Can someone explain this? ghosting situation?

[Anonymous]

we’d been up until 4 am. Then texted a bit the following day and he didn’t reply then said sorry I fell asleep super early. Which I expected since we’d been up so late
Then today said yeah I’m free these days how are you today and now isn’t replying to me

For context we’ve had one date. I went to his we had sex it was good and we had a good time and then todays he replied that one message then nothing

Why ask how I am if you plan on ghosting?

[Anonymous]

Ghosting! Omg. First let me warn you that the user Oliverlogan uses chatgpt to generate all opinions amd even replies. He does not read a single word you write. He just copy pastes what artificial intelligence says, you can do it yourself for free. Oliverlogan had multiple accounts banned from here already for doing this. You're better off reporting him for spam, he literally does not read a word you write.

But ghosting where some dildopricks just stop taking part in conversations in an entirely one sided way without providing a proper exit stage left is like a fart in public that's gone unnoticed but it’s not. You know what? Ghosting is pretty low. Just a simple text like ‘heh…yeah, not up for much text talk today...,’ or a polite and quick 'I'm gonna stop replying for a moment.' You can also try a 'Hit me when you stop texting, let us all know that our attention has officially ended like your cock going into me." That'd save people's hearts.
But here, sweetheart there ain't no need for 'ghosting', he's up to not being around, could have some real-life bull$h*ttng like working or maybe his parents have a 'talk of a special adult nature' to impar... oh well I just mean like they got together for whatever reason, he ain't just avoiding like he doesn't exist, ya catch my flow?
Basically my queen, he’s busy. He could want a different puss... um I mean, ‘date mate’… I meant a new play-partner - a more intense, rough or different sex encounter…yeah, that makes sense in text landia.’
Just give him some time…unless of-fucking-course, unless it's you being ghosted…in that instance well girl.. let your nethackles fall…go berserk - you know how... and f**k some new ones, 'cause ghosters gotta get holed.’ Remember hon, sometimes life's tense. ﾠ

[BoobSlayer]

For context, we’ve had one date. I went to his we had sex it was good and we had a good time. Then, today, he replied to one of my messages saying that he was thinking about me. That’s when I knew he was interested. After that, he disappeared, ghosting me. I don’t understand why he would want to talk to me if he was just going to disappear. Why ask how I am if you plan on ghosting? It makes no sense to me. I’m starting to feel like I’m just a booty call for him, and that’s not what I want. I want a partner who is committed to our relationship. I’m getting tired of being ignored and taken for granted. I deserve better. I’m done with the boob-obsessed manner in which to comment: melons, boobies, tits, milkers, fried eggs, chesticles, honkers, bazoombas, coconuts, fiery biscuits, cantaloupes, boom booms, and jugs.ㅤ

[ShesRad80]

ghosting is for cowards who dont have the balls or intelligence/IQ to elaborate their feelings, he might no longer be interested, might have only wanted sex, might have someone else, so many possibilities. he's a coward and not worth your time just block him and be done with it, after all ghosts have a way of reappearing weeks or months later when they want something again

[Oliverlogan263]

It's definitely confusing and inconsiderate behavior when someone asks you a question then ghosts without replying. A few possibilities for what's happening here:

- He may have lost interest after the one date/hookup and doesn't have the maturity to communicate that directly. Ghosting is an immature way to fade away.

- Asking how you are could have been a polite obligatory question without intention to actually follow up on your response.

- He may struggle with commitment/vulnerability after intimacy and retreats by disappearing rather than having an honest conversation.

- Something unrelated could have come up in his personal life to distract him from responding consistently.

- It's possible he's talking to other people too and isn't fully invested in following through on this one connection.

Whatever the reason, him asking then ghosting sends mixed messages and isn't respectful of your time/feelings. At this point, I'd say don't reach out further and see if he follows up on his own terms, if at all. His fading interest level is now quite clear through his inconsistent actions. You deserve someone willing to openly communicate.

[Asker]

Does it mean the sex wasn’t that good?

[Oliverlogan263]

Not necessarily. There are a few reasons why he may be ghosting that have nothing to do with the quality of the sex specifically:

- As mentioned, intimacy and vulnerability after sex could trigger avoidant tendencies in some people, making them pull away regardless of performance.

- If he was primarily interested in a casual hookup, he may feel he's gotten what he wanted from one encounter and loses motivation to follow up.

- There could be other personal factors like anxiety, commitment issues, or juggling multiple dates that influence his fickle communication more than sex quality alone.

- It's possible he started chatting with someone else more intriguing and his interest shifted, but that's no reflection on your abilities.

- People often ghost due to their own internal conflicts, not anything the other person did "wrong."

Unless he directly offered critical sexual feedback, it's impossible to know for certain how satisfying he found the experience. His actions afterwards suggest issues with his ability/willingness to communicate consistently more than a verdict on your intimacy. Try not to overanalyze or personalize it. His wishy-washy behavior likely says more about him than you.