My girlfriend broke up with me because she wanted space and time to think. I need some really good advice.

[althetime]

Okay, please bare with me because this should make a lot of sense. I've been dating this girl for a year and 2 months. We were madly in love and I could tell. We were so happy together and had no problems and when we did we fixed them easily and simple. But sadly, out of no where, I wake up at about 12 in the morning and see she texted me saying "We need to talk" the four words no one wants to hear. So I was talking to her on the phone and she said, She just wants space and to think about things. And since I wasn't think and not being understanding .. I said stuff out of anger, since this was about the 5th time she broke up with me and so I was furious. I said stuff out of anger and said I regret this relationship .. She said she cried miserablly that whole day because of what I said. I'm really not like that, I love her to death I really do but I said something out of anger. I tried all the wrongs things though to fix it .. For a straight two weeks I tried to fix it, I did the wrong things, I came to her house with flowers, I kept bringin up the break up and etc. She told me a month before we broke up she liked her bestfriend, I can see how .. he liked her for a while and always tried to be there for her and she got pulled in by it. She told me she likes him but can't see herself in a relationship with him. She also said she can only see herself in a relation ship with me and how she tells me she can't stop loving me and caring about me, she also said she misses talking to me but she doesn't make an effort into talking to me, I keep coming to her which is bad .. I want to give her space and time but I can't handle it. I keep thinking if I wait she won't want me anymore .. And I'm scared on what to do. She says she wants to be with me but not now .. and how she can't date the person she likes. Love beats like anyday so it keeps changing my mind on what's going to happen .. I keep thinking shell come to me by what she tells me and than she keeps changing her mind. She also keeps saying how she doesn't want me out of her life and still wants to talk to me and come to her if I have any problems. She also said its hard seeing me at school and not talking to me sometimes. She goes down the hallways at my school holding hands with the guy she likes but they aren't dating. She says she can't do anything more than kiss a guy when they aren't dating, and I believe her cause she has respect. I want to know what I can do to get her back, Give her space? Let her think? I have so many questions right now and I need someones help fast!

1) Should I give her space and let her think until she talks to me?

2) How can I tell from what she said to me if she still wants me back? ( this is a big one I want to know )

3) Is this new guy she like just temporary?

Please everyone help me on this I've been trying to hard and strong to fix this, I really do love her and don't want to lose her as a girlfriend and my future

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UPDATE - I needed to add that we broke up in the beginning of September in 2009. I haven't slept or eaten anything since we broke up and its been 3 weeks of being broken up. It's just so hard, again, please give me advice I really need it!

[jusabarasida]

Overview.. You have been in a relationship for 2 years on and off 5 times.. and the 5th time was the last time.. and dude.. how can you not sleep or eat anything.. your gona go crazy.. I know what its like to lose months of sleep and health over a girl.. its happened to me before and I couldn't even solve it because she left the country.. so the issue had to resolve itself and I still have sleep problems so I always take tylenol pm. its a bad deal man...

1. When a girl say she wants space, just do it.. respect her wishes.. and the main important thing is... not to be bothered by that.. I know you like her a lot but when your all up in her business when she wants space, it just confuses her even more.. what you have to do is maintain your own schedule.. do what you need to do to continue living your life.. go to school. focus on work or your hobbies.. don't worry about her that much because in the end, you will be the only source for your happiness.. and once you understand that you are the only one responsible for your happiness, only then will you be able to deal with others in relationships.I

2. I'm starting to think she likes the other guy.. and she wants to give him a chance to see how it goes.. and if it works out, she might choose him but would still want to be best friends with you.. and I know most people might disagree.. but I hate the idea of "still being friends" after a break-up.. that's just stupid and doesn't make sense..its like saying "hey I want to stop having sex with you but everything else should be the same".. -_- she misses talking to you.. which means she missed your company.. and she needs some space to understand how much she really needs you.. so you have to let her be for now.. BUT at the same time, focus on your own things.. one good way to do that is to set some personal short term goals and work on them.. like getting a 6-pack or something that you are capable of to get your mind off of her.. it will help you. I guarantee it.

3. I think this new guys is temporary.. she wants a new friendship.. and new things to talk about.. that's it.. I know what its like.. when my girl had to leave I knew it was for the worse because there is no way of maintaining a relationship when we are 3000 times apart.. and I felt better after I met some new girls and hung out with them.. but mind you, I never got in a relationship with any of those girls.. they were just very close friends.. we even hugged and held hands.. drank together.. but never had a relationship. and it helped me a lot to keep my girl in the back of my mind and get my focus back to daily life routine. I just missed her company..

DONT let a girl f*** you up man.. she is one girl out of millions and this is one school out of 1000's of schools and colleges.. its simply not worth it.. so take care of yourself FIRST.. if you can't sleep, get help from your doctor, exercise daily, it helps you vent and get your health back.

Getting back your focus is the only way.

[jusabarasida]

3000 miles*

[Anonymous]

I dated a girl for about six months that I totally feel for. We got along great never fought but one night, I had much drink on me and then got a little jealous and then embrassesed her in front of her friends. because of that she broke up with me right there and then. for the first week I tried to do everything in my power to get her back and then I didn’t call her for a couple of weeks. we did email but she stated that I had embrassed her and that she would never put herself through this again and that was the only thing that broke us up. (during this time, I actually contacted a spell caster [e-mail] to help me put things together with his love spell and it helped me a lot After this spell was done I waited about 3 days and the next day she sent me a light hearted text in which I responded back to. we came back to together and for about a week now we are still together.

Shibu

[mochamix]

okay I know I will sound like a total b**ch but yea someone gotta give you this reality check

first: chill out , you really need to do so, because from what I'm reading your really obsessing over it

second: when a girl says she needs a space it means your a nice guy but just too nice and too smothering which is something we don't exactly like

third: if she "loves" you she's gonna fight for you and she won't have any feelings whatsoever for her best friend.

you wanna know what she's missing about you all the sweet stuff you do, the nice boyfriend you are but she's not missing YOU in person

what do you need to do now, as I told you chill out and if she wants space give her space, you know the saying if you love someone set them free if they come back they are yours... that's exactly what you need to do give her all the space she needs if she realized your her true love trust she will come back to you no matter what

she knows you want her back so if she wants you back she knows that she isn't gonna b rejected or anything so she would just tell you that she wants you back!

the new guy? I don't know about that really but as I said set her free may b she's not the one and you just don't realize that yet

please don't torture yourself for that, we are human sometimes we need this space to keep our sanity, but yea start eating and sleeping its not the end of your world trust me , and learn that if it doesn't kill you it should make you stronger and just pickier

i hope that helps eventho I was harsh but yea ...

[jusabarasida]

Yea I agree. not the end of your world.. couldn't fit it in my answer.. ran out of space.. loll

[althetime]

Thanks guys it helped more than what Iwas thinking and doing.

Should I completely leave her alone? can I not make small talk?

[mochamix]

Well may b an occasional hey what's up abut stop at this point please, because I feel bad for you, she seems like someone who wants to keep her options open to me, while your someone ready to settle in a relationship. anyway yea limit it to occasional what's up texts every 4-5 days apart (minimum)

[Martinasita]

Take time and space for you. Give yourself some perspective and examine what you wanna do and do it. Never fail to live life just because your life has been out of sorts. Roll with the punches, go with the flow and find yourself. If she’s worth it, when she sees that your a man that can rise above and appreciate what he has she will want to be a part of it. I’m walking a similar path at this very moment and I just snapped out of it, a little perspective, a game changer. As humans we are so easily wrapped completely up in someone else and we sell ourselves short. You can only be honest to who you are and owe no one else anything, any explanation or our energy, before our own selves. That is what seems to be working for me after 13 years of marriage.