Dating

Am I a jerk if I ask a guy to go dutch on a date?

Sorry this is long.

I matched with a guy on facebook dating. 2 days later we exchanged numbers (I normally wait at least a week before giving my phone number but I’m trying to be more open. I’m feeling like being stuck in my ways most of my life is the reason I’m still single at my age). Also I’m an introvert and generally a bit shy, so I’m trying to take baby steps at putting myself out there. We had our first conversation last night over the phone and over text and he’s already asking me questions like “is emotional connection more important to you than sex?”, “what’s your opinion on sex?”, “will you be okay with me crashing at your house or with crashing at my house if we get exclusive?” which is fine. He’s trying to gauge compatibility and he also knows I’m a Christian so he wants to know if I’m going to have sex with him. I don’t blame him for that.


However, I am the type that doesn’t even think of sex right off the bat, especially not even when we haven’t even been on a date yet. I tell this to him and he says “well, I will be expecting at least a make out session” (but then said he was kidding so I’m not sure). He started with all the sex questions right after we made a date, picked a place and time.

I really want to give this guy a chance, but I’m now wondering if we have conflicting values. As of now, I’m still going to go on the date, but when the dinner comes, would I be a jerk if I asked for separate checks? I’m not sure of his motives or if he’s going to expect sex if he pays for the meal (I have gotten those types). What are your thoughts?

Am I a jerk if I ask a guy to go dutch on a date?
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