So I ask this question because I find me and the guy I'm currently talking to are very compatible musically. I think if you're a music lover, it's extremely important to have similar music tastes but that's just me.
What are your thoughts?
If you're not compatible in music, will it still work?
I'm a rocker. I was a lead guitarist and vocalist in garage bands from age 16 through my 20s. I was particularly into hard rock like Deep Purple, Black Sabbath, etc. My wife was a disco chick and liked going out dancing at clubs when she was young.
I was horrified when Saturday Night Fever came out. I couldn't imagine anything more repulsive than John Travolta's character in that film and I hated the song Stayin' Alive.
Given our differences, after our first date, my (future) wife called me, said some friends had offered her two tickets to see the Red Hot Chili Peppers open for the Rolling Stones, and wondered if I was interested. She knew I was a rocker and thought I would like that music even though she didn't know anything about it. Of course I was interested. It wasn't her kind of music at all, but we had a great time at the concert.
Since we've been married, I have introduced her to some of my favorite music. And, to my surprise, I have come to appreciate a lot of the disco stuff she used to like.
We also have a lot of music in common, mostly pop songs from the 60s and 70s.. There are some songs that we get a kick out of and sing together on occasion. A couple are: I've Got You Babe by Sonny and Cher
We had some friends who used to hold 4 or 5 karaoke parties at their house every year from about 2005 to 2020. Since I'm a vocalist, I sang lots of different things and even discovered that I was good at old stuff that I would never have dreamed of singing - Sinatra, Tony Bennett, Bobby Darin, Elvis, Johnny Rivers, Roger Miller, ...
And my wife and I would sing duets to songs like Ferry Cross the Mersey by Gerry and the Pacemakers, Daydream Believer by Davy Jones of the Monkeys, and other things.
I started another band and played from about 2005 to 2020 when covid mandates shut everything down. My wife love listening to me practice and to our band play.
In the end, our musical differences didn't cause any conflict. Our musical appreciation actually expanded. She likes some of my music now and I like a lot of the stuff that she appreciates. And, as I said, we get a kick out of old stuff that we both liked when we were young.
I will say that I am familiar with lots more music than her because I was surrounded by music most of my life. I had a stack of 45 rpm records from the 50s and early 60s that an uncle gave at a kid. I watched Laurence Welk and variety shows with guest musicians at my grandparent's house. My grandfather had a large record collection and introduced me to lots of stuff. I listened to the transistor radio a lot. And my friends in high school had eclectic tastes. All that contributed to my musical knowledge and appreciation.
I've introduced my wife to a lot. Some of it she likes and some of it not so much. She's not really into electric guitar leads. To her ear, they just sound like noise. LOL
Yes I agree same taste in music is and added plus . Therecare some people who only like what they like pr people like me who likes music and welcomes all types
As far as what music we like or don't like, this is a minor thing to me.
However I would have trouble being with anybody who thinks music is SO IMPORTANT and I have to sit down and LISTEN and PAY ATTENTION to the music they like all the time, or if I like popular music I just haven’t been exposed to the good music that they know about and if I listen to their music it will change my life and that kind of thing. I hate that and I couldn’t date anybody who bugged me about that sort of thing v often.
Same here. I listen to it while I'm at work and when I get home. I'm not musically inclined like you but I enjoy listening to music all day long. So it definitely wouldn't work for me either if we didn't have similar taste in music.
hahha, I think you can make it work with different musical tastes. I've always been a big music person. I've never dated someone who shared my musical tastes. My girlfriends generally didn't feel as strongly about music as I did. Music issues were not a problem.
I guess I don't really know since none of my girlfriends shared my love of music. The good part is that you get to intoduce them to good music. But you don't get to talk about music on anything but a superficial level. I'd rather have someone who didn't care about music, rather than someone who loves music too... but they love terrible music. That would be the worst. You'd have to compromise and being forced to listen to jazz or something half the time. That might be a relationship problem. I don't know. Thankfully.
I have pretty extensive musical tastes. Everything from ultra-violent hip-hop, to Bob Dylan, to Nirvana and Metallica. The only music I really dislike is electronica dance crap and jazz (blues I feel totally differently. I'm a big Muddy Waters fan).
Do you play any instruments? I used to when I was a kid (violin, trombone, guitar). I bought an accordion a year or so ago. Still haven't gotten very far with it. I'm just messing around with it every once in a while.
haha, yes it is! I can even play that one on the accordion. That's cool. I don't actually still play any of the instruments I used to know. So... we end up the same. Playing silent night. (I just do it with an um-pa-pa... you know... because its an accordion)
It’s better to be with someone that has a lot of similar interests as you do , just so you have more things to share together. A relationship can still work if you don’t have similar music taste , but it’s better to be with someone with similar music taste so you both can enjoy music and concerts together
I think it would ideal perhaps, or better... if both partners had the same or similar taste in music... but I know from experience that it can work just as fine, when there's different likes in music as long as nobody gets snobby about it... lmao
what I find very difficult to imagine is for me to be with someone who doesn't like music at all...
Yeah, it can still work. But obviously it’s better if you like most of the same stuff.
My lady and I share a love of 90s R&B and rap. But she likes some more “girl-pop” that’s not always for me, and I like a lot of VERY gangsta rap, that I can’t even envision having female fans, lmao.
I think we just enjoy what we mutually enjoy together, and mostly listen to other stuff on our own time. Once in a while I have to hear Ke$ha or something😂
My boyfriend likes punk. It's taken quite some time before to get used to it. But it never caused a division between us. I just listen to whatever he plays.
I felt like with my ex I had to get into his music which I didn't like. I wanted to be able to listen to songs that we really liked together with my s/o. And this current guy I'm seeing has similar taste in music so I feel I won't have that problem. It wasn't the cause of our breakup though but it's just something I preferred.
Not really something I really ever thought about. For the most part all I have been involved with shared relatively similar musical interest. Some even took preference of my music over a large part of their own. Still, I am stuck to so much of other’s music that I largely drown it out in my head if I do not care for it. Could be why I prefer silence over music when alone.
I don't care, I have quite weird taste in music so majority of people wouldn't like my music, I like to listen to classical, religious, love and army song not really the kind of music people like, most people like either metal or rap.
@DrPepper12 I can get that. It'd probably be more fun that way!. Honestly it's probably just a lifestyle influenced difference in perspective. Music has always been a sort of escape for me - away from things and not towards anything. Just me and music 🎶
My music taste is very diverse so I don’t think music would be an issue altho if he has no rhythm that would be harder for me cuz music is so deeply rooted in my culture
The 30 or 40 people in my band over the decades liked all sorts of different music and that made it kinda interesting! We were sort of a melting pot. You couldn't quite pin us down to one specific genre other than, rock.
I think it adds a really good mutual positive energy tho, but it definitely DOESN'T determine if you two are compatible for each other in the long run.
Yep that's also true. With each date, I'm learning more about him and seeing if I could really see myself with him long term. There's other things we are compatible in but music is my life so that was something I really found important for me.
Yep it sure can. I sent him a song a few hours ago and he really liked it. I felt like it made our bond a bit stronger. Music is so transcendental. It can lift you beyond ordinary experience and connect you to something greater.
Broadly and don't be offended @Simslover92 my librarian friend - no, not at all could I date a woman or make love to a woman who didn't share - my tastes in music 🎵🎶
No, there has to be some overlap. She doesn't have to be a full-blown metalhead or Prog fan, but if all she likes is modern pitch-corrected pop and hip-hop it won't last long.
Absolutely it will work. My wife and I listen to completely different genres of music. She does not like are long car rides together bc of my music of choice but I just am fair and listen to her genre of music as well.
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