Why do men assume that women that they perceive as attractive are crazy if they’re single?

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I went to the movies by myself. Something I like to do because it’s peaceful and I don’t personally find it odd because the movies is not a place where you have to interact with someone else. You’re watching a movie. So going alone to me is actually a good option. I took a uber home after the movie. The driver (a man) asked me did I go to the movies alone? I said yes. He told me that something must be wrong with me because why am I young, single and at the movies alone. It made me realize that most men think we literally live our lives for them lol. It’s weird. The reality is I wanted to go alone. I could have went with someone but every guy that is interested in me plays a lot of games. Which is fine but I rather just be single and stay out of it for the mean time. The driver just couldn’t fathom this lol.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Most people in general just assume shit in the first place without knowing the truth , just the way this society is , a lot of judgmental assumptions , and hypocrites as well. I sometimes go to the movies by myself , I don’t mind going by myself if it’s a movie I really want to see , if no one wants to go with me I’m not going to stop myself from going , even when I was in a relationship , my partner didn’t like all the things I liked , so I would go by myself to a movie or a concert , I never excluded her but I always gave her an option on whether she wanted to go with me or not. One thing I learned is to never miss out on things you enjoy just because your partner doesn’t like it , it’s only bad if you immediately exclude your partner and act like they do not matter , Pretty much why my ex and I broke up , she immediately excluded me when I never did that to her. So I hope the next girl I meet as a more respectful caring heart

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

Well, a physically attractive woman is usually desired by most men, so if they're single, that can mean a few things, none of which have good implications.

1. She thinks she's too good for men; is a misandrist or feminazi (usually the type to say they'd rather be single because they're jaded from bad experiences which come from their own terrible choice for the qualities they want in a man)

2. She has a terrible or extremely irritating personality that no men really want to deal with long-term

3. She is in her hoe phase and just wants to sleep around

4. She's not into men

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Take into account the issues of the driver: How old was he? What was his socioeconomic background? What was his cultural background? Who raised him and taught him how men and women interact? Is he currently married or divorced?

Unless you know all these factors about the person speaking to you, you have no idea how they come to such conclusions. And ANYONE who has just met you and says that there's something WRONG WITH. YOU for simply attending a film alone has something wrong with him.

That's the end of THAT story.

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

I have never gone to a movie with someone. I find it strange bc as you say, its not a social activity

The uber driver wee out if bounds wayyyyyyy beyond the pale.

Nothing odd about doing stuff on your own. I do not think majority of polo think twice about it.

an uber driver with me who issues saying you most have mental issues is not a good representation of the average persons mind set 😊

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

You met one guy who made a comment, and now you are making an assumption that he somehow represents men as a whole. It was literally one guy. This is not a thing. Guys don't think an attractive woman is crazy if she's single. That's just silly. This is not a thing.

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't think he assumed attractive women live their lives for men, but as a society we tend to assume if a woman is attractive then she probably has a partner. I can say personally in my experiences that women who were very attractive but single were still having sex with someone in their lives, and this I think might be a big reason why men think attractive women have a partner.

coachTanthony · Answer

There are always one offs in life but in general I think it's true.

OneViewpoint · Answer

You sound like me. An introvert. People automatically assume we're shy. Nope, sometimes it's just nice, peaceful to be alone with our thoughts. Picking the movie we want to watch. Eating where we want to eat. Interacting only with the people we find interesting as long as we want to interact. Personally, I can flip the switch and become a rapid fire life of the party. But it's fairly rare that I'm in the mood for that.

Don't blame the uber driver. A lot of (most) people have trouble figuring out introverts. They measure us by societal norms and think we must be shy or lonely. They simply can't imagine someone actually enjoying being alone.

I ski alone, go to movies alone, eat dinner alone, backpack alone, etc. Not always, but if there's something I want to do and no one to go with me... off I go by myself. The freedom can be great.

glennos89 · Answer

Because finding love for any attractive woman is very easy because men are like hyenas sometimes. Attractive woman get so much attention from guys that in most cases those woman aren't the most loyal ones out there.
Men also assume automatically that it has to be something about her personality then if she is single while being so attractive.

I understand it's unfair towards woman who might be having a great personality but they know she find a guy every moment in her life because many guys chase

Miristheiss · Answer

I think women are crazy based on their actions. I do think things about women that are 28-35 talking about dating and the difficulties of finding a guy or that there are no good men out there and bemoaning their dating frustrations.

I know they haven't been saving it so they'll been sleeping around for 10-15 years following career. Any cute girl could have locked a guy down already if they weren't following the feminist, career first, sexually liberated playbook.

But I don't see a single woman and think "crazy". I think that based on the way she acts. If she acts crazy.

Cormac995 · Answer

Because attractive woman gets their pick of the men so if she has that going for her but is constantly stuck alone that implies that she's single because something is wrong with them. Getting a date if you're a good-looking woman is super easy so from the man's perspective it's like. "This is too perfect... What's the catch?" Also men are just skeptical in general.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I never have thought that.
There can be a crap ton of reasons why she is out by herself looks really have nothing to do with it.
Just because someone looks nice that doesn't automatically make them a nice person to be with.
Sometimes people just want peace and quiet.
I do that when I go out on my bike, no calls, texts, no demands buy me this, take me out to dinner, I don't want to eat there, it's too plain, so just being able to come and go as I please has its advantages for men just as much as it does for women.
You just need to get away from it all.

Sluttt · Answer

I mean thats the reality. You are just living in a reality not in a drama nor in the movie. Going to the movie holding hands and they make out after is something you see in American movie doesn't mean that its reality. American life is like that for real. You just visit the movie alone and eat alone and go to bed thinking someday the movie will become reality and you end up in a theather alone again. All americans trying to be like the charactor in the American movie. Not even the real movie stars have that kind of romantic life. They just a hookers sleeping here and there dreaming of getting a part job in the movie and make some money to waste on dramatic life which is just a painting on the wall. Americans are like that illusion bubblish life

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

Lol only incel / red pill men think that a womans life revolves around men. Men of quality don't make these types of assumptions. And if they do see you alone and attractive the non incel men will make an effort to exchange phone numbers and schedule a date.

Caroline91 · Answer

You sound smart to me. lol. I've been married for several years, but I've always done a lot of stuff alone. I'm also pretty social, I just don't feel like I can't do something on my own if I feel like it. If asked, I tell people I really enjoy the conversation when I am by myself! There's no reason why women can't fly solo and enjoy it. I've never understood why so many women tend to use the bathroom in packs when they are out somewhere. I really prefer to do THAT on my own for sure.

AnonAndrew · Answer

That Uber driver crossed the line so badly that I have a hard time believing this is a true story.

If it is true, and you don't see that that was abnormal behavior, then I think you need to spend a little more time around men to learn to understand what we are like in reality. :-)

Anonymous · Answer

Because guys and men assume she must have issues or wants to be flirtatious and rambunctious with other guys. The same way women and girls furrow their brows and ponder why he is single and the female assumptions creeps in their minds: "oh he must suck in bed" or "oh he must not know how to talk to girls" or "it's a red flag he doesn't have any female friends" I think these are the dumbest conclusions females come to. I am Muslim guy, Islam teaches don't have haram relationships with the opposite gender of flirting, being lovey-dovey, being all touchy but there's no commitment and the two label it as "we're just friends".

Shiprex · Answer

I often go to the movies on my own as it's not social interaction until after or before the actual cinema activity. I think it's weird that people think cinema is meant to be a shared activity.

Heck a couple of times I've been the only person watching the movie and THAT may seem weird but it's actually very satisfying.

236color · Answer

Many of the ones that aren't single are crazy. Growing up a pretty girl sets them up for trouble. Assume you, as many pretty girls are, were given whatever you wanted just because of how you look. Now you can tell a 14 year old that they won't always be young and beautiful, but do you think it will work? Especially when her experience is contrary to that? So as she ages, and she can’t get whatever she wants and hasn't prepared to fend for herself, she freaks out.

Lliam · Answer

That Uber driver was out of line. What's wrong with a woman going to a movie, or shopping, or whatever she wants to do without a male escort? This isn't Saudi Arabia.

Why even assume that she is single? Just because someone is in a relationship doesn't mean that they are joined at the hip and have to accompany each other everywhere.

Some guys are morons.

RavVid · Answer

We don't. We see you as a crazy bitch if you do crazy bitch stuff like trying to set fire to the local gas station recently. We now call it the Crazy Bitch Servo.

We all like our Crazy Bitch stories but - sad to say - going to a movie alone really doesn't pass muster on crazy bitchness.

You need to try harder.

exitseven · Answer

I hope that when it came time to tip the driver you went on the short side.
I think everybody has different life situations. Somebody could have been a serious relationship with somebody and circumstances prevented them from ultimately ending up together.
Just because you are not married does not somehow mean you are damaged goods.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

"It made me realize that most men think we literally live our lives for them lol."

It mostly seems like an innocent question from people who think that a pretty girl is most likely taken since they would assume she has a lot of suiters.. I don't know how you came to that conclusion about most men based off a couple of conversations with some.. That's a bit silly..

Iron_Man · Answer

Of course they’re not crazy. There’s so many things involved having things in common sharing the same interest sharing the same religious belief. And are they into fitness exercising and do they like sports. Its hard to find the perfect couple. You have to be best friends as well. Do they like going to plays and art museums do they like traveling to the big cities and mountains and camping out sometimes and eating out in restaurants etc etc.

Anonymous · Answer

"made me realize that most men think we literally live our lives for them" I think you're reading too much into it.

The "how are you still single" thing is usually just a compliment/joke. Some men are surprised that good, attractive women aren't already taken because men scoop up these women in droves.

An uber driver shouldn't be saying that to you, though.

RingOfFire · Answer

I think you may be reading something into what the driver and other men are thinking that isn't necessarily there.

I would interpret what he said to you was trying to cheer you up in case you are feeling lonely or depressed. Sometimes people isolate themselves when they're feeling that way and he may have thought that was your motivation.

I have never thought the things you suggest men think.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

You ever see that "How I met Your Mother" episodes where barney explains "the chart", that, supposedly, the more hot a girl is, the crazier she is. Noones ever given a good explanation for this, but, supposedly that's what it is

Pohjolan · Answer

Especially in USA a disproportionately large percentage of pretty single women are crazy.

There are more single men than single women on the dating market and a lot of American women don't take care of themselves.

So when a pretty gal is single men wonder why? just like women wonder why say a championship level athlete would be single?

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's only because we don't see that many Attractive Women by themselves especially these days, They are usually with friends or a Guy.

It makes an Attractive Girl even more Attractive to most of us Guys to see a beautiful Girl by herself, So you should take it as a compliment.

blackeagle007 · Answer

Nothing wrong with going to movies alone. I’m not a woman, and attractive? That’s up for debate. But I feel the same as you. I’d like to have time for myself. In fact I’ll be going to sober living shortly, I’m all for housemates. But don’t want a roommate. Especially if the room is small (I been there and sucked). You’re human, we all are. It’s normal

Zack-Bann · Answer

For the same reason people assume that if you have a sports car you MUST be into reckless driving  General misconceptions, reference bias, you name it

annabananna · Answer

Find a guy that when he meets you takes the time to get to know you for you and not make silly preconceived judgements off of something so small. Judgmental people like that are typically closed minded and a bit shallow.

serious · Answer

No, not all men. Some people in general have this kind of stereotypical thinking which makes no sense.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Simple answer to this one lol.  You just stumbled upon someone not much into thinking. It's actually very common !

LiamJHayden · Answer

I get it. If I go to the cinema or to a concerto I prefer going alone than have someone who wants to talk. No, I would not consider her crazy.

Makeushiver · Answer

If that is you photo, I would have definitely commented on your looks. Something like, you're remarkably beautiful

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

if a guy today doesn’t think all women are crazy he’s either lying or there’s something seriously wrong with him.

NicholasRedone · Answer

If you're an attractive healthy fit woman, they're probably wishing they could ask you out + any man lol

Jay-_- · Answer

Not all men, but sure, I guess it crosses our mind for a couple seconds maybe but this isn't every man's set opinion about pretty single women. At least it's not mine.

slatyb · Answer

Sour grapes. They can't attract those women, so they pretend that they aren't desirable.

Anonymous · Answer

If you wanna boast about your attractiveness just do it without bringing other into it aaaah

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Life experience, unfortunately. After a certain age, single people are single for a reason.

Extraterrestrial1999 · Answer

I guess they would assume that many other people would have agreed with them, and as a result someone would have locked you up by now

Anonymous · Answer

I guess because attractive women are able to find a date more easily, compared to average women.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't assume that. I watch stuff by myself all the time.

retarb · Answer

Statistically if an attractive woman is single for years that's kind of a red flag because there's a reason for everything.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Funny. You don’t like one man to assume something about you, yet you turn around and assume something about men in general. You’re an adult, albeit a young one, please act like one.

rebelkid · Answer

In my opinion that driver is small minded and his way of thinking is plateaued. I am a man and I find nothing wrong with anyone going to see a movie alone, especially a female.

zagor · Answer

They don't. One Uber driver isn't all men. And he was probably from another country.

Vegasrunner · Answer

What does this have to do with the question?

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why women assume that men that they perceive as attractive are crazy if they’re single.

Yohenis · Answer

The driver was way Outta his boundaries/none of his business.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Because attractive women are so sought, most men believe a single one must be nuts.

Godihateyou · Answer

Women are crazy no matter what. Obsolete to. We have AI and fake pussies. Fake wombs too.

Anonymous · Answer

Common sense. If you're anti-so ial that's on you. But that doesn't represent most women.

Pealcuver12 · Answer

Hi I need you to have sex on my pains in make ti feel good

DishLady · Answer

Who thinks that?

WhitneySnow · Answer

That’s a very good point

bddddd · Answer

You are normal. Keep being you.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Unfortunately he's not an isolated case.

LiamS95 · Answer

It's none of his business anyway.

Fury_storm · Answer

you're not that young

Panthero · Answer

I don't think they are crazy.

Cameila99 · Answer

It’s to make themselves feel better.

Why do men assume that women that they perceive as attractive are crazy if they’re single?

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