.
3. IS SHE NASTY TO PEOPLE? If so... (Drumroll) DON'T GO OUT WITH HER.

My goodness...

[abbyjgriffin98]

I wouldn't say most enjoy it. I definitely don't. There are some women who do, but those women are either extremely bitter/jaded, are seeking attention or are just nasty and arrogant. But that's definitely not all or even most women.

[Anonymous]

Nobody likes a cry-baby, and some of the biggest sooks are on this very site. Even worse, some are in their 30s or even older.

[Angel_ica]

Kicking down mean be honest and not fuck you?