Do you think it's okay to give a guy flowers as a gift on a first date?

[tischro]

Or is buying flowers just a stereotype that men buy for women? Any opinions?

[MrOracle]

While most guys would appreciate the thought, the simple fact is that most men have no desire to receive flowers as a gift (yes, a few exceptions exist). Would you want a socket set for your birthday? Or a welding hood for your anniversary? Probably not, but again, a few women would be exceptions.

Again, let me repeat that we would appreciate the thought, but you can easily figure out a better gift. A cupcake, or some other dessert (hell, even a donut) would be welcomed by most men. Some guys might appreciate a cheap (non-precious metals) necklace or bracelet if you are looking for something he would keep - for example, I'm a DJ, and my girlfriend bought me this necklace, for less than $20, but I really like it:

Men buy women flowers because most women love receiving flowers (exceptions exist), but most men don't particularly enjoy receiving flowers.

Finally, I don't think it's necessary for anyone to give a gift on a first date. First dates should be about conversation. If you make it past the third date, then a small, inexpensive gift might be nice (though not expected).

[Massageman]

How cool! You see, your friend is actually observant, intelligent, AND can put thoughts together to come up with that 45-adapter medallion. So many people have "friends" that couldn't name the other's favorite food, band or even their job! I wouldn't mind flowers. It would be a bit out of the typical, but I'd certainly break out a vase, trim the stems, arrange them nicely, water them and put them on the dining room table! It all depends on someone's likes/dislikes. My younger daughter would LOVE the flowers. My older daughter- while liking flowers- would probably prefer a potted plant (they last longer and she is the more practical of the two), or she might even go for that socket set!

[MrOracle]

@Massageman To be fair, I'd gone through my 45s a few months earlier to look for a song that isn't available digitally, and she'd never seen that kind of 45 adapter. I explained that they were popular among DJs who didn't like to have to use a standard adapter, and that even though most DJs haven't used 45s (or even vinyl) in decades, the adapters still have a strong association with DJs. She found the necklace when out shopping and bought it for me. Which was awesome. It means far more to me than a genuine gold-and-diamond necklace would, because I have no desire to flaunt wealth in that way. My necklace is presumably chromed brass, so probably less than $1 in melt value, but it has FAR more meaning to me, both because it was a gift and because she understood its meaning to me.

[MrOracle]

For those who don't know what these are: these cheap plastic adapters convert a large "RCA hole" that is common in the US on 45 RPM 7" singles (because this let them work much better in juke boxes) to a standard turntable spindle. It seems that in the UK, the RCA hole is usually not used, so no adapter is needed, and so people in different areas of the world may not know what these are.

DJs performing in a live environment prefer to have as few distractions as possible, so they often bought and installed these semi-permanent adapters in their 45s so that they didn't have to constantly install and remove the 45 adapter that came with their turntable. That's just one extra thing to have to do when seconds count.

[Massageman]

>>>>> It means far more to me than a genuine gold-and-diamond necklace would, because I have no desire to flaunt wealth in that way. My necklace is presumably chromed brass, so probably less than $1 in melt value, but it has FAR more meaning to me, both because it was a gift and because she understood its meaning to me.<<<<<<<. Exactly. She KNOWS you on a very intimate "soulful" level. How sweet!

[Summeroflove]

Especially not expensive gifts you don’t even know id the person will like it. I mean if you have more money then you know what to do with. Fine I guess.

But my gosh some people spend their hard earned money

[OlderAndWiser]

Perfect answer and I can't add anything to what @MrOracle has said!

[Poliker]

You made me laugh with your "Or a welding hood for your anniversary?" comment.

[DaveJord]

I think if it was done as a gag gift with some humor and good-natured fun, that it would be totally a great story and a lot of fun.

But if you are being dead serious, then I say know it's not a great gift. You want to be dating a real man right, because if you got a guy that's not a florist that truly appreciates getting flowers... then you might want to consider if you like men at all.

But honestly, if my girlfriend sent me a dozen roses, with a teddy bear and over the top girly balloon, on Valetines Day at my work as a joke. I would find it very funny, extremely sexy, and fun and I would seriously appreciate the time and effort she put into it to make me laugh, feel happy and special.

[Screenwriter]

Flowers plural? Seems way over the top. Flowers are usually given to someone for a special occasion or event. If you don't know the man personally, and at a first date, that's fairly unlikely, I wouldn't give ANY kind of gift.

If you want to thank someone, send a card, very old school, or thank them after the date verbally, adding how much you enjoyed yourself. A text or email seems "underwhelming," so I'd avoid that too.

[Daniela1982]

It's not "Not ok". There is no penalty for it. It's just that men don't have vases to put them in, nor go all giddy when getting some. I think you would do better by paying for dinner instead of flowers. Or, a bottle of champagne for drinking with dinner.

[Avicenna]

I think that's a bit much for a first date, regardless of who's giving.

[Summeroflove]

It’s a kind gesture 💯

[DJB72]

My wife - fiancee at the time - sent me flowers for my 30th birthday.

That was our first fight.

The majority of men wouldn't know what to do with a bunch of flowers. We lack the soft furnishings gene. Similarly, I wouldn't recommend giving a girl power tools.

Guys tend to be mechanically minded, girls more intimately minded. Yes, it's a sweeping generalisation and I guarantee everyone knows guys who are florists and girls who do woodwork as a hobby or a job. It's also borne out by the research.

[Kaneki05]

Not at all that just shows the red flag of one not using their brain. As most people especially men don't look after flowers so it's a pointless gift of something that will die right away. Even women who proclaim to like flowers won't look after them.
So any person logically can tell u flowers are a bad gift mostly and especially given to a guy, unless you actually know he likes them and takes care of them.

[Leapfrog00]

It's nice to shake things up. I know I love girls that are spontaneous like that. I'd feel quite flattered and it would reassure me that she takes an interest in me.

I like when girls do nice things for me. One time a girl bought me a box of chocolates for Valentines day. It was a nice surprise.

[loveslongnails]

Giving a guy flowers because you like flowers is about the same as a guy giving you bowling ball because he likes bowling. LOL If he's never brought home flowers just because he wants them around the house, it's safe to figure he doesn't want them as a gift.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would be good with it. I have a vase that I put flowers in on a regular basis at my place as it spruces things up and gives a splash of color.

[strateguy632]

if a lady gave me flowers on first date i would red flag she not "all there" same as i wouldn't bring flowers to lady first date before i got to know her.

[molonski2]

Its certainly okey , but I wouldn't do it on first outing unless some special significance. For me , I love receiving flowers , but the best few bunches I ever received were sent anonymously and that was kind of fantastic , never forgot.

[Sour-rose]

Sure. But it's the same thing as giving me flowers- probably not gonna care or take care of them because flowers aren't my thing

[shades777]

I'll answer for myself and say if you gave me the complete package like vase included, then I'd keep it so whenever you came over you'd like it.
Like some of yhe other fellas, a tool of some kind would make more sense

[jshm2]

Flowers to anal to your attention, the choice of what you give on your first date is up to you.

But it would make thinks a bit silly on your end, if the date doesn't work out.

[Steelcore5280]

I've never heard of the concept of a woman giving flowers to men on a date, as I've always heard men are the ones who do that for women.

I can tell you, personally, that if you gave me a sandwich, burger, or a coffee, I'd love you for it.

[David_Jelly]

I think yes to both question. Yeah it’s a stereotype that men should do it for women, but men would love some flowers too! He may not say it, but buying a guy you are dating or in a relationship with some flowers is a really sweet gesture of love

[Randomly_rational]

It’s a sad stereotype that it’s only the men giving the flowers. We’re not used to getting them.

Except for some rarer accolades, most men receive flowers only on their funeral.

I think it would be better for everyone if that was changed. Maybe we wouldn't be so closed off emotionally.

[BonnieBoo]

Each to their own, if he likes flowers then of course it’s ok. If he doesn’t like flowers then it would come across as weird, he supposed to get you flowers 💐 not the other way around 😊😊

[BeMuse]

If a woman gave me flowers, I'd say what do I look like a garbage can? Throw it away yourself...

[Unit1]

Sure, why not. The message behind it (even if there is no message in the flower bouquet) is conveyed and that's what matters.

[laraWM]

Yes, you'll see if he's open minded. Really good to know early 🙂

[Luopio27]

Too much too soon.
I would be more impressed if she paid the bills in tje restaurant. I mean both bills.