Is this goodbye message too much? He friendzoned me and now is sending mixed signals?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had enough of this guy, I’m so fed up with the way that he’s treated me. We were more than friends then he friendzoned me because I found out he lied about his identity but then started calling me pet names and flirting but then pulling back if I engage at all. I want to say this to him:

“Hey so this has been feeling forced as fuck to me since about September when you double sent that towel selfie to me. I may act dumb, but I see you and I know this isn’t just about me knowing who you are.

It’s become obvious to me that our definitions of friendship don’t align and I’m tired of the confusing behavior. I’ll be spending my time on people who are authentic and don’t expect me to read minds or pretend I don’t know their name from now on.

Take care!”

Is this too much? Any feedback is appreciated!

It’s too much.

Sounds good!

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Or would it be more effective and less dramatic without the first paragraph?

[ohsheeT]

Yes it's too dramatic

It would be better if you just said

Go fuck yourself whatever his name is and nothing else..

That way you're not giving him any more information than he needs

You know his name he doesn't know what you're going to do with it
You will make him think hard Each and every day. Because all he knows is that you know his name.

It's kinda like in high school. And something happens between 2 guys .. both are thinking about it hard. But once one guy opens his mouth and says I'm going to beat your ass.

That guy will say OK cool. Because now he know what the guys plan is and now he's not thinking about it any more. But if nothing is said they will be thinking about it.

You say go fuvk your self real name. And nothing else at all you will have him freaking out

[SteveSmith1985]

I remember you. (from your other posts). I am happy to see you finally being done with this guy.

This message is perfect. It's not too much. It's good whether you want to include or exclude the first paragraph. Either way is just fine.

I'm glad to see this.

🙂

[PeachyPie93]

Are you still not over this random dickhead from the internet? Block and delete him!! Guys on the internet NEVER grow feelings for a girl they never spent time with in RL. Trust me on this. You will block and delete and he won't remember you in 3 months and he will be on to sexting the next girl.. Men online never care, so never get attached unless you personally know him and hangout in person. The only guys who catch feelings online are the ones who have low self esteem and are too scared to try to get girls in RL.

[Screenwriter]

It's too much. He sounds confused, messed up. Who knows what's off with him. So, pointless for you to say anything rational to him about your feelings concerning him. It will fall on deaf ears.

But it is ultimately up to you whether you do or don't. You might feel better. Good luck

[Asker]

@screenwriter do you think it would hit any different without the first paragraph?

[Screenwriter]

"It’s obvious to me that our definitions of friendship don’t align and I’m tired of your confusing behavior. Good luck in your life." Don't be too accusatory. You find his behavior confusing and you have different ideas about friendship. Puts the onus on YOU...

I know you're angry about his hemming an hawing. But don't say that. Again, it will fall on deaf ears. He'll hear you saying it's your fault, so to speak. Even though it isn't.

[RandomUser1000]

If that's how you feel,
then it seems okay that you express it.

[Asker]

@randomuser1000 do you think it would hit any different without the first paragraph?

[RandomUser1000]

Yes.
The "feeling forced as fuck" in the first paragraph kinda gives of an aggressive attitude and make you sound more emotional.

The "about me knowing who you are" part also sounds weird.
At least to me who don't know the full story.
Maybe it makes more sense if knowing everything that been going on with you two.
But at least as an outsider looking in, it sounds weird.

If you skip the first paragraph and only use the second paragraph, then you come of as being more balanced.
Still disappointed. But more balanced.

Would probably be preferable to skip first paragraph.
But if you want to show your frustration more, then it could work for that.

Good luck.

[Asker]

@randomuser1000 thank you for your opinion! Yeah the first part is one of those things I wrote when I was angry that later you look back and are like woah good thing I didn’t send that yet 😅

[RandomUser1000]

You're welcome and good good luck.

[serious]

The message is perfectly fine.