Guys do you give flowers on the first date?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Women might say that they would like that, but if it actually happened, most would be weirded out by it, unless she already had a massive crush on the guy, which is NOT the norm.

I also don't take women to fancy restaurants or anything like that on a first date. All that is saved for the relationship, if we get that far. It's way too much for a first date in most cases.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

In the past, when I was dating, I would go to a first date and give the woman a single white rose.

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

Honestly I wouldn't I think it's too forward and creepy. I knew a guy who did but he already knew the girl so it wasn't so awkward but he then carried on my trying to shame my now boyfriend for not doing the same when I first met him.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I’d love if a guy gave me single red rose

TruthBringer · Answer

Absolutely NOT. This is an easy way to get friendzoned. Women want a good looking man who is hard to get. We live in a time where chivalrious acts like this would only hurt a man's chances of getting the girl. This is unless you are very attractive. A woman knows within a second whether she sees you as "fuckable" or not. If it's a no, no amount of flowers will help chance her mind. And this is generally speaking.

The only girl I give roses are my girlfriend. But until she IS my girlfriend, she isn't going to get boyfriend energy.

Wester1967 · Answer

Never. Every time I was romantic, it inevitably resulted in disaster. Women may claim to want romance and sensitivity in theory. But in reality, they want that from Chad and Tyrone studmuffins who never it to them. When an average guy shows up and tries to be romantic, women will think he comes off as weak and dump him on his arse. Guys, stop giving flowers. Stop being romantic. Never take dating advice from women because subconsciously they are not giving you advice, they are giving Chad and Tyrone advice. Be careful out there.

PJH359 · Answer

No…it looks too much like a movie scene, a visual cliche if you will. Women love spontaneity…. send them to her workplace a week or two after when she’s not expecting it. Additionally it will score you major points for number one making her day, and number two impressing everyone else in the office.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Nope as it’s a first date and unless you know a fair bit about them it’s not that great.

Also needs to match the venue etc p.

saying that, I will sometimes send flowers AFTER the first date with a thank you card and an invite to a 2nd date (tickets etc).

hahahmm · Answer

I guess feminists didn't give you the memo.. they demanded "freedom" and not to be "oppressed" by men so we no longer oppress women with flowers or even a meal on 1st date. You'll get flowers when someone in your immediate family dies or you have major surgery. I mean, if we're in a serious relationship. Otherwise you can have this lint in my pocket.

ohshee · Answer

There has been a couple girls that I have dated that are really into flowers so like on the first date I would bring one flower the second day to flowers third date three flowers so on until I get to a dozen and whatever kind of flowers they like and after that the honeymoon's over LOL do I like being different and I myself like flowers I love the smell of flowers

Shizunk · Answer

I used to give origami flowers, including on first dates, but also sometimes to female friends. They used to keep them on a shelf somewhere long after. I don't think I gave many actual plant corpses, except to teachers because I was always handed a dead plant once a year by someone, not out of my own initiative. But these days I would possibly consider killing a flower or three for someone I like :-D

Apraxia · Answer

No gifts like that I feel should come later (personal opinion) as a little surprise and romantic gesture. The first date is kinda to get a vibe for each other. As for the whole: “show kindness or generosity” you’d portray that through your personality, for generosity, I personally pay for the meal too if there is one. (Not cause a man should, but just I do it anyway out of …kindness…. I think)

NathanDavis · Answer

never ever have... but I used to cook brunch for someone every time there was a chance... and she really loved flowers, so most of the times I would make sure to steal a flower from somewhere and that's a detail she really liked.. . a flower and some wine, lol

AviatorTom · Answer

Sometimes.

My sister set up a blind date for me when I was much younger and single. I found out that my date liked daisies, so I gave her a bouquet of daisies when we first met. She smiled and we had a fantastic first date. It didn't last, but it was one hell of a summer fling... for both of us.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No, because nothing is fully established yet. I understand that it can leave a good impression or be a part of a man's courting process, but flowers on the first day is just doing too much too fast if the both of them are not familiar with each other.

crmoore · Answer

No. That's something I reserve to truly show my appreciation and appeal. Bringing them on the first date says "I did this because I feel like I have to" or "I feel like this makes me look good" not "I genuinely like you and the feelings I've developed have compelled me to want to do this for you."

lucas262 · Answer

No.

Told myself 1st date you start at square one. Iv seen men start at like a 7 out of 10. Going to nice ass places and I'm like you just gave this Stranger girlfriend privileges she hasn't earned anything from you yet. You don't know if she's good for you.

No flowers, no money, no gifts, no dick nada. No woman or man in fact is going to respect a man who gives so much so soon so freely. That makes you a sucker

Anonymous · Answer

I never have. My thoughts are a lot of women would take it the wrong way, like it would be to forward to too much for the first date (ie they'd take it in a negative way like I'm a player or something, coming on too strong too soon?). I know it's a simple flower, but I think that's where a lot of women's minds would go in today's world? They wouldn't take it as a simple nice gesture, they'd think the guy had ulterior motives.

Tyme1313 · Answer

Not really, I see my arrival as a gift enough... But I see it the same way the other way around, her coming is gift enough, I wouldn't expect her to buy me something for the first date. Egalitarianism...

Morgador · Answer

Depends on where your at in life. If your looking for a serious relationship and want to express that sure. If it's a date to just get to know them it mighr be taken wrong

Sammy6Gunz · Answer

It's all about the single red rose. It's classy, thoughtful and it shows that you took time to choose the best one you could find. Plus it's a lot easier to carry then a bunch of flowers.

Miristheiss · Answer

I have never done that before.  I only give them to a girl I'm already in a relationship with (now wife) and I only do it as a surprise... none of the cliche Valentine's Day flowers.

libsaretards · Answer

Not on a first date. To me giving flowers is a little too intimate. I bring flowers the day I ask her if she wants to officially become my girlfriend instead of just dating.

Iknowbestgirls · Answer

@Minahh why would you? It's the first date and you barely know the person. I thought girls find those kind of actions early on to be creepy and red flags. Sometimes I think I have girls figured out but then they switch up on you like a bop it.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

That seems super cliche and sort of insulting. Like, “you’re a girl, so you’re supposed to like this”. If she’s interested in paleobotany then sure but in any other situation….. It just seems weird.

Ailito · Answer

I'm not a guy, but no. I've never given flowers on a first date. Giving flowers to a partner has bad memories for me, so I just avoid it.

genericname85 · Answer

no. that's cringy as fuck. and also coming on way too strong. first date you barely know. quite out of place to show "that much affection" with someone you don't know yet...

RichSD · Answer

First date flowers are a little desperate sounding, and they set the bar high very quickly. I did it a time or two though in my less experienced days :)

ArrowheadSW · Answer

No I don't. The thought of it wouldn't even occur to me. Just seems weird and clingy.

spartan55 · Answer

No, not the first date. That's a bit too Tryhard for me.

Adam1978 · Answer

No I don't do that on a first date. It's to much in today's society.

DaveJord · Answer

Not in today's world... but I mostly only been online dating. But I would with the right women.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

No. I buy flower to different occasions for women, if I want say sorry, to birthday and specific annual days but I think red roses are a overkill to first date.

Paul09 · Answer

This isn't the 50s that very weird. And why does that woman get showered with gifts for? Man gets what? Woman isn't interested walks away with free meal and gifts?

Relux47 · Answer

I would honestly be as a dumb as a rock since I have never been on a date. I would probably ruin my chances of a 2nd date by giving her something expensive

Fireguy17 · Answer

I have, not a hundred dollar bouquet, but just a little something to let her know she is special.

Kabluie · Answer

Sometimes. The best is when you pick her up from the airport with flowers.

crazy8000 · Answer

Nope. Reserved to someone that I have a loving and working relationship with. Do you give flowers on the first date?

Slayerrrrrrr · Answer

hell to the no, love. They gotta earn those flowers

Massageman · Answer

I don't think I ever did- on the first date. Any time it was dance, etc., absolutely.

scooogy · Answer

The first and only time I did so, she was first shy to accept them, but then both of us were confused where to leave them as we were meeting outside.

king-dom1 · Answer

I did back then but not anymore, they are such trashy women now that all you need to do to get a girls attention is being popular online and condoms

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Hell no. I ain't no chump. I don't know who dat bitch is.

okeydoke · Answer

I do not. I love giving flowers, but a first date is too soon.

Notfabricated11 · Answer

I thought about it and then considered that I would probably be called too nice. Smh

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Not on the first date and women don't like flowers too much anymore from what they told me.

jasco · Answer

I don't know about the first date but some dates later sure

whosnumber1 · Answer

absolutely, I think your a putz if you don't. chick's dig flowers.

ManHater · Answer

Nope never waste money on a girl on the first date.

fred_durst · Answer

FIRST date already give flower? , yeah , i would make her run away for sure

boxxie2002 · Answer

No... then you have to find a place for them and and just gets awkward

Stoner710 · Answer

No i probably should though it’s not a bad idea

Anonymous · Answer

I gave an iPhone 11 pro to my fiancee on our first date

EmbraceThePain · Answer

No, haven’t done that.

Browneye57 · Answer

Oh hell no. Lots of BJ's first honey. :)

PuNishant · Answer

Nah I split the bill in first date 😂

Ironic_Method · Answer

No, that's ridiculous.

Iron_Man · Answer

No it’s way too early

Wise4myage · Answer

Id do that if I really liked the girl.

legalboxers · Answer

I did.. she wasn't appreciative

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Nope. Once she is my official girlfriend yes I do.

msc545 · Answer

No, it seems like too much too soon.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Nah maybe after a few dates but not on the first

MJtheCoach · Answer

Yah if I don’t wanna get laid.

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