What’s the worst dating advice you ever got?

[Summeroflove]

[Puppystarfish23]

Before I met my husband I was kinda new to the modern dating world and didn't really know what was the right or wrong thing to do or say in these situations.

My friend at the time set me up a tinder and basically told me to start dating around and to see multiple guys and just have fun whilst I'm young as long as im honest about it. I was virgin and I really didn't feel comfortable doing this as I only wanted to lose my virginity to someone I truly love and want to be with forever.

I got a date with this guy who seemed nice to begin with and then another guy asked me out around the same time. He was very handsome and promised to take me out to a really nice champagne bar and wine and dine me. I thought he was really nice and deserved to know the truth so I told him he'd have to wait until I had a date with the other guy I'd promised a date with first. He instantly stopped messaging me back and I was ghosted. I thought that was normal in the dating world and being honest was the right thing to go about it.

Anyways I go on the date with the first lad who asked me out and he was a total cat fish and it was the worst date ever.

Put everything happens for a reason I learnt that kind of dating style wasn't for me and then my second date happened to be with my now husband.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Anything that makes you go out of your way to be someone that you're not.

At some point you're not able to keep the facade up, and that's when trouble starts.

[sawno]

The whole concept that you'd have to try and impress a girl or all that tough guy bullshit. Its not direct advice but its an expectation you pick up on. Thankfully I was smart enough not to do that.

there's two issues with it, first of all you can't keep that up. So once you fail to keep it up she's gonna wonder what the hell happened. Is she no longer special to you? Did you stop trying? No, you got burned out overdoing it. Finding someone who loves you when your not doing that works way better because to them you are putting your best foot forward but instead your being yourself and they actually love you for who you are.

And then you have my type of girl, the girl who is smart enough to see trough it right away. If I had even tried this with my ex she'd have seen right trough me and would have dismissed me up front. she's the kind of girl who can spot any lie from a mile away but gives you room for making mistakes as long as its honest and well intended.

So yeah maybe everyone knows this and its just bad advice you think succesfull guys are doing, but if anyone tells you to lead a girl on and you want something serious don't do that. The whole thing for girls is to spot a guy who is being honest because they do want it long term a lot of the time.

[ArrowheadSW]

It is hard to say what the worst dating advice was that I ever got, because MOST dating advice is bad, in my opinion. LOL... One thing that I've found is that people who have been married for a long time, say 20 years or longer, think that dating is still the way it was when they were 22. When you are 45 plus dating is very much different. One guy who I knew when I was 24, and he got married when he was 30, was trying to tell me about dating recently. It's like dude, things are DIFFERENT at this age if you're single!

[ArrowheadSW]

I remember when I was about 42, a friend of mine who was about 55 and married for 30 years, was trying to get me to pursue a lady who was about my age. He was saying stuff like, "Hurry up because she is going to get snapped up!"... Dude, it isn't like she is 22. She isn't going to get snapped up. And I didn't NEED that guy's coaching anyway! LOL

[Zack-Bann]

“Be yourself and your destined soulmate that the divine forces have picked out and stamped with your name will eventually find you and give you love and affection because you deserve it and you’re a king”


Obviously I exaggerated the phrasing to drive the point home.


There’s nothing worse than taking a passive stance in your dating life especially as a man


Meeting someone isn’t guaranteed you have to make it happen.
Take steps
Work on yourself
Put yourself in social situations
Learn and improve
And take the risks


End of they day you’re either dating or single
Self righteousness, ego, desperation have absolutely no bearing on that simple concept


So might as well skip the pity party and go to an actual party

[Anonymous]

“Be yourself.” Good Lord, I should probably be anyone BUT myself if I want to date. No. “Be yourself, and a woman will love you for you and will find you attractive… well, at my mid 40’s, no one has really found me all that attractive. Eh, when they thought I had money, then maybe a little.

[Miah06]

"Settle. You won't get everything you want."

I think settling is why there is so much divorce. We sell out what our preferences are just to say hey, i found someone.

I rather be patient and find the person i feel is right for me

[MemeSupreme]

"don't date a guy who smokes cigarettes bc you'll taste it in his cum"

that out of pocket advice was from my aunt when i was 14 while she was almost passing out from wine lmfaoo it always made her tired

[strateguy632]

That is so backwards! "because he will stink all day" but you won't taste it ever!

[MemeSupreme]

i like the smell of cigarettes but i didn't wanna know about the taste part FROM MY AUNT out of all people

idkk if it's true and don't wanna know

[Booboolove69]

Hilarious 😆
Is this true?

[NicholasRedone]

@summeroflove don't give up on love : that's an easy way to get into legal strife ; like those folks who can't take a hint, should take a hint : "she doesn't want you* " and the same for ladies out there "he doesn't want, you" kindly 😐😯 otherwise the law or the po-po 🚓🚨

[Loverofwisdom]

"If a guy is not okay with you talking with other men on social media. It means he's serious and he's a keeper".

[Jay-_-]

This opinion is all over the place, no Offense. If he has a bad personality that's a different story but nothing is wrong with him not wanting to see you talk to another man, why's it gotta be a man, why not a woman?

[Jay-_-]

And if you want that you have to be willing to do the same, it's all about being mutual at the end of the day.

[Loverofwisdom]

@Jay-_- I'm not getting rid of all of my previous male friends just because I get in a relationship. I would also not ask him to get rid of any female friends he has.

I don't like anyone who is controlling and i'm sorry unless I am actively trying to get into bed with other people (Which I don't do) then no there isn't a problem nor would I have an issue with him.

[Jay-_-]

Got it.

[Cuminginside]

@Jay-_- she probably does anyway It sounds like a defensive stance.

[Loverofwisdom]

@Cuminginside No you just don't like it when anyone argues with you're incoherent points and you ASSUME that that's what I do and you say anyone who responds to your false opinions is being "Defensive".

[Cuminginside]

You didn't even have to respond You could have just ignored me but You chose to respond therefore your defensive. Please lady I deal with drug addicts all day long I know about defensive posturing. Here's a Valium and call me in the morning.

[Loverofwisdom]

@Cuminginside lol if you talk to someone on the internet don't be surprised if they reply back
You just want to be able to say what you want and not be argued with... you think you're special and you can say whatever you want and not be able to be responded back too. That's arrogance.
Sorry that's not how the internet works.
Don't like it, get lost.

[Cuminginside]

I deal with stupid people all day long so forgive me if I have intelligence. You've never worked in Appalachia have you?

[Nikki1989]

I feel sorry for people who seek dating advice on websites like this one. I ignore it ALL, but I am sure there has to be a few that take some of it seriously, and that is a scary thought.

[blackeagle007]

Just sit back and do nothing. Hell some joker said this girl he liked was going to some gathering but he didn’t go because he wanted to appear busy and thinks that’s attractive 😆.

He finally married but he had to put in effort pursuing her. Go figure

[clampfan101]

lol I’m totally acting this out when I get a son!

[Jay-_-]

That you are "insecure" for not allowing foolish behavior. I would elaborate but it's a lot to write.

[unknowngurll1212]

" he is looking good and matches with you.. so accept his proposal".. well , he is a type of guy who flirts with all girls equally

[Cuminginside]

Over here in America they always say just because they look good ( like food) doesn't mean that it is inside is what counts.

[KostasKouvalis]

"Persistence pays off"

Maybe for SOME people, but for others it only gets them in trouble

[strateguy632]

"Don't be picky" the worst advice!

[Samuel75]

Don't be loyal in a relationship.

But this advise sucks and I don't advise anyone to listen to it.

[LiamJHayden]

"Don't bother, she's out of your league." I have gotten several dates by ignoring that type of "advice."

[Anonymous]

"Shoot your shot". I reject any woman that uses that term on principle. A woman that uses that term has no intention of ever taking g you serious. Even if she does I promise you she will never be loyal. Run away FAST!!!😆

[MizzArtFreak89]

Giving someone a chance when I’m not even attracted or interested in them. Someone says, “Give them a chance. Or you got yourself a good man/woman.” when the other person has no attraction to them.

[Hellraiser1984]

Be yourself. No being yourself only works if you're an a$$hole. Yet that's the only thing that works.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I was only 10 years old and my uncle told me to get as many backups as possible just in case. But then my grandma overheard and she got so mad.

[Anonymous]

Literally every single piece of dating advice I have ever gotten from women.

[Cuminginside]

Yeah I hear that especially with their psyche sometimes is twitchy and no advice from a twitch.

[Mark1o2]

That he/she isn't right for you. Realtionship is n't running comepetition, but it is ongoing compromises and arragnement and adjustment

[Blackcat1952]

Sorry charlie None I haven't dated.
Since ninety three

[ProbablyClueless]

Be yourself is really bad

[Little_Bumblebee]

Why, though?

[ProbablyClueless]

@Little_Bumblebee I dislike it because I think it does a bad job of framing a fantastic piece of advice, which is to be authentic.

Being true to who you are is essential in dating, but you don't want to stop growing. The statement "be yourself" implies that you're good and datable in your present form. Not every critique or comment from the person you're dating is controlling. And the simple fact that you changed something to be more datable doesn't automatically make you any less authentic.

And beyond all of that, "yourself" contains the word "self." Self means it's a one person show

[Little_Bumblebee]

Think it depends on how you take the "advice" then, yeah.

I see where you're coming from.
I never read it that way, though.

[Anonymous]

Stay Single my friend 😎, women only want money now 🙄

[DishLady]

“Marry the guy…”

[Flower7]

“You’ll find someone else”.

[Cuminginside]

Yeah how long does that take?

[Unap0logetic_]

Women aren’t supposed to play the field.

[Booboolove69]

Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve

[Anonymous]

“Be a man and pursue.”