Guys do you give flowers on the first date?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

Women might say that they would like that, but if it actually happened, most would be weirded out by it, unless she already had a massive crush on the guy, which is NOT the norm.

I also don't take women to fancy restaurants or anything like that on a first date. All that is saved for the relationship, if we get that far. It's way too much for a first date in most cases.

[f_ckjoebiden]

With that avatar, who wouldn't listen to this guy!

[OlderAndWiser]

In the past, when I was dating, I would go to a first date and give the woman a single white rose.

[Massageman]

awwwwwwwww - nice.

[Jamie05rhs]

Aww. Tip of the hat, sir.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Jamie05rhs The white rose symbolizes new beginnings, in the archaic language of roses.

[Jamie05rhs]

Interesting. Good to know.
... But I have a feeling most girls these days would be freaked out by that, especially given the meaning.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Jamie05rhs At my age, women are more honest and realistic about why they are dating. They will freely admit that they are looking for a partner and that a first date is like a first casting call.

[Jamie05rhs]

@OlderAndWiser 👍👍 God bless 'em!

[Puppystarfish23]

Honestly I wouldn't I think it's too forward and creepy. I knew a guy who did but he already knew the girl so it wasn't so awkward but he then carried on my trying to shame my now boyfriend for not doing the same when I first met him.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d love if a guy gave me single red rose

[TruthBringer]

Absolutely NOT. This is an easy way to get friendzoned. Women want a good looking man who is hard to get. We live in a time where chivalrious acts like this would only hurt a man's chances of getting the girl. This is unless you are very attractive. A woman knows within a second whether she sees you as "fuckable" or not. If it's a no, no amount of flowers will help chance her mind. And this is generally speaking.

The only girl I give roses are my girlfriend. But until she IS my girlfriend, she isn't going to get boyfriend energy.

[Wester1967]

Never. Every time I was romantic, it inevitably resulted in disaster. Women may claim to want romance and sensitivity in theory. But in reality, they want that from Chad and Tyrone studmuffins who never it to them. When an average guy shows up and tries to be romantic, women will think he comes off as weak and dump him on his arse. Guys, stop giving flowers. Stop being romantic. Never take dating advice from women because subconsciously they are not giving you advice, they are giving Chad and Tyrone advice. Be careful out there.

[PJH359]

No…it looks too much like a movie scene, a visual cliche if you will. Women love spontaneity…. send them to her workplace a week or two after when she’s not expecting it. Additionally it will score you major points for number one making her day, and number two impressing everyone else in the office.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope as it’s a first date and unless you know a fair bit about them it’s not that great.

Also needs to match the venue etc p.

saying that, I will sometimes send flowers AFTER the first date with a thank you card and an invite to a 2nd date (tickets etc).

[hahahmm]

I guess feminists didn't give you the memo.. they demanded "freedom" and not to be "oppressed" by men so we no longer oppress women with flowers or even a meal on 1st date. You'll get flowers when someone in your immediate family dies or you have major surgery. I mean, if we're in a serious relationship. Otherwise you can have this lint in my pocket.

[ohshee]

There has been a couple girls that I have dated that are really into flowers so like on the first date I would bring one flower the second day to flowers third date three flowers so on until I get to a dozen and whatever kind of flowers they like and after that the honeymoon's over LOL do I like being different and I myself like flowers I love the smell of flowers

[Shizunk]

I used to give origami flowers, including on first dates, but also sometimes to female friends. They used to keep them on a shelf somewhere long after. I don't think I gave many actual plant corpses, except to teachers because I was always handed a dead plant once a year by someone, not out of my own initiative. But these days I would possibly consider killing a flower or three for someone I like :-D

[Apraxia]

No gifts like that I feel should come later (personal opinion) as a little surprise and romantic gesture. The first date is kinda to get a vibe for each other. As for the whole: “show kindness or generosity” you’d portray that through your personality, for generosity, I personally pay for the meal too if there is one. (Not cause a man should, but just I do it anyway out of …kindness…. I think)

[NathanDavis]

never ever have... but I used to cook brunch for someone every time there was a chance... and she really loved flowers, so most of the times I would make sure to steal a flower from somewhere and that's a detail she really liked.. . a flower and some wine, lol

[AviatorTom]

Sometimes.

My sister set up a blind date for me when I was much younger and single. I found out that my date liked daisies, so I gave her a bouquet of daisies when we first met. She smiled and we had a fantastic first date. It didn't last, but it was one hell of a summer fling... for both of us.

[CallmeTheKnight]

No, because nothing is fully established yet. I understand that it can leave a good impression or be a part of a man's courting process, but flowers on the first day is just doing too much too fast if the both of them are not familiar with each other.

[crmoore]

No. That's something I reserve to truly show my appreciation and appeal. Bringing them on the first date says "I did this because I feel like I have to" or "I feel like this makes me look good" not "I genuinely like you and the feelings I've developed have compelled me to want to do this for you."

[lucas262]

No.

Told myself 1st date you start at square one. Iv seen men start at like a 7 out of 10. Going to nice ass places and I'm like you just gave this Stranger girlfriend privileges she hasn't earned anything from you yet. You don't know if she's good for you.

No flowers, no money, no gifts, no dick nada. No woman or man in fact is going to respect a man who gives so much so soon so freely. That makes you a sucker

[Anonymous]

I never have. My thoughts are a lot of women would take it the wrong way, like it would be to forward to too much for the first date (ie they'd take it in a negative way like I'm a player or something, coming on too strong too soon?). I know it's a simple flower, but I think that's where a lot of women's minds would go in today's world? They wouldn't take it as a simple nice gesture, they'd think the guy had ulterior motives.

[Tyme1313]

Not really, I see my arrival as a gift enough... But I see it the same way the other way around, her coming is gift enough, I wouldn't expect her to buy me something for the first date. Egalitarianism...

[Morgador]

Depends on where your at in life. If your looking for a serious relationship and want to express that sure. If it's a date to just get to know them it mighr be taken wrong

[Sammy6Gunz]

It's all about the single red rose. It's classy, thoughtful and it shows that you took time to choose the best one you could find. Plus it's a lot easier to carry then a bunch of flowers.

[Miristheiss]

I have never done that before.
I only give them to a girl I'm already in a relationship with (now wife) and I only do it as a surprise... none of the cliche Valentine's Day flowers.

[libsaretards]

Not on a first date. To me giving flowers is a little too intimate. I bring flowers the day I ask her if she wants to officially become my girlfriend instead of just dating.

[Iknowbestgirls]

@Minahh why would you? It's the first date and you barely know the person. I thought girls find those kind of actions early on to be creepy and red flags. Sometimes I think I have girls figured out but then they switch up on you like a bop it.