Do you think it's okay to give a guy flowers as a gift on a first date?

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Or is buying flowers just a stereotype that men buy for women? Any opinions?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Do you think it's okay to give a guy flowers as a gift on a first date?

While most guys would appreciate the thought, the simple fact is that most men have no desire to receive flowers as a gift (yes, a few exceptions exist). Would you want a socket set for your birthday? Or a welding hood for your anniversary? Probably not, but again, a few women would be exceptions.

Again, let me repeat that we would appreciate the thought, but you can easily figure out a better gift. A cupcake, or some other dessert (hell, even a donut) would be welcomed by most men. Some guys might appreciate a cheap (non-precious metals) necklace or bracelet if you are looking for something he would keep - for example, I'm a DJ, and my girlfriend bought me this necklace, for less than $20, but I really like it:

Men buy women flowers because most women love receiving flowers (exceptions exist), but most men don't particularly enjoy receiving flowers.

Finally, I don't think it's necessary for anyone to give a gift on a first date. First dates should be about conversation. If you make it past the third date, then a small, inexpensive gift might be nice (though not expected).

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

I think if it was done as a gag gift with some humor and good-natured fun, that it would be totally a great story and a lot of fun.

But if you are being dead serious, then I say know it's not a great gift. You want to be dating a real man right, because if you got a guy that's not a florist that truly appreciates getting flowers... then you might want to consider if you like men at all.

But honestly, if my girlfriend sent me a dozen roses, with a teddy bear and over the top girly balloon, on Valetines Day at my work as a joke. I would find it very funny, extremely sexy, and fun and I would seriously appreciate the time and effort she put into it to make me laugh, feel happy and special.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Flowers plural? Seems way over the top. Flowers are usually given to someone for a special occasion or event. If you don't know the man personally, and at a first date, that's fairly unlikely, I wouldn't give ANY kind of gift.

If you want to thank someone, send a card, very old school, or thank them after the date verbally, adding how much you enjoyed yourself. A text or email seems "underwhelming," so I'd avoid that too.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

It's not "Not ok". There is no penalty for it. It's just that men don't have vases to put them in, nor go all giddy when getting some. I think you would do better by paying for dinner instead of flowers. Or, a bottle of champagne for drinking with dinner.

Avicenna · Answer

I think that's a bit much for a first date, regardless of who's giving.

Summeroflove · Answer

It’s a kind gesture 💯

DJB72 · Answer

My wife - fiancee at the time - sent me flowers for my 30th birthday.

That was our first fight.

The majority of men wouldn't know what to do with a bunch of flowers. We lack the soft furnishings gene. Similarly, I wouldn't recommend giving a girl power tools.

Guys tend to be mechanically minded, girls more intimately minded. Yes, it's a sweeping generalisation and I guarantee everyone knows guys who are florists and girls who do woodwork as a hobby or a job. It's also borne out by the research.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Not at all that just shows the red flag of one not using their brain. As most people especially men don't look after flowers so it's a pointless gift of something that will die right away. Even women who proclaim to like flowers won't look after them.
So any person logically can tell u flowers are a bad gift mostly and especially given to a guy, unless you actually know he likes them and takes care of them.

Leapfrog00 · Answer

It's nice to shake things up. I know I love girls that are spontaneous like that. I'd feel quite flattered and it would reassure me that she takes an interest in me.

I like when girls do nice things for me. One time a girl bought me a box of chocolates for Valentines day. It was a nice surprise.

loveslongnails · Answer

Giving a guy flowers because you like flowers is about the same as a guy giving you bowling ball because he likes bowling. LOL If he's never brought home flowers just because he wants them around the house, it's safe to figure he doesn't want them as a gift.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would be good with it. I have a vase that I put flowers in on a regular basis at my place as it spruces things up and gives a splash of color.

strateguy632 · Answer

if a lady gave me flowers on first date i would red flag she not "all there" same as i wouldn't bring flowers to lady first date before i got to know her.

BonnieBoo · Answer

Each to their own, if he likes flowers then of course it’s ok. If he doesn’t like flowers then it would come across as weird, he supposed to get you flowers 💐 not the other way around 😊😊

molonski2 · Answer

Its certainly okey , but I wouldn't do it on first outing unless some special significance. For me , I love receiving flowers , but the best few bunches I ever received were sent anonymously and that was kind of fantastic , never forgot.

Sour-rose · Answer

Sure. But it's the same thing as giving me flowers- probably not gonna care or take care of them because flowers aren't my thing

shades777 · Answer

I'll answer for myself and say if you gave me the complete package like vase included, then I'd keep it so whenever you came over you'd like it.
Like some of yhe other fellas, a tool of some kind would make more sense

jshm2 · Answer

Flowers to anal to your attention, the choice of what you give on your first date is up to you.  But it would make thinks a bit silly on your end, if the date doesn't work out.

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is not really a guy thing, but sure, why not.

David_Jelly · Answer

I think yes to both question. Yeah it’s a stereotype that men should do it for women, but men would love some flowers too! He may not say it, but buying a guy you are dating or in a relationship with some flowers is a really sweet gesture of love

Randomly_rational · Answer

It’s a sad stereotype that it’s only the men giving the flowers. We’re not used to getting them.

Except for some rarer accolades, most men receive flowers only on their funeral.

I think it would be better for everyone if that was changed. Maybe we wouldn't be so closed off emotionally.

BeMuse · Answer

If a woman gave me flowers, I'd say what do I look like a garbage can? Throw it away yourself...

Unit1 · Answer

Sure, why not. The message behind it (even if there is no message in the flower bouquet) is conveyed and that's what matters.

laraWM · Answer

Yes, you'll see if he's open minded. Really good to know early 🙂

Steelcore5280 · Answer

I've never heard of the concept of a woman giving flowers to men on a date, as I've always heard men are the ones who do that for women.

I can tell you, personally, that if you gave me a sandwich, burger, or a coffee, I'd love you for it.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I love receiving flowers but I wouldn't give them to a man. I would probably gift him a watch, perfume or something similar after a few dates. I believe men like something they will actually use since they're more practical and less emotional.

SunnyRS · Answer

No, It's ok to give flowers according to me, depending on the person whether he likes receiving them or not.  Like, I don't like flowers as a gift a plant that's more like it.

Andres77 · Answer

Most normal men won't appreciate the gift apart from having been given a gift. For me it's just something else to have to take care of and then have to clean up in a few days.

NathanDavis · Answer

my first thought would be... when, where, how... is it appropriate to throw them away, lol

Luopio27 · Answer

Too much too soon.  I would be more impressed if she paid the bills in tje restaurant. I mean both bills.

Wild_princess · Answer

Yaahh... why not... you can also buy flowers for guys i mean who don't like flowers 😂

Sparkie460 · Answer

It's a nice gesture but flowers are more for women. I've had a couple women buy me chocolate when we started dating

mb120101 · Answer

On a date no maybe if my girlfriend did it on Valentine’s day once id think it was cute

snowlight21 · Answer

Yes it is very good gesture and guys love flowers too.

devilish-cutie · Answer

i think most would find it a bit too awkward

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It would make me cry out of happiness if a girl bought me flowers.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

It was always well received. We should do it more often, I think.

Jackj · Answer

Is that a thing on a first date? Maybe I am too young to understand 😅. I would be like where is she supposed to put the flowers when we are meeting outside, just carry it the whole time or stuff it in a pouch?

EpicSnail · Answer

He can buy himself flowers Write his name in the sand

linka_pat307 · Answer

I wouldn't give him flowers, maybe something like a watch or something else

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not going to lie, it's a bit weird and unorthodox but it's not a bad thing if a girl were to do that in my opinion.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not necessarily a bad thing, but you need to understand in general most guys do not appreciate flowers like women do and we view them as a waste of money. But every guy is different.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

It’s OK, if no flowers are harmed. That means that they must be pulled with the roots, so they won’t die.

zagor · Answer

I wouldn't know what to do with them. I would want something (almost anything) else. Though I suppose I would appreciate the thought.

RingOfFire · Answer

I would not want a girl to give me flowers. Feels gay.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I think it would confuse most men.  I would take it for what it appears, a nice gesture. But yeah, it would still feel weird.

Venymal · Answer

No. A girl giving a guy flowers is just wrong.

Unknown29 · Answer

If my girl was asking this question, she’d already be dumped

007kingifrit · Answer

its kinda cute but he probably doesn't care the same way girls would

hbg84 · Answer

Guess what we would accept flowers if a girl showed up with them

Shamalien · Answer

Lol I would be so flustered I probably wouldn’t be able to speak

Guanfei · Answer

Any showing of affection is nice tbh. We rarely get any.

Twalli · Answer

Guys generally don't like flowers, they'll like the fact you got them a gift though.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys rarely gets flowers unless theyre dead. Get them flowers

Anonymous · Answer

That's like a Guy giving you a cheap Manly Gift that you would probably never want on a first date.

Anonymous · Answer

it's be weird guys are suppose to give women flowers not the other way around but being in this liberal world in 2023 i guess it would be ok

easybrezzybeautiful · Answer

I never heard of giving a guy flowers

LovingJo · Answer

Personally, I wouldn't.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Rather have a blowjob

sheenagwapa · Answer

no... i don't be hink the guy would like it

Anonymous · Answer

Sure? Why not I mean I don’t see anything wrong with that…

Adam1978 · Answer

Give them to chocolate instead.

TheMadLad · Answer

You sound like a girl with broad shoulders.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I suppose there's nothing wrong with it!

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I wouldn't need a gift tbh.

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