Why is dating hard for men?

[Anonymous]

Should it be this hard? There’s about an even split of men and women in the world.
There’s also endless pretty women in the world.

I’m straight and today I had some random gay guy in my DMs calling me so handsome and asked me out. Very strange but made me feel a bit upset, I’ve not had a girl do that kind of thing. Can’t imagine it ever happening tbh. Like I get more interest from a gay guy than any woman 🤕

As a guy you get more interest from gay guys 😣I mean obviously women don’t need to try much but something is not right about that.

It’s really hard for men

It’s not really hard for men

[Tsmit240]

1.

Initiation Pressure

Men are often expected to make the first move—approaching, planning, and paying for dates. This pressure can be daunting and lead to fear of rejection or social anxiety.

2.

Rejection and Confidence

Men typically face more rejection in dating, which can chip away at self-esteem over time. This is especially tough without a strong support system or self-confidence.

3.

Shifting Gender Roles

As gender roles evolve, there’s confusion around traditional versus modern expectations—should men be assertive or more emotionally open? Should they lead or follow?

4.

Online Dating Challenges

Men often receive fewer responses on dating apps than women, and many find it hard to stand out or connect meaningfully in a digital-first environment.

5.

Emotional Expectations

Many men grow up being discouraged from expressing vulnerability. This can lead to difficulties in forming deep, emotionally intimate relationships.

6.

Economic and Status Pressures

There’s often an implicit expectation that a man should be financially stable or ambitious. If a man feels he doesn’t meet those standards, it can affect his confidence and dating prospects.

[Asker]

I mean i show high status too

[Anonymous]

In simple terms. Women are not straight forward.

First off Men and women have different selection processes. Men find probably about half the women they see attractive and would be willing to date any one of them to see if they mesh. Women do it a little differently. Women only find about 10% of men attractive. And women want to get to know them to see whether she'd like to date him or not. Women's attitude towards men is men should do like they do. But women don't understand (or simply don't care) that men do not have that luxury. As I said women find only about 10% of men attractive. If a guy was to do like women he'd likely never date. Guys cannot afford to be a picky as women. The drawback to all of this for women as I said men have to date to select a woman. So a woman has already largely picked him by the time they date. But the guy has NOT picked her. He just agreed to date her. This is why when a guy rules her out after a date that didn't go as he'd hoped. She feels dumped. She wasn't dumped, she was never selected. She was just dated. But because of a woman's selection process you'll never get her to understand this.

So as I said. Men and women have two different selection processes. And neither gender cares about the others process.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

The bulk of women are going for guys like me now. Thanks to the internet, I'm sleeping with women I probably would've never talked to. So what does that mean?

It means she's not talking to you.
(Not you in particular, but the average guys no longer get any play, because those below/mid girls are now chasing above average guys and even above average girls feel it because... why would you settle for a single 10 when you can fuck 100's of all sorts of women?)

[BonzoInBitburg]

If you know how to talk to women irl, dating is super easy

[Hellraiser1984]

It's all about money, looks and the possessions you own.

[WhiteThought]

Hypergamy

[Anonymous]

Nice fake story.