Have you ever had to reject someone romantically or sexually?

[Summeroflove]

It happens sometimes someone we aren’t attracted to approaches us. Nothing against them as a human being but yeah ain’t going on a date or sleeping with you. Also if you’re taken and loyal.

[DishLady]

Yes. I'm just not going to waste some guy's time and energy if I'm not attracted to them. I'll make the "we can be friends" point very clear pretty much before they put cash down for a beverage or snack. I'll take their number and put a note of their profession so we can possibly have friendly chats down the line.

It's a "soft landing" rejection bc I sincerely WOULD like to be their friend and will leave the choice to them to connect later as friends in the future (and also leaving them time and space in the moment to find someone at the venue who IS interested in something romantic with them).

[CleverGemGirl]

It's not personal. But, absolutely. I will never date or have relations with someone I'm not attracted to.

Men and women think quite differently when it comes to this subject. Many (perhaps most imho) men will sleep with a woman who does not interested them & just never call her again.

Most women (there are some exceptions who will do the opposite) refuse to date or have sex especially with any guy who does not appeal to us.

It doesn't mean there's 'something wrong' with guy. It just means he does not corresponding to our personal taste.

[Summeroflove]

Exactly it’s not rejection as a human being. There are women I like and respect very well. But I would never want to date or kiss. Doesn’t mean I’m rejecting her as a person or that someone else wouldn’t pick her

[Summeroflove]

Same as there is women I would pick most men wouldn’t

[Finchie40]

Yes both , but I will say, I am not rude or disrespectful about it , like most people are. I will only get rude or disrespectful if they don’t take no for an answer. I always picture myself when a girl approaches me and think how I would feel if she was rude and disrespectful to me right from the beginning, we don’t walk around with signs flashing above our heads saying what we are into , or what are relationship status is , So I despise people that are rude from the beginning because there is no reason for it.

[RHK36]

Yup, it happens. A few times of ending something before physical to avoid a nastier break up. Just seems like a jerky move to smash and then end it.

[Rei13]

Yeah a bunch of times, especially when I was in my early twenties. It typically happened when I was single and I swear was the worst when I got out of relationships. It started happening again in my thirties but I’m in a relationship and the guys who tried knew that.

[Genie23]

I've said no to many and I'm sure almost everyone has said no at some point even if they feel bad about it as the person seems nice

[Chazmatazz269]

More times than makes sense for a guy like me. Ell oh ell!

[PeachyPie93]

Yes.. I just rejected a guy recently who I only talked to for two weeks.. and he started calling me a bunch of names, like I'm a hag, a bitch, a buffalo lol Then a week later he was messaging me again saying he is sorry, I'm so pretty and he can't stop thinking about me. I just ignore him but I think it's funny lol..

[Batsy01010101]

This kind of hits close to me because somebody i love had a bunch of hateful trolls call her every foul name from fat to ugly to a bad mom. She was crying for 8 hours. Me i spent the day thr entire day comforting her and reassuring her that she's still beautiful both inside and out and reassuring her she's not a bad mom but an amazing and wonderful mom and human being. And reassured her she wasn't fat and definitely not ugly. I was so desperate to snap her out of her desperate state. I love her and only want the best for her. She means the world to me and i love her with alk my heart and soul. I even told her to look in the mirror and tell me 3 things she loves about herself a classic she told me a long time ago and still tells others to this very day. I just didn't want to see her in any pain which was why i did everything i could to try to reassure her everything those mean people said wasn't true. My heart really belongs to her

[PeachyPie93]

@Batsy01010101 l would never cry from the bs that losers on the Internet say.. but Dont be a simp, she'll never date you if you act like that :/

[Summeroflove]

Well he can say sorry all day. I wouldn’t ever take someone back who called me names like that at least I sure hope I never would

[Summeroflove]

There is a difference between being a SIMP and being there for someone you genuinely care about.

I would defend a woman or man’s honor who was being attacked wrongly. But the difference is that some people do is disingenuously because they’re wanting something from someone maybe sex maybe something else.

Same as there are people who would defend my honor if I was in the right. But if I was wrong would also just tell me that I was wrong for what I did.

That’s the kind of people I want to be around. Isn’t people who would blindly defend me if I was wrong. But I also know we got
One another’s backs

[PeachyPie93]

I haven't talked to him since he said that stuff, plus we were never dating so there is no taking anyone back. I just haven't blocked him because I think its funny to see how long he will keep trying to contact me while being ignored.

Yeah but he seems to really love her but he is in the friend position.. that's why I called him a simp because he is being way too caring for a person who isn't dating them and she probably is just using him as a shoulder to cry on.

[Batsy01010101]

Did you even read what i wrote or are you just running your mouth with zero reading comprehension abilities

[Batsy01010101]

Yes i comforted her no not looking for sex from her yes i jerk my 8+" to her and orgasm hard to her but no not looking for sex from her nor would i ever ask her for sex. It's called having morals and being a gentleman

[PeachyPie93]

@Batsy01010101 LOL jerking your 5" to someone you "pretend" to be friends with is not being a gentleman nor do you have morals.. but if you like being the shoulder to cry on then stay doing what you are doing since you don't have a problem with it.

[Batsy01010101]

Actually it's 8+ and I'm not pretending

[Batsy01010101]

The fact i love her snd care about her with my whole heart should tell you why i stood by her when she needed comforting

[Batsy01010101]

Yeah i jerkoff to her but i also love her. Been in love with her for over a year now. I could of easily walked away but my heart couldn't

[alli-112]

Yup, usually friends. It can be rough watching someone you felt (platonically) close with pull away after.

[Summeroflove]

It’s sad because people can have feelings that are one sided. It’s natural it happens but it’s sad to see someone you truly care about pull away

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you discover this after being with someone. It didn't jell. Happened to me once. I made a careless choice. Didn't know the person well. Slows you down and makes you think more carefully.

[Summeroflove]

Yep.

[Anonymous]

Quite a few times. A lot of nice guys, they try to be your friend knowing you have a man and think you will sleep with them just because, even going as far as trying to manipulate you.

[Summeroflove]

Those aren’t nice guys. Genuinely nice guys aren’t just looking for sex and you’ll see fake nice guys true colors come out as soon as you don’t give them what they want.

As if they’re entitled to it

[Opinion Owner]

Usually they claim to not be like other guys.

[Tarifa]

I've been in both situations. Mutual attraction and compatibilty are important. If these are lacking, no romance will ever develop.

[TsundereMatrix]

So many times that I can’t even count them. I think most people deal with more rejection than dates.

[SotiCoto]

Not often, but a few times... and I'm usually rather harsh about it since the sorts of people actually willing to hit on me were always the very lowest of dregs.

[exitseven]

Yes, but i always tried to be nice and respectful about it.

[Shiprex]

At school this girl made my life hell because she had the hots for me from the first moment. 2 years of harassment that got my things stolen and vandalised an unwarranted reputation that I was hers and off limits.

[Bobabuba]

Yes, but then I changed my mind hours later and had sex with him.

[mrkdvsn]

Yes, only one person. Upon our scheduled meeting at a restaurant, I was really turned off by her overall physical appearance

[NathanDavis]

I don't reject people... I just kindly inform them and make them aware that I don't feel the same way... or I'm already taken

[zagor]

I basically ignored that they were showing interest and continued to act normally towards them, rather than outright rejecting them. Much easier to do for guys I suppose.

[LightingBugg]

I have just to end up having sex with him again.

[chrissykerdock]

mostly for having small penises

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah. In retrospect, I was being a bit self-absorbed. There were a handful of times I should’ve just gone for it or let it happen

[Dorothy90]

They was trying to hard.

[Summeroflove]

Well and that’s the thing. When someone’s trying too hard chances of them being genuine is low. When someone’s trying to be too good to be true chances are they probably are.

As well as people who are only wanting to sleep with someone

[Dorothy90]

Plus I saw through them I’m able to read people.

[Summeroflove]

That’s a good gift to have. A lot of people think they can read people and can’t.

I think deep down many people can read people. They just don’t want to see it. Especially when it feels so good at least in the beginning

[Summeroflove]

Being able to read people will piss them off too when you call them out

[spartan55]

Na, I can't keep up chicks off me.

[Nora2004_]

Yes they were unhygienic. I’m not down with that.

[jazzy34]

Same here. A guy who asked me once and you could smell him from a mile away. 🤢

[Nora2004_]

For me it was a woman.

[Summeroflove]

Most people have the means of taking care of their personal hygiene they just choose not to.

[Jennz6]

Yes, it happens all the time

[fish5505_87]

Yes, I think many of us have?

[lyrem04]

Yes almost always sadly

[hello4433]

You don't like them or cause you aren't into hookups?

[Nikki1989]

Yes to both.

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Yeah, couple of times.

[Anonymous]

Nope, no girl ever wanted me.

[alice55]

Many Time

[MannMitAntworten]

On a few occasions, yes.

[soe11]

• No never

[jazzy34]

Absolutely.

[beenherebefore]

So many times.

[dudeinohio]

I have.

[TwoToTooTutu2]

Yeah a few times.

[hello4433]

Yes, done that

[SamWinchester058]

Yes.