Is she actually this busy or what?

[Ice_knight]

I've been with my girlfriend for two weeks officially. We dated and talked prior. It was pretty intense at first. We were practically obsessed with each other. After being intimate for the first time a couple weeks ago she asked if I was going to ghost her. I chuckled and said no. She started class the Monday after that. One day in the week she didn't tell me she couldn't talk due to being busy until I messaged her after she missed our time. Things were cool and we texted about it a bit. Things have been alright and decent. She hasn't messaged a lot but we have had warm and good conversations. Quality over quantity. However, for the last three days, she hasn't texted me good morning. This is unusual for her. One day she said sorry she was walking into work seeing it. Yesterday she said I am going to say a late good morning, good morning. After I just checked in with her later in the day. I checked in by saying I was thinking about her basically and hoped her day was going well. Today I haven't heard from her all day. Last night we were joking, flirting, and talking about us finally being able to stay over night with each other Saturday, and she was genuinely excited for it. I just can't see that even busy she couldn't send a small something. I just don't know how to take any of this right now. She's warm and everything on the phone. Talking about future plans and everything. However, she just doesn't show up during the day half the time. Maybe I am looking at this wrong I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Consider your expectations of her, she just started school and has to adjust to a strenuous and new routine.

I can imagine from her perspective, she has work, school and a boyfriend to juggle. Consider that with those 3 things she doesn't have room for much else (friendships, relaxation, hobbies) and yet she still makes time for you.

[Ice_knight]

By ignoring me and missing scheduled calls?

[Opinion Owner]

Routine good morning, scheduled calls and required cancelation notices. Looking at this from afar, its like a business relationship. All I'm saying is that if scheduling isn't working just ask her to call whenever she's free

[Ice_knight]

She was managing to do all of this just fine. I do it just fine even when I am busy. I understand we are human and not perfect. A pattern of not doing simple small things is telling.

[Ice_knight]

We have had a routine of calling eachother when she was free? Not too sure what kind of relationships you been in but consistency is a must,. especially early on. She was and now she's consistently not showing up fully. She isn't even giving me any explanation at all.

[Opinion Owner]

No, you're right. I wish my relationships were more like yours.

[Ice_knight]

You'd rather them not show up fully? Doesn't really sound like a relationship to me. I don't think I am asking much. People who care about their so make time. Biggest reason I am not super upset or mad is because it seems she's trying to but there's still a lack of it. Why was it easy for her to several days ago but now it isn't. I just want to understand more than anything. Thus me saying she hasn't communicated with me. Also, yeah I kind of expect if you agree to call at a set time you would let someone know you can't actually do it due to being busy.

[Opinion Owner]

You have an expectation of what a good relationship is. Every person on the planet has a relationship that is a unique blend of eachothers values. If she doesn't meet your expectations or value what you value, then that miss match is gonna cause friction. But that doesn't make either of you bad people. You said "why is it easy for her" . Which is why I'm trying to speculate on her point of view.

[Ice_knight]

I mean yeah. However, it is clear to me now that she has been slowly drifting for some reason. There was a turning point but who knows when or why really. She won't talk to me about it so 🤷

[Anonymous]

Just ask her what's keeping her so busy half the day.