Is this ghosting or did the conversation end?

[Anonymous]

I (22F) like this guy (22M) who works with me at one of my college's clubs. I had a suspicion he liked me because I catch him staring at me and there's just this tension between us when we talk. Anyway I want to apply for a position on the board next year and I asked him to apply also. I sent these messages in Slack by the way so it felt like it was for more professional reasons.

But I feel like he ghosted me today. It's been 9+ hours and still no response. On the other hand, does this require a response? Is there a chance I'm just thinking too much into this?

This was our convo. Mainly just playful banter:

Me: "You should apply for a place on the board because I’m not loving the lineup so far 😆"

Him: "Hey [my name], omg I’m flattered to hear this lol. I won’t be in [our city] next semester though so I wouldn’t be much help as a member. Will you be on the board?"

Me: Maybe! You should storm the capitol while you're there

Him: "I think you'd have to deal with some serious fallout back here if that were the case."

Me: "Not if you're discreet enough... sounds like a skill issue."

Him: "Bruh you’d have to be some special type of Marvel superhero to pull off a trick like that."

Me: "Ever wonder why you’ve never seen me and the Hulk in the same room?"

[SteveSmith1985]

My best guess: The short answer, he didn't ghost you.

He just wasn't able to respond because of something happening in his real life (problem at work, phone call anything).

So something distracted him for enough to pull his attention away from the conversation for long enough... that he's thinking:

"It's weird to... reply to something she sent 2 hours right? She'd probably think it was weird. Its not like she's expecting a response. It'd be a weird thing to do to like... ask her about that Hulk joke from 6 hours ago."

So I think this conversation came to an end, because there is too much unspoken tension between you two. He wasn't sure whether this conversation was something he should/could pick-back up with you? Or if you would think it weird.

I think it's his overthinking that caused him to go with the safe bet. Not picking this conversation back up.

Once he felt weird about it being too late to pick back up, that's only going to seem weirder over time (in other words, its easier for him to pick it back up after one hour, rather than 7 hours later.

The caveat is if you tow talk on that platform regularly (I'm guessing not though)

You (or he) can start up a new conversation. Consider this one finished. I don't think there is anything to worry about.

(P. S. If he ever becomes your boyfriend. Please consider not letting him call you "bruh.")

P. P. S. Why haven't I ever seen you, and the Hulk, in the same room? (Don't leave me hanging)

🙂

[Asker]

Haha thank you for your thoughtful response!

[SteveSmith1985]

You're quite welcome!

[Shiprex]

9 hours? Ghosting? Seriously? Maybe he's doing something rather than ghosting you.

I like the Hulk reference though