Do you buy your partner flowers on a first date?

Question

Guys, I think you should buy flowers on the first date.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

No I don't. I've never understood that concept. You're telling me I'm going to buy you something that looks pretty and you put away after looking at it for a few seconds, then it dies after like 2 weeks just for meeting you the first time? That's what I call a waste of money.

The point of a first date is to get to know the person. If they're expecting or even hoping you get them flowers on a first date, I'd say they're a little entitled and not in it for the relationship, but for the material and potential standard of life enhancement from going out with you. Or maybe just a flex to their peers. Like "OMG guess what guys? The guy I'm dating got me flowers on our date!"

And it's even worse when they expect you to take them out to a restaurant and pay for their food.

Women are equal and make the same as men. Why should we have to pay for their time? Is their time more valuable? Are they not also interested?

If I'm in a relationship with a girl, I'd be happy to get her potted plants and flowers. That's more symbolic of love than a bouquet of flowers or a rose. You have to take care of them and water them daily, just like your relationship. Not just put them in a vase to die after 2-4 weeks.

A girl that expects or hopes for flowers on a first date is not a girl I'd date personally.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

While it appears to be a grand romantic gesture, most women do not receive such a gesture in a positive way. A first date is a FIRST date, and that means I don't know her and she doesn't know me. There is no love shared between us and all we have is a hope that we will be compatible, mutually attracted, and open to romance. Under those circumstances, bringing a girl a dozen red roses is perceived as desperate, over-the-top, indicative of a guy who is probably needy and clingy.

When I was dating, I sometimes brought a girl a single yellow rose on a first date. I explained that a yellow rose was symbolic of friendship, and I hoped that we would discover reasons to become friends and maybe more.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

first date and the term partner doesn't make any sense.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

How is that your partner if you're on a first date?

ohsheeT · Answer

If I don't know her and it's like the first time we're gonna meet. Yes I would buy flowers

Now , if we know each other for a while , I would Rather do something else and then if we start Seeing each other all the time Then i'm always doing something yes

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Depends on how we got there.
If it’s a cold first date, like we met online and this is part of the getting acquainted phase, hell no.
If we’ve known each other for a while and already have a rapport, i likely already have feelings for her and flowers are somewhat appropriate.

AviatorTom · Answer

Back when I was dating, I occasionally brought flowers on the first date, and I must admit it helped with the first impression.

Finchie40 · Answer

I usually do , especially if I ask her out on the date
First , but if she asks me out first on a date then I don’t bring flowers , But some of those girls’ have brought me a flower , which I thought was nice because I didn’t expect it whatsoever

Lliam · Answer

When I asked a lady out, we usually met at an agreed upon restaurant. I never brought flowers because the purpose of the date was to see how well we clicked. I didn't start simping right off the bat, even though the concept of simping hadn't been invented yet.
I just paid for the date.

If we hit it of and arranged a second date, I let her know her how much I liked her. I did bring a rose to one particular woman. But flowers weren't my usual thing. Those came later if we became exclusive.

MisterWack · Answer

The first date is to get a feel for someone, to see if you have actual potential chemistry that could grow into something more.

Saying “I love you”, giving flowers , or chocolates and such is a bit of a strong opener. I wouldn’t recommend it.

However let’s say you two knew each other from school and were good classmates / had an attraction then wanted to go out on your first real date then giving flowers , or chocolates , or something else as a sweet gesture is appropriate and fine.

Proceed with caution, trust me on this.

Shiprex · Answer

I don't believe in flowers and I have a valid reason. They die and when you WANT to show someone you are into them in a way to make a future and not some short term fling, then a PLANT that flowers is far more worthwhile. I would also not make it on a cold call first date either as this would NOT warrant any "gift" because the chances are you're gonna pay for the date as a guy anyway and that's enough of a potential risk to hold back on the pampering until the pampering becomes worth it.

Zack-Bann · Answer

You’d be surprised how many women find that offensive these days
They just ruined it for the rest of you unfortunately

Because when in doubt I prefer to skip the flowers

Now assuming we talked about symbolism before our first date and I understood that she likes flowers then by all means. I’m not above gentlemanly behavior

Cormac995 · Answer

I bought flowers for the girl I'm hoping to see for our first date but we had to cancel last minute because she got food poisoning. She feels awful both physically and for canceling so I took a picture of the flowers I got her and sent it too her since I couldn't do it IRL. She was thrilled. Trust me guys, find out your crushes favorite flower and bring it to the first date every time. It's a great opener and shows you care and are listening to her.

Godihateyou · Answer

Always. I was married for like 8 or 10 years with a very reserved and shy woman. One day I parked the car at a school playground and played with my wife we walked into the small wooded area and I fucked her from behind against a tree. She was leaking my cum all over my Kia seats and I stopped in a CVS to buy the morningnafter pill and when I was checking out I bought a dozen roses. I told the cashier "modern romance" and she laughed. The fuckimg pill didn't work and I was out 60 bucks but she was my favorite Daughter so. Guys
Maybe cum in your girl in wild places
Maybe you'll get a bad ass kid.

hahahmm · Answer

Nah. In my whole life I only got flowers for a girlfriend once. That was on the second official date (and we had already spent a lot of time together). Eventually we got married. I guess I'm a good judge of when a woman should get flowers or not.

Besides, if every guy gave women flowers on a 1st date women would just take it for granted and make it meaningless.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I still buy my wife flowers, she likes them and enjoys them, so why not.
I would buy 1 flower for a first date, not from the gas station.
It showed I put some effort into it, and if the date goes bad she has something to throw out her window.

Stevepro68 · Answer

It's a landmine. I dated quite a while it gives some women the Ick to show up with flowers which for some reasons seem to think of them a bit creepy this early on.

exitseven · Answer

No, Shje moved to a coastal town about 300 miles away when we first met. The first time i drove up to see her I brought her a nautical chart of the area that she lived in. She framed it so I guess she liked it.

Tarifa · Answer

I'd rather give those flowers on a second date. On a first date, isn't it a bit too obvious? She might be tempted to think I do the same with other girls. I'd rather make her feel special.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

No because where are they going to put them while on the date? If I like a woman I will send her flowers shortly after the first date.

capriVib · Answer

I believe men shouldn’t bring flowers on the first date because giving flowers to someone U don’t know yet lacks sincerity.

Geo1970 · Answer

It depends who she is and how much you feel about her. I’m quite sure that it would make her incredibly happy if I did buy her flowers on the first date.

WonderingManII · Answer

I wouldn't until I know what kind of flowers she likes.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I have not except for prom. But I think they are a great idea

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't get them on a first date but I do get them for every holiday and event

SexyPulse · Answer

I have bought flowers, but i have had someone buy me some one time on a first date

OneViewpoint · Answer

No. Flowers on a first date is corny as hell. I'll buy you flowers when it means something.

fish5505_87 · Answer

First date, I have never done that, not saying it's wrong!

SamWinchester058 · Answer

If I've known her for a while then maybe. If we are hanging for the first time then probably not. That sets a bar that would be difficult to continue.

foxsquirrell · Answer

Unless its something big in their culture I would, otherwise I wouldn't. It would not even cross my mind.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't because they'll set off my hayfever I'll be a sneezing, snot cannon with eyes like balloons

Twalli · Answer

I didn't. We were bowling. Not really a flowers situation.

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a date, but if I were in a relationship, I would buy her flowers.

Apple1996 · Answer

I think men should 💐

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

I don't, and i don't think you should

MrChinaski · Answer

That seems needy. Third date.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

No, flowers have to be earned.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

No, that’s pretty anachronistic

blackeagle007 · Answer

Not for someone I just met

Jerre · Answer

Sometimes I do. All depends on the girl

Grond21 · Answer

I did!

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I definitely do

ilistengood · Answer

I do ,

H1lifeee · Answer

Yeah why not

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nope

Nice222 · Answer

No not at all

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