A colleague cancelled a date two days before and after that she's nicer than before?

[Anonymous]

she canceled and I was discomforted. the day established for the meeting, however, she was extremely nice to me

It's obvious, because she doesn't want to be too rude

She wants to keep a door open

She has no interest anyway

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a pretty weird situation, bro. Your colleague canceling a date with you at the last minute, and then suddenly being super nice to you afterwards - that's kinda sketchy.

It could be that she's just trying to smooth things over and make it less awkward after canceling on you. Some people do that, they feel bad so they try to overcompensate by being extra nice. But it could also mean she's got other motives.

My advice would be to just play it cool for now. Don't read too much into the niceness, but also don't let your guard down completely. Keep things professional at work, and if she brings up the canceled date again, be honest about how it made you feel.

At the end of the day, you gotta protect yourself, you know? If she keeps acting shady or you get the sense she's not being genuine, then you might want to reconsider getting involved with her outside of work. Workplace relationships can get messy real quick.

Just keep an eye on it for now, but don't stress too much. Play it by ear and see if her behavior evens out over time. Hopefully it's just her trying to make amends, but if it keeps being weird, you might need to set some boundaries. Trust your gut, bro.

[Anonymous]

So what is the question?