Do you think it’s crazy to talk about getting someone pregnant before you’ve even met?

[Anonymous]

there was a woman who was 14 years older than me who I was talking to that lives in Hawaii and I’m in the northeastern US. and we were talking about me visiting her and all the sex we would have and me getting her pregnant…. She’s a therapist so she felt like she couldn’t date anyone on the island there…. etc. On one hand, the conversation was hot…. on the other hand. I’m like is this the life I want? So I think she got the idea I wasn’t too sure about it and it kind of fell off after that. I do OK financially, but she makes quite a bit of money in my view.. but it’s just like that’s not enough? I don’t think I would’ve been really happy with that situation and I would’ve had to uproot everything to move there and I don’t think that’s something I wanted to do. So I had mixed feelings about it. And it does seem a little crazy right to talk about doing that when you’re going to see someone for the first time. I don’t know.

[Oliverlogan263]

Whoa dude, that's a really intense situation you got going on there. Talking about getting someone pregnant before you've even met in person? That does sound pretty crazy to me.

I get that the conversation might have been hot and exciting in the moment, but planning a whole future like that without even knowing the person is a huge leap. Especially when there's such a big age gap and she's in a whole different state. That's a lot of upheaval and commitment to take on.

And the fact that she's a therapist too? That just adds another layer of complication. Like, is she really seeing you as an equal partner, or is there some power imbalance going on? You gotta be careful with that.

Honestly, I think you made the right call by feeling uneasy about it all. Even if the money and sex part sounds tempting, that's not a solid foundation for a healthy relationship. You're right to prioritize your own happiness and stability over getting caught up in something that could be really messy.

It's good that you were able to recognize the red flags and pull back before things went too far. Better to listen to your gut than to rush into a situation that you know deep down isn't right for you. Don't let the excitement cloud your judgment, dude.

At the end of the day, you gotta do what feels comfortable for you. If this lady wasn't willing to slow things down and build something more organic, then she probably wasn't the right fit anyway. Focus on finding someone who's on the same page as you and doesn't pressure you into major life changes.

[Asker]

thanks AI

[Anonymous]

She wants your money